We're going to visit family in the US and I have a dilemma. My husband loves his brother and wants to spend 3-4 days at his house. The problem is that my sister-in-law and I don't really get along (to be more accurate, she doesn't like me)! While I would never want to keep my husband from seeing his brother, I only want to stay with them for 1-2 days. I do have other family in the area and he has suggested that I stay for only 2 days (telling them I have other family to see) and he will stay for the remaining time without me. My concern with this is that my sister-in-law is very sensitive to people not wanting to stay at her house because it is small (they don't have a lot of money). We used to live near them and she had an issue everytime our husband's parents would come up and insist on staying at my house because they said it was bigger and "nicer." What should I do? I don't want to make matters worse by offending her, but I also don't want to have to spend 3-4 days with them. HELP!
2006-10-06 01:03:41 · 9 answers · asked by ErnieBert 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
There is no right or wrong answer here. She hates you, she's gonna be pissed off with you regardless of how long you stay. Why doesn't your husband and his brother go away for a couple of days, maybe a fishing trip? Then you are free to visit your family and all meet back at the tiny house later on. Don't give in and stay with them for the whole time, its your vacation too.
2006-10-06 01:08:08 · answer #1 · answered by Emma W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What about if you let them know in advance that you are going to your sisters first, and meet your husband there after your visit? Tell them its so you husband and his brother can spend some time alone together catching up and you can spend some time alone with your family as well. Its her problem if she has hang ups over her house, you shouldnt let it bother you. Visit your famiy first and meet up with your husband after a couple of days.
2006-10-06 01:14:12 · answer #2 · answered by having_a_blonde_day_lol 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
feels like he's basically too in touch together with his relatives. You the two (as a pair) want time on my own (as a pair). perhaps you may attempt to shrink the visits/sleep overs to 2 nights each and every week, additionally leaving the different weekend open in basic terms for the two considered one of you. no matter who sleeps over at your residing house, it may in basic terms ensue 2 nights each and every week. it may be much less complicated to make it an analogous 2 nights each and every week.
2016-10-15 21:46:26 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fake an illness and go straight to your own family and let your husband go hang out with his brother.
2006-10-06 01:31:45 · answer #4 · answered by Label Lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she hates you and you don't seem overly keen on her I don't really understand why it matters if she is offended by your actions. Be honest with her, tell her you feel her dislike and you feel going to see your own relatives would be best for everyone.
2006-10-06 04:37:59 · answer #5 · answered by ffiondove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your husbands idea is a good one - she can deal with it.
2006-10-06 01:09:44 · answer #6 · answered by Felidae 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i detect a hint of snobbery from your post...I'm sure your sister in law is not looking forward to you either!
2006-10-06 01:07:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can please some of the ppl All of the time, or all of the ppl some of the time, but your never going to please all of the ppl all of the time, so give it up, and go with what you feel right doing.
2006-10-06 01:19:40 · answer #8 · answered by slowridetohell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
" Brotherly love " silly inlaw squables are not as important as you would like to have us believe..................
2006-10-06 01:07:12 · answer #9 · answered by pat.rob00 Chef U.K. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋