im a 23 year old girl and i fell in love with a guy and at first i just loved him without thinking about sex at all but now after one year i cant stop thinking about his sexuality (we didnt have sex yet)..so im worry that now im in lust,not love...how can i be sure about my feeling..if its just passion?
2006-10-06 00:54:53 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think there is a bigger issue here. You are 23, you've been in love with this guy for a year, and you haven't had sex yet? You should address one problem at a time.
2006-10-06 01:04:59 · answer #1 · answered by Joe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U r in love with the guy.....if you can go a year and not have sex with him at all then there is something there more than lust. You are looking at him different now because you have settled into your relationship with this guy. The next move is sex....when it happens with him it will be awsome.
2006-10-06 08:00:12 · answer #2 · answered by bammbamm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're IN LOVE! Lust is a nervousness, a feeling of having to always look your best, worrying that you may say something that he may find goofy . . . . when you're in love, you are totally comfortable being around him, you have seen him at his worst (perhaps when he's just woken up), and he's seen you at your worst and neither of you care . . . .you still think that he's attractive, etc. You are not shy about telling him that you like to eat pancakes for dinner and steak for breakfast (silly little quirks that you my have but are too shy to tell someone you're in lust with for fear they may no longer like you).
What you're feeling now is a desire to further consumate the relationship you have into something even greater. You are now wanting to let your guard down further, to trust him more, and you're seeing the physical aspects of him that perhaps were blurred at first by his intellect, his manners, the way he cared for you, etc.
I think YOU ARE IN LOVE! And remember, being in love is more passionate than being in lust. What I said earlier, the communication that you two have fostered and developed will translate well into a wonderful physical relationship as you can tell each other what you like, don't like, you don't have to be embarrassed, etc.
Congrats! It's always nice to hear about someone falling in love!!
2006-10-06 08:02:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is putting the other pesrsons happiness first. You can trust your other person and you don't need sex to make your relationship work. Do you trust this guy? If he broke up with your because he wasn't happy, would you want him to break up with you because you want him to be happy? If the answers to these questions then you deffently love him, if they are no they it's just lust.
2006-10-06 08:03:48 · answer #4 · answered by babybeast 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see it as you're lusting for him. To some extent, it's normal, but you have to kkep it in check. Sex, as I beleive it, shouldn't come before marriage. Maintain your love for him and forget about sex (at least for now).
Let your love remain for him, without sex, coming in between. Try to keep your thoughts about sex in check. Because if you don't they control you and you might misbehave(or the effects of your thoughts might show) before him
2006-10-06 08:09:17 · answer #5 · answered by redeemedmikel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have't had sex, then it's tough to say. I'd suggest that if you're in love, you'd miss him, even just a twinge, almost every second you're apart. Also, I'd say if you (and I mean especially him) two are still together after a year (and you're both in your 20's?) w/out sex, you've probably got the real thing. Enjoy it.
2006-10-06 07:59:32 · answer #6 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is knowing that you put the other person's needs above your own. Lust it just wanting them with out reguard to how they feel. I think your just in lust.
2006-10-06 07:58:36 · answer #7 · answered by gizbit76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sleep with him ,,, if you hate the sex and still want to be with him then it's love. if you can walk away after then it was lust
2006-10-06 07:58:13 · answer #8 · answered by Rooster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like love. after a year and no sex you can be fairly sure.your feelings now are only natural
2006-10-06 08:23:51 · answer #9 · answered by bob a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id rather say its a lust, coz if u really love him ur not going to thnk of anything...except to be w/ him each and evryday.
2006-10-06 08:09:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋