i want to be born again but i dont know how? iam in a relationship with a guy who wants sex a lot ,i love him but i am not married so iam obviously sinning .if i tell him that i cant do this anymore ,he gets mad .i am willing to live him but how do i stop thinking of him and at the same time be true to God. how do i maintain a relationship with the God without being tempted to do wrong things again,i need help .please i dont want to be a sinner i want to live a christian life but how do i do that and maintain that.i want to be adoer of the word and not just a listener.i appriciate any answers.
2006-10-06 00:49:06 · 42 answers · asked by geebabe 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
marry him and you wont be sinning
2006-10-06 00:50:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
First of all, you are doing the right thing. God has challenged you on your relationship, and you have made the decision to be obedient, even though it's hard.
My friend married a non christian, but before they got married, after she became a christian, they had separate bedrooms and he obviously respected her decision.
Leaving your partner is going to be hard. Is there a church you belong to who will support you through your decision?
I'm trying to think what I would do in your place, and I would probably leave. The thing to focus on is that God sees your heart, and will bless you for the sacrifice you make.
2006-10-06 01:48:12 · answer #2 · answered by good tree 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look I am not a Christian and so my hang ups are not around sex. I tend to feel guilty about food... Anyway it is up to you whether you want sex or not, I would not see it as 'obviously' a sin for if this were the case then we would have died out long before now. You are an adult, I hope, and so should be mature enough to come to your own conclusions. However, if you do not want sex, then tell the fellow and if he loves you then he will respect you. If he cannot respect your faith and stance on sex before marriage or even your stance on sex after marriage for that matter, then he is simply not good enough for you. As they say in those spirit crushing American television shows: kick him to the cirb.
2006-10-06 00:55:54 · answer #3 · answered by Rabbi Yohanneh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie:
It is SO hard in these days and times to be pure when sex is thrown at us from every corner the media TV is saturated with sex mostly with people you are unmarried and the radio is filled with inferences about sex.
My husband and I waited until we were married and it was HARD let me tell you, We knew each other about 4 years.
Sex is a gift from God and should be treated with respect and it is best to wait until you are married. It is hard and I don't minimize what you are going through. Is there a sister in the Lord who is a little older that you can talk to?
I am praying for you.
2006-10-06 03:10:30 · answer #4 · answered by encourager4God 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been caught in two worlds. The body is willing to have sex but the spirit is weak to allow it to happen. It's absolutely up to you to decide because you have the freedom to choose. As a christian, I will suggest that you take what your conscience is telling you which I believe to be born again or to seek christian life to be in a position to understand marital obligations. Roman Catholic understanding is that it is a sacrament or a covenant that has to be blessed for the sole purpose to produce children.
I would recommend, that, you seek prayers or specialists advice but above all take time to understand yourself as a person before you decide to bring somebody into your life, very important. Sex at this stage is associated with emotions and its outcomes may have short-term outcomes if not regrets.
2006-10-06 01:35:41 · answer #5 · answered by TONY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you say 'born again' i am presuming that you are from a Christian background.The bible says that you should abstain from sex until you are married. Doe's your boyfriend know that you want to be born again? If he doe's then he should be compassionate with you and stop pressuring you for sex, if he cares for you then he will respect your wishes. You need to pray, as they say god answers your prayers. Maybe you need time on your own initially so that you can sort your head out, and where your priorities really lie.
2006-10-06 00:57:36 · answer #6 · answered by classychick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a "born again" christian, you have significant freedom to decide for yourself what moral framework you wish to follow.
A sin is an action that causes harm, to yourself, to others, to society, to the World.
For each action, you must assess how much harm it will do, and how much harm would happen if you didn't do it. Then choose the route with the least harm.
By suddenly refusing to have sex with your boyfriend, you are betraying his trust, changing the rules of your relationship and driving him away. Isn't that harm?
2006-10-06 01:42:32 · answer #7 · answered by Nigel G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you addicted to sex? Are you addicted to this man or the relationship, for you are showing very little commitment to God.
I was Baptized and my then fiance persuade me to sleep with him. Gosh how awful I felt I had sinned a great sin, not just a lie but a whopper of a sin. So in the end he didn't understand and we split up. I am now with a wonderfull husband.
2006-10-06 01:26:41 · answer #8 · answered by sinkcat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are human and we are an animal that likes to have sex. there is nothing wrong with sex even if you are not married. Do take care of yourself and do what you can to protect you from sexually transmitted diseases.
Do not get so hung up in the religious teachings. You only have one life and you will not have another. Enjoy this one as much as you can.
Religion and religious beliefs are only set by man to control man.
2006-10-06 01:02:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage would ease your conscience. But you have to think about your relationship in general. If you change to become born again will this relationship work? Will he get mad at any other restrictions that come up because of your faith. Just remember the relationship and your faith should be able to exist together with little conflict. Think about it .
2006-10-06 00:54:28 · answer #10 · answered by Gone fishin' 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be born again all you have to do is confess with your mouth to god that you are a sinner and believe in your heart that jesus died for your sins and that he was resurrected into heaven.Also say that you want to be saved from those sins. After doing that in prayer then you are born again.In the bible, read romans chapter 10 verses 9-11. I will walk you through everything if you need me to.We are saved/born again by faith in jesus christ. Just BELIEVE.
2006-10-07 01:46:06 · answer #11 · answered by malenymph69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋