My daughter's class has 25 students. She feels intimidated by the bigger children. Had a meeting with the teacher. She insists that our daughter CAN do her work. The work they do in class is too fast for her. She is intelligent but slow because she is small. She is being called 'Baby'. As parents we are devastated and don't know how to help our child to boost her confidence.How do we cope as parents? Had meteing with the teacher and she says that our child has to do the work. Our daughter was literrally shaking and tearful at this interview. Why should a 5 year old child be traumatised like this? Please help us to cope with this aweful problem. we give a lot of love and affection to our children.Older daughter is 8. They sleep soundly, at least 10 hours a night. Please help us with your suggestions. If you were asmall child how did you cope? If you have 'small' children, how do you manage? thank you.
2006-10-06 00:14:36 · 8 answers · asked by Kevin 1 in Education & Reference ➔ Preschool
by small, i assume you mean short. I do not think that the smallness of your sughter is related here. I believe she is probably a little shy. She is a tad younger than her classmates, and she may feel intimidated by this. But do not back down. Give her plaenty of reassurance. Maybe bring one over, and play with both of them, and maybe, just maybe she'll make a new friend. Young shy children break out of their shells easier if they have even one good friend. Also don't let her hear you blaming it on her being small, because it lowers their self esteem. I always used to hate being small, but eventually i realized everyone is different, and oh well.
2006-10-07 14:20:43 · answer #1 · answered by plink 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, you said she is "intelligent but slow because she is small". Intelligence is intelligence whether it is in a small child or a large child.
Second, work on building her self-esteem. Discuss the reasons being small can be a good thing. Come up with appropriate but not rude responses to being called "Baby".
Third, review with her at home everyday after school. Reinforce what she has learned that day. Your daughter does have to do the work. However, the "work" for a 4/5 year old should not be too hard.
From what I can tell, the teacher should be more helpful. If you can't get more help from her, consider putting your daughter in a different class. She may just need a change of enviroment to get her on track.
Good luck! Remember to stay positive no matter what!
2006-10-06 06:03:49 · answer #2 · answered by sexy_lil_butterfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I myself was very "small" in school because I too was told to start at four years old. I was also called small and baby by some of the students. Sit down and talk to her like my mother did. Tell her that it doesn't matter what other people say and that some very important people started out small like her (for example, some presidents or maybe your self). If her confidence is still low think about enrolling her into a martial art. It would give her great confidence and help her feel good about herself.
2006-10-09 15:35:41 · answer #3 · answered by atagurl101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are anxious about this and keep bringing it up then your daughter is going to anxious. You are not doing her any favours.
Explain to her that she has to go to school but it will get better. Find out from her teacher any positive things she has achieved during the day and sit her down and discuss it, she will gradually learn that school can be a fun place. Do this instead of focusing on the negative and you will notice the difference! If the teacher insists she can do her work then she can do it. The teacher won't lie, a child will say these things if they think their parent will stop them going to school. Please try not to worry!
2006-10-06 06:28:26 · answer #4 · answered by Serenity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like there are several issues here. Is the fact she can't do her work related to her size or something else (i.e., cognitive issues). If what she has is a size complex, well, she will probably grow, and things will probably get better: not all kids develop at the same time. I would suggest finding some activity that promotes her self esteem. Heck, send her to Judo or Aikido classes. She'll be overly confident in no time.
2006-10-06 00:23:38 · answer #5 · answered by angrysandwichguy1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
help your daughter by volunteering in her class
but first sit down with her and really listen to her fears then without her present meet with her teacher if her teacher is a problem go over her head but do it not in an aggressive manner but as a concerned parent
sit in her class for a few days as a support movement to give her the extra support she needs
invite a few of her classmates over for her to have friends when she goes to class
here are a few to start with
2006-10-07 16:29:28 · answer #6 · answered by ladyqueenbeeee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have friends with young babies allow her to play with them and interact then suggest that maybe she get a para since she is going at a slower pace a para will also help with the shyness problem.
2006-10-06 06:43:11 · answer #7 · answered by LEAH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel she is not ready take her out and wait a year to send her back
I was 4 when I started kindergarten and had never gone to preschool...but no one ever called me baby or anything like that so I did fine....but, each child is different and if she's not ready pull her out
2006-10-06 00:23:43 · answer #8 · answered by GD-Fan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋