My boyfriend told me that he had doubts about us living together although the movers were scheduled to pick up my stuff. When I said that I tried to get them to move into storage, he acted surprised. Then he changed the subject. We talked about normal things and he asked what I was doing this weekend. I jokingly said, "coming to see you" and he said okay. We then talked about other stuff, but avoided the subject of moving in. He said he would call the next day, but he didn't. I know he's busy but what is going on with him? Is this how guys operate?
2006-10-06 00:03:42 · 13 answers · asked by torn 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well I think he told you at the wrong time but maybe the warnings were there and you just didnt see them. Dont move in. I know this might be hard trying to find some where else to live at this short notice. I had the same thing happen to me except we were both moving out of our apartments my truck was at the door and I over heard him on his cell phone. I still moved into the place without him. He had the nerve to be upset. I kindly when to the rental office and had his name removed from the lease. I made sure I had found something I could afford alone. His action changed the relationship from that point. Give him some time alone dont call him let him see what he is missing.I am sure your upset that he couldnt talk things over with you. Then for him not to call isnt making him look like he wants to be with you at all. After what he did he needs to find the time out of his day to call you. He knows your are hurting there is no excuse. He is avoiding the real issue.
2006-10-06 00:29:43 · answer #1 · answered by justturning40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly yes... it's a commentment issue, guys are weird. My own HUSBAND was like this after we got married. Turns out he told me he had allways lived by himself and was afraid he would ruin our relationship because he wouldn't do the right things once we lived together. I packed my own stuff up and moved in with him and everything has been give and take pretty much perfect.
2006-10-06 07:09:03 · answer #2 · answered by babyj2524 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fear of commitment is what I think is his problem. He does care about you maybe he thinks that by having you move in with him means that he is going to lose his "freedom". You are going to have to talk to him and find out exactly what he wants from you and where you stand with him. He may not be ready for the "next move" in your relationship. You need to talk to him. I am sure all will work out.
2006-10-06 07:14:30 · answer #3 · answered by bammbamm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, this is not how guys operate, this is how immature morons operate. Keeping you dangling like this when the issue is whether or not to move all your worldly belongings is worse than rude. Lose him.
2006-10-06 07:07:43 · answer #4 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah most of them operate this way - casually !
Please ask him if he is serious enough and talk ! Thats the keyword! Tell him how much this relationship means to you and tell him that its better you both talk about it ... and ask him to be frank and tell him that you would understand - have this maturity before it gets too late and very hurting !
All the best !!
2006-10-06 07:07:34 · answer #5 · answered by Beautiful Snowwhite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but its oh sooooooooo crystal clear. He ain't that into you at all. Just don't call, give him space and he might come back, if he does not then he ain't yours. Hope yu are strong enough to do that. he is commitment-phobic I think.
Good luck
2006-10-06 07:11:44 · answer #6 · answered by Bootilicious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He freaked out, he doesn't want to live with you, maybe doesn't even want to be with you now....It's harsh, but it was better for him to do this now, than to move in with you and have you getting cozy, then dump you.
2006-10-06 07:07:32 · answer #7 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't move in and give the guy what he wants for free. Ask him what his intentions are.
2006-10-06 07:10:20 · answer #8 · answered by Answers1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's so confused, let him get a hang of the things happening around him. just directly ask him what he wants, maybe he's confused to let you in or not. good luck
2006-10-06 07:08:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, he freaked out, knowing that u r going to be all around him day n nite!!! And, yes, that's how guys operate. I dunno what's wrong with their upgrade. Probably you should buy him an upgrade.would be a good idea.Dun u think, u need to upgrade him.
2006-10-06 07:10:06 · answer #10 · answered by Aii29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋