to find a date let alone meet any body ,do ya'll think maby its because im a single father;and in true reallity nobody wants a middle aged single father of 1?
2006-10-05 23:54:25 · 36 answers · asked by rick y 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You just havent found the right person yet......stop looking, and they will find you!
2006-10-06 01:35:32 · answer #1 · answered by Kelly H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going to be brutally honest with you.
I don't think it's your age. I think it's mostly to do with you being a parent, and that fact that there are a lot of very self-absorbed women out there.
One of my dearest friends was divorced in his early 20s, and had joint custody with his former wife. His ex-wife was such a mess that by the time he entered his 30s, he was a single father to two sons. He had the very same problem you are having. He felt horrible, and sometimes still does, because of the amount of rejection he has received, and he is puzzled by it. He's a great guy in every way, but the fact is that a lot of women in the 25-35 age group are just a little bit too into themselves to contemplate dating a man whose first priority must be his child. And that's the reality of your situation, I would bet, as well. So many women act like girls far longer than they should, and they really want to be treated like princesses, and be a man's sole focus of attention, so they cannot contemplate dating a man who has serious obligations to someone else.
The thing that's ridiculous about that, naturally, is that a man who is a good single father is excellent marriage material, and any woman who has her head screwed on right will realize that. Being a single parent means he's steady, reliable, and caring. A man who is a single parent isn't going to go off to the strip clubs with his buddies and leave you at home, fuming. But a lot of women just can't see beyond the tips of their powdered noses to realize that.
The good news is that you are getting a little older, and so are the women who are around your age. Please just try to hang in there, because by about 40, you start to get women who are serious, and who are really grown up, and who aren't so darned concerned about being treated like a princess. You will start meeting women who like the fact that you are a single father, and embrace it, rather than running from it. They will recognize that a widower who is raising his child alone is a good catch.
So try to hang in there. There are plenty of good women out there. You just need to either find them, or put yourself out there so they can find you. And stay away from the really young ones, please, because they are just guaranteed to break your heart.
I wish you the best.
2006-10-06 00:12:26 · answer #2 · answered by Bronwen 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you know you may be right, but the thing is you might not be ready. are you ready to date and pursue a relationship? if your child is 1 i'm guessing your wife passed fairly recently. maybe you need to give it a bit more time. i've never found someone when i was looking, i have always stumbled across a bf. and don't loose hope. i'm 23 and have dated men as old as 38, and i've dated men with children. you are a good guy for taking care of your baby alone. you are a rare find, but the right girl will come along. just be patient. look in the right places though to. bars will give you flings but church, the grocery store or a blind date may find you mrs right. good luck!
2006-10-05 23:59:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you ready to meet someone? You didnt say how long ago your wife passed away. You may be sending out the wrong type of signals. Are you looking for a girlfriend or a mother for your child?
You need to really decide if you are ready to have another woman in your life and think of your child. Are they ready to see their dad with another woman that isnt their mother?
There are plenty of single parents out there and they are dating and getting remarried etc.
If you are really ready to move on then just keep trying. It wont happen over night but it will happen.
2006-10-06 00:43:07 · answer #4 · answered by wickedly_funny66 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're not going to the right places, there are tons of single mums that are dying to meet the right single dad, just don't give up. Watch the film Sleepless in Seattle
2006-10-05 23:58:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I dont think so. I would be looking for someone like that if I were single. Older, knows what he wants, and has children as do I. Dont worry, you will find someone again. Keep your chin up and keep looking. Enjoy life while you are single tho. I know its hard but it canbe done.
2006-10-06 01:06:21 · answer #6 · answered by countrygirl66032 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no that's not it. maybe rethink where you are going to find this woman. do your friends know that you are ready to start dating again? if so, maybe they know someone to fix you up with. also, some churches have programs for singles. or you could try meeting someone online. i met my bf online and his wife passed away 1 1/2 ago and he has 3 kids. whatever you decide just keep your eyes open and you will find her.
2006-10-06 00:16:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're too self defacing...women love a responsible man. Even if you have a child.
You show responsibility by taking care of your child in the absense of a mother figure. Very attractive by what I've been told by many women.
The hardest obstacle is not you but your child's and her relationship.
Good wishes. Stay positive.
2006-10-06 00:01:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to get out and Circulate!
Bringing a Child up is an Admirable Quality!(Never Lose sight of your Key Worth in this Area!!)
If you're on the Net - then use it to discover if there's someone out there who is Like Minded!
I'm sure you'll find someone!
2006-10-05 23:58:54 · answer #9 · answered by J. Charles 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Bro, I don't think that would be it, I'll bet that it's just really hard to socialize with working and taking care of a child (I'm assuming you work)..take heart and hang in there, perhaps there is a single parents group in your area, I know there is in mine, or a church group or some kind of kids playgroup....Once again, it's been a year or so, be patient!
2006-10-06 00:00:26 · answer #10 · answered by onottopilot 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was a single mother of two for a very long time. Keep searching and do not give up, someone will come along.
2006-10-05 23:57:50 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋