I think im ready to have sex. what do you think?

Question

im 13 and so is my girlfriend. we think we're ready for sex. ive had sex with her once before and i use a condom (and i still will). is this bad?

Answer 1

I don't think you are ...
do some research before you attempt anything with your GF dear and know what your getting into ..includeing the fact that her parents might just place charges againest you for molesting their daughter ..



Should you pursue or have sex as a teenager? This is an option, and you get to make the decision. Like any other decision, however, there are things you should keep in mind. Here are three of the more important:

* Fact #1: If two people have unprotected sex long enough, they will get pregnant.
* Fact #2: This comes from the October 1996 issue of Scientific American magazine: "Six out of 10 women having abortions used protection." What that says is two people who have protected sex have a pretty good chance of pregnancy as well.
* Fact #3: If two people have sex and one of them is carrying a sexually transmitted disease, then the other person has some probability of getting the disease, even when the couple uses protection.

Think of these three facts as "disadvantages." They tend to be good reasons not to have sex as a teenager. None have them have ever stopped anyone from having sex, however. You can look at the rate of infection for STDs, the number of abortions performed every year and the number of unwed teenage mothers to see that.

To any adult the three disadvantages make it "obvious" that teenagers should not have sex. What adults generally forget is that for many teens the brain and body are sending signals that indicate otherwise. The question for you as a teenager is, "Should logic win this one?" Your body has a desire to reproduce. To your body sex is important. Can you discipline yourself enough to live with the urges and wait until you get married? That is the question.

Here are two things to keep in mind as you are making that decision:

* By having sex you are making a hidden commitment to the child that results. The purpose of sex is to create a baby. Therefore, by having sex you are saying, "I am willing to care for the baby."
* Babies carry with them a lot of baggage. They need constant attention, they cost a lot and they require two people. Therefore, once you and your friend create a baby you will need to get married, and then the two of you will need to care for the child for the next 20 years. That means you will give up a tremendous amount of personal and financial freedom. Spend some time with someone who has a baby and see how much work is involved before you underestimate the amount of care a baby requires.

If you decide to have pre-marital sex, do it with the understanding that once a child is conceived you are responsible for the care and well-being of your mate and the child for the next 20 years. The hospital bill alone for a normal childbirth is $5,000 to $10,000. Do you have that money? If not, then why would you have sex? Never mind the cost of housing, feeding, clothing your spouse and the child (see Chapter 1 for details).

The correct path is to find someone you are madly in love with and want to spend the rest of your life with, then decide that the two of you want to have a child, then get married, then save up enough money to provide a stable environment for a baby and then conceive a baby. Have a baby within a strong marriage that is ready to support the child: It is best for the baby and best for the parents.

As an unmarried teenager there is one other fact that you should keep in mind. You generally don’t hear much about this fact, but it is important. You are doing your thing right now. You are meeting people, going out, having fun. That is all fine. You have this vague notion in your head that one day you will get married. That is also fine. But eventually you will find someone who you want to marry, and it will become much less vague. You are going to be deeply in love with this person. You are going to be with this person for the rest of your life. That is a fact.

On the night of your wedding you are going to be with that person in bed. There are two options on that first night you are together. Either it will be the first time for you, and therefore it is going to be special. Or it will not. If both of you are able to come to bed and learn about sex with each other and share that throughout your lives, it is a good thing. It is an incredible gift to give to someone. Maybe your partner cannot give it to you. That is OK. You can still give it to him or her.

In general, teenage sex is like drugs (see Chapter 37). It seems like it should feel good when you do it, but longer term it often feels bad. It is a "cheap thrill" that has little or no value. It also tries to separate sex from babies, which is impossible (see Chapter 9). Keep in mind that the purpose of sex is to create a baby, and that a baby is an incredible long-term commitment. You should not be attempting to create a baby unless you are willing to make that commitment. If you want to make that commitment, you should be getting married first for the sake of the baby. That is a fact of life.

Answer 2

Ya dude. You're way too young. Wait a few years. If the condom breaks and she gets pregnant your kid will be 5 by the time you graduate. How would you like that. Save yourself the risk.

Answer 3

You're already having sex though, aren't you? Personally I don't think 13-year-olds should be having sex but...if you're going to do it, be safe. Maybe safer than a condom. Get her on hormone birth control too.

Answer 4

Dont ever have sex with someone that you would not marry.
Always use a condom.
The two of you are 13, focus on your classwork.
If you 'think' your ready you are not.You need to know your ready.
Don't rush things and enjoy your life.

Answer 5

i m also a 13 year boy i hav smooched my girl frend.but i didnt had sex wid n i think u also shouldnt. this not ur age 2 hav sex atleast u should wait until ur girl friend is 17 0r 18. dis is wat i think . its up 2 u. but i advice u shouldnt hav sex now. n if the condoms got torn ur goin to b in problem n more dan that ur girls friend life is goin to b ruined. its ok if u smooch her.

Answer 6

I really don't think you are ready because of the situation you are in. None of these contraceptives are 100% percent so if it so happened that she got pregnant would you be okay with that

Answer 7

Dont do this before you are 18.

Concentrate on your school grades !

I am not saying this sarcastically but it would lead to a lot of health disorders to both of you after you grow up and are married , it is a lot of risk !

Answer 8

Boy you are too young to be indulging your self in sex why not concentrate more on your studies till when you grow bigger ok?

Answer 9

At your age you're no where near ready to do something like that, so I really do wish you would reconsider your decision

Answer 10

You are way too young and not mature enough to handle the consequences. What you are saying you have done raped her. Whether she consented or not it is still rape.