im really heart broken when my very good friend (yeah hes my crush) did not get back in touch with me....its been over 3 weeks he's not really bothered to contact me back....be4 he left (hes gone u london for studies) we were like always on text msging ... yeah we used to talk all non sense...crap...flirt....solvin problems... n tht made me fall for him.... i made him this card sot of thingy too wen he left...he appreciated it very much... he asked me to mail and all....now hes gone he din really try n get back in contact!! i mean we were soooo close.....and shared almost everthing... now i have written this mail telling him all this tht he did not bother to reply (i mailed him 3rice each weekend) and whenever he chatted online he never spoke...
ive witten in the mail about me being hurt n tht i was a fool waiting for his mails. and tht he did not bother... should i mail him or no???
HE JUST PLAYED AROUND WITH MY FELINGS :'(
or do u guys think hes busy adjusting?nahh 3 weeks???
2006-10-05 22:54:07 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he might like u and be protecting his feelings since he is leaving. sorry sugar
2006-10-05 22:55:52 · answer #1 · answered by and now you know 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You guys are friends, you said so yourself. Why is he going to give you some play?
I say squash your feelings for the time being and see how things play out. Just because you spill your heart to someone doesn't mean they are going to do the same thing no matter how sincere and true you are.
Give him some space before he has to tell you to give him space. Go on without him because he doesn't want someone who feels needy and clingy even as a friend. And that is how you will come off if you start sweating him right now. He remembers you and knows he is not contacting you, you don't need to remind him.
He is thinking of you (maybe not in the way that you want) and when he needs you he will contact you.
In other words just be cool.
2006-10-06 06:08:14 · answer #2 · answered by cinattra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you\ve sent something like showing your real affection for him...maybe it's not a kind of thing for him, 'coz see some guys are like that, when they have found out that there is someone liking them especially a close friend, he could have felt so awkward about it and perhaps he doesn't know how to handle. Give him time to recover....men are usually like that they tend to keep silent or stay in their shell because they are so logical....they think about it before they act unlike us women sometimes we act according to our emotion. What you can do is ...give him cold shoulder at once...he would understand it anyways....you have done your part to reach him....there's an old saying that says you can't kill a frog by droppin' him into boiling water 'coz he reacts so quickly to the sudden heat that he'd jump out before he's hurt but if you put him into cold water and then gradually warm it, he never decides to jump until it's too late. Men are the same when you suddenly show off you like them they get to dump you abruptly, but if you treat them cold and first make things hard for them they'll be attached and never knew they're already into you.
2006-10-06 06:39:49 · answer #3 · answered by maic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no rule about when he has to write. He just went to ANOTHER COUNTRY for crying out loud! He is there to study and might not even have everything unpacked yet. Maybe he has had time once to check his e-mail messages and was inundated with mail from relatives and friends -- but with none from you.
You're all comfy in the USA with so much less going on and plenty of time to write to him and think about him. And all you can do is feel sorry for yourself. The answer is yes, you should write, but write the kind of letter you would want him to write you, not bickering at him.
2006-10-06 06:09:31 · answer #4 · answered by Robert B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it could just be that it takes that long in the mail, and for him to respond it would take time to get back to you as well. maybe it's that you just dropped a bombshell on him and he isn't sure how to react. maybe he doesn't have the same feelings so he doesn't want to respond. or it very well could be he's adjusting to the new city and new school. after all school probably started soon after he got there and he is probably busy with his classes.
i don't think you are a fool for waiting, you feel that you're in love with him, if that is what you think you should do that's fine. however i do want to encourage you to move on and live your life, see other boys, hang out with the girls whatever it maybe.
2006-10-06 06:06:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, as i see it first thing you should do is to make ur feelings clear to him...i mean whats the use of pining away for someone without the other person not knowing about your feelings....
most prolly he jus sees you as a good friend and is adjusting to a foreign place,and dont think that you wud lose him by telling him what you feel about him,coz 2 things might happen...u will be clear about what he feels about you and if he does not reciprocate ur feelings then you will know that this relationship is not worth pursuing...and to top everything if he is very good friend he wud actually over look everything and be the good friend.
2006-10-06 07:04:51 · answer #6 · answered by nishi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Such decisions should not be taken in a hurry.Wait and watch the situation for some time then you can proceed.A person who has gone abroad ,3 weeks is somewhat short period.
2006-10-06 06:02:16 · answer #7 · answered by suchsi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write to him for this last time stating all your feelings and what the status of this relation. If there’s no reply you can forget about him and go on with your life. If there's a reply from him that means it a good news.. all the best..
2006-10-06 05:57:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
he didn't need to play around with your feelings
you did it to yourself.
he was just a good friend, and he has plenty going on in his own life now.
I think you need to back off, because it could be years before he is free to explore emotions with you.
unless he finds someone else first.
2006-10-06 06:04:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u must sen him a mail but pls dont mention nything of the sort that u like him. COZ HE WUD FEEL HE IS IN A CAGE.
2006-10-06 09:20:16 · answer #10 · answered by mia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had teh same problem.
but you should mail him and find out what teh hel is his problem.
call him if u have his number.
if u were close he should of maile du at least or called.
that was very rude.
tell him how u feel.
2006-10-06 10:13:15 · answer #11 · answered by NEHA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋