She always gets bent out of shape whenever he talks to me, although he's not married and neither am I. It came to a head a couple of days ago when she left in a huff after seeing us talking and laughing together, completely innocent. She's since claimed she was "tired" but I don't buy it as she's done it before. I really like this man but don't know how to navigate through this with my sister. She'll just deny when confronted. What should I do?
2006-10-05 21:51:57 · 10 answers · asked by scarlettboca 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your sister is married, she has no business trying to get with someone else, anyway, she should work on her marriage, develop self-control, or get a divorce.
You have a right to try things out with this guy, you're both single and it seems that you mutually like each other. However, your sister probably would be upset and bitter about it, even though she's in the wrong, so if you get together with him, you should probably prepare yourself for whatever might happen as a result.
I guess I can't give you advice as to what to tell her, though. If it were me, I'd be trying to talk sense to her, trying to get her to face the true reality of her situation, although in these cases where there's alot of emotions involved, it is unlikely that she will be able to see clearly. She will most likely see it as you are stealing her man, even though he was never hers to begin with, and she is in fact somebody else's. She is being blinded by lust and discontent. I don't know her or her marriage situation, But if it's a fairly good marriage, it would be a shame to throw it away for a fling. I know many people who have done this, or almost did it, and their lives have ALL been worse off for it in so many ways that it's tragic. She needs to fully consider the consequences of her actions. Even if she needs out of the marriage, there are better, more dignified ways to go about it, and the long-term effects will be less damaging.
Good luck.
2006-10-05 22:20:48 · answer #1 · answered by waiting_for_light 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why doubt sister's intentons. Maybe she wants you two to have privacy.You 'think ' she will deny but she may not.Do not let your imgination go free.Make sure. Discuss this matter with 'He' . Good luck
2006-10-05 22:04:42 · answer #2 · answered by shribharatpshubh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're the little sister, wait till it's your turn......it's a chinese tradition.....the elder siblings always get the goodies first
2006-10-05 22:02:15 · answer #3 · answered by hugh_cheung 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister is being a jerk, if you and that guy like each other, go for it, don't let her selfishness get in your way.
2006-10-05 22:00:59 · answer #4 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell you sis to have a coke and a smile and sit back, she has hers already.
2006-10-06 03:17:48 · answer #5 · answered by Drojan W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she could email me, im here.. i have several brirds at da same tym, she could join, sheill only be the eighth, and if u want, the ninth..
2006-10-05 22:01:07 · answer #6 · answered by tariq k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your sister to back off
2006-10-05 21:53:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Offer to have a threesome. That will fix everything.
2006-10-05 22:01:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Flirt with your sisters hubby...
See how she likes it...
2006-10-05 21:58:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be firm....
Happiness is in your hands...
2006-10-05 22:02:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋