I've been in a relationship for 1 year and the sex has gotten bad, but everything is good. I'm always open with him and I ALWAYS do what he wants. I want a good sex life. Be honest men, do you like it when.......a woman wants freaky sex. Just tonight I wanted him to "do" me up against the wall. Sometimes I want him to bend me over the sofa arm rest and just "do" me so hard. The other day I got a great outfit to dress in, so we could have some entertaining sex. I bought a school girl outfit, with thigh high stockings. Am I a bad girlfriend? I week or so ago I suggested we video tape ourselves having sex. He said it was morally wrong, BLAH, BLAH. I'm very comfortable with my sexuality. I bought these cute underwear and he says they're wrong to wear, because on the back of them it says "MADE IN AMERICA" and I have another pair that says "LUVS HOT RODS." Am I good girlfriend? I do everything he wants me to do and I compromise with him. I love him and want to make it work.
2006-10-05 21:41:34 · 27 answers · asked by urbaybee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
To the person who said..depends on if I'm fat......I'm FAR from fat. I'm Tall and THIN and proud.
2006-10-05 21:58:34 · update #1
wow can you imagine how bad the sex is going to be if you marry this guy?
move on
2006-10-05 21:43:49 · answer #1 · answered by ~brigit~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HOLY CRAP!!! I love you. Any man who doesn't want that kind of sex is a LOSER!!! Rough sex, against the wall, half the clothes still on. That's hot. You tell your man (the luckiest man in the world) that he better start ACTING like a man, and if you do what he wants all the time, and never what YOU want to do (this pertaining to the bedroom) that you believe it will eventually (and probably already has) translated over into the out of bedroom experiences and that you are afraid that he will start controlling you (which is what WILL eventually happen, trust me). So either it will work psychologically on him, and he'll come around, or he's just a bastard with no sense of what is sexy and you should dump him and give me a ring ;)
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2006-10-05 21:47:28 · answer #2 · answered by holyitsacar 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If i read it like this..
your boyfriend is kind of bossy over you.
To get a good/fixed relationship, you need to do alot of fun activities with each other the more fun you had, the sex would be alot better..(Atleast thats my theory :P )
and about the underwear?
its more likely that men like thongs more.
but YOU decide what you wear not your boyfriend.
and i think now im going to say something stupid:
does he actually loves you?
i mean some guys are boring, but some are having fun because they love their girlfriend. and let him do more things haha:P just kidding, if you like to do litteraly EVERYTHING for your boyfriend, then your mistaking big by doing it, your not the only 1 though let him do some things to satisfy you too if it goes good, do it mor often and then do fun activities :D(im not saying to take fully control over him, just if he's lazy, try to get him to work once what you want to let him do, if he doesnt and i seriously doubt he loves you) I think most guys who really love their girl friend, are trying their best to give their love a good life.
"I week or so ago I suggested we video tape ourselves having sex" i see you saying this
and i totally agree with your boyfriend.. who knows what happends with the tape or where it goes?
and what for do you want to record yourself having sex with your boyfriend anyway? oh well dont need to answer this, just trying to make a point.
You might be a good girlfriend, but does your boyfriend thinks the same? question him that and dont let him answer really short...
and these questions are not really good to post here on Yahoo! its something personal between YOU and your BOYFRIEND you both should work it out together
2006-10-05 22:15:32 · answer #3 · answered by SumiChan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi
Well I dunno whether i'am the right person to answer this coz i am facing similar situation.
Actually different people give sex different place in life.
Some use it as a tool to explore their & their lover's body and subsequently soul through it. They keep on searching and looking for new things and each finding makes them go deeper until sex reaches the stage of meditation for them. When they do not find or cease to find new things they experiment with the way they approach sex. You & probably me fall under this catagory. Your urge to experiment is nothing but a quest for more. Sages and saints have approached the same search thru zen, meditation, yoga, prayer, "Tapasya" etc.
On the other end of spectrum are those people who approach sex as an activity which is necessary but not worth going thru the trouble of even thinkin 'bout it. They want to do it and get on with their life.
None is right or wrong, good or bad its just that they have different approches.
If the same are reconciled and complementary the partners can continue to have a meaningful and healthy relationship with mutual trust, respect and LOVE.
If not it is best to part ways.
BUT GIVE YOUR RELATIONSHIP YOUR BEST SHOT.
How to do it????
Well that calls for another question and 2 more points is'nt it???
2006-10-05 21:58:06 · answer #4 · answered by vina_indian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from what you've said it sounds like he may have some issues about exploring different areas of sexuality, or maybe he's just a strictly vanilla kind of guy, or he's not on the ball in terms of picking up the information you give him about what's exciting to you. if he's got hang ups then maybe you can work with it, find effective ways to break through, get him excited, and get the boinking you are looking for. if he's just too boring for you then you may need to re-evaluate your relationship. of course sex is not the be-all end-all, but it is still important, so don't ignore issues and incompatiblities you are experiencing.
personally I'm not an especially freaky guy. I've got an open mind and I like to try different things, but nobody would ever describe me as living an "alternative lifestyle". and to me it sounds like sex on the arm of your sofa and wearing cute little outfits is just not all that wierd. it doesn't sound like you are travelling all that far outside the bounds. well within what I would consider the bounds, in fact.
if you do decide to work with this guy and not just abandon him in hopes of finding more fertile pastures then you need to have a serious heart to heart with him. find out what exactly his boundaries are, then you can go about doing what you've got to do to work within, around, or through them. but be careful that you don't intimidate, threaten, pressure, scare, humiliate him, or make him feel like he's not living up to your standards. best of luck!!
2006-10-05 21:54:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We LOVE the freaky sex!
No, you're not a bad girlfriend. Maybe you should both sit down and talk about what you want/expect in the bedroom. Compromise is a factor in any relationship, which means BOTH parties. If you're the one compromising and he's not then that's wrong. Hope you cna work it out! Good luck!
2006-10-05 21:46:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're kidding, right? You sound like a perfect girlfriend and most guys would be very happy with a girlfriend like you. As I see it, maybe he doesn't like sex. Not many, but some people are like that. Or maybe he is into something that you haven't figured out yet and he doesn't dare to tell you. Try asking him about his secret fantasies... if he dares to tell you maybe that can get him going.
2006-10-05 21:48:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey girl.. there aren't many woman out there with a high sex drive - and thus i think that men get confronted and confused when they are having a relationship with one.. i am too one of these women that absolutely love sex and anything that relates to sex, and my man is not one to be sexual every night.. he blames his 'too physical work'.. and i hate it that he is not a sexual being.. UNTIL i did the reverse on him, i withdraw from him and i became irresistible!!! Try some reverse psychology... it worked for me...
Hint - wear some REALLY REALLY SEXY underwear under some really daggie pjs!
2006-10-05 22:04:13 · answer #8 · answered by kath m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lady, I can't speak for all men but you are what my fantasies are made of.
If you want some spice and he doesn't it may be time to cut your looses. I'll bet at least 80% of us would kill for someone like you. To be a toy and have a toy all at the some time, what more could a person ask for...
2006-10-05 21:49:55 · answer #9 · answered by gimpalomg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
will the opinions of strangers on yahoo answers change your mind about your girlfriend status?
I'd say yes, you are a good girl friend... you boyfriend just has some issues about sex that you could help him work out. He seems repressed... but thats just what i'm getting.
2006-10-05 21:45:11 · answer #10 · answered by Rvardell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just sounds boring to me. Nothing wrong with the role playing. I like to pretend I'm the pizza delivery guy with my wife. She comes to the door in a towel.
2006-10-05 21:45:47 · answer #11 · answered by Meadowlark 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋