2006-10-05 21:35:05 · 37 answers · asked by freaky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can either except it and move on or win her back somehow.
2006-10-05 21:37:28 · answer #1 · answered by Panther 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't look desperate and calmly agree. A desperate look will lose you the girl every time. You should agree that breaking up is the best thing for both of you and you'll gladly be there as a friend for her anytime she needs one. Keep this conversation short and with the undertone of being glad that you are finally getting away from her. Trust me........then go on about your life as if it is her loss and no big deal to you.
By doing things this way if she has no intention of ever coming back to you then you have acted appropiately. If she is doing this just to play head games (make you jealous) then your actions (key word "act") will let her know that she just made a mistake and is in danger of losing you forever.
Either way.....you win.
2006-10-05 21:44:41 · answer #2 · answered by Shadowstorm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is playing games.What were you doing wrong for you not to be her boyfriend?And what were you doing right to be her friend?If you a great person then why does she feel she needs her freedom?If I were to answer that,then I would have to say that she doesnt love you back.The friendship thing wont work cause then she is just using you without giving you what you want in return.She will give you mixed signals and the u will be in a rut.Move on sweetie but if you feel theres still a chance for the two you,then hold on.
2006-10-05 22:05:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to do. That's the biggest understatement of all time! Ending a relationship is among the most stressful things a person can undergo. There are many reasons for a break up, because you start an affair with some who you find attractive.
For the most part, people cope with things the way they always have; they aren't likely to change. I think part of the dating process is finding out whether or not someone else's approach to life is a match to yours, and sometimes you might end up dating the wrong person who just isn't a match for you. That doesn't make them wrong; it just makes them someone who might be wrong for you."
I disagree that all relationships are 'through thick and thin.' I think that is reserved for long-term committed relationships, either living together or marriage. I think dating is for asking good questions. It is through dating that you find out who you are willing to take that next step with, and stick with through thick and thin. And keep in mind that therapists say overwhelmingly that there are three factors that predict success in long term relationships:
1. Shared core values and an ability to communicate them.
2. Shared values about money and time.
3. Mental compatibility."
It is always good to part as friends rather than get bitter about it, get on with your life you will find someone who likes you for what you are. Good Luck
2006-10-05 21:49:20 · answer #4 · answered by Rahul 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the " Did nothing wrong, taken For granted ,ex boy friend"
These means that this lady is pretty sure that as soon as she gets her heart broken, has a terrible day, feels unappreciated or needs a favor. Plushy old Freaky is going to be there for her. That's your status. Guaranteed.
OK there is nothing wrong with being there for an Ex, if you both agreed on moving to a friend zone. But. you where taken for granted my friend. And you are still in love. It´s different.
Now she can surprise us and start acting like a real Buddie and even give good reference of you to your new dates. But we don´t live in a Saved by the bell show .So that is hardly gonna happen. I Got two words of advise for ya : Cold Turkey !
Cold turkey to the friend crap and the waiting in vain crap. Start dating some other chick immediately .
P.S : Women beat us at playing games standing on their heads , so don´t go there.
2006-10-06 13:43:19 · answer #5 · answered by Loser Millionaire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do u want? Probably,u want her back rite?
Well,she doesnt want that but i can give u a tip of moving on..
Look for a girl friend(and i mean a girl whos a friend).. ask her out for dinner ...just to talk.. at these times u need to talk to girls who r frens..guys frens,all they'd ask u to do is go **** some club girl...
when all u wanna do after ****ing her is talk about ur ex..
So go look for a girl fren u can bare with ur missing and hurting..
After that, ud feel better.. trust me..
After talking, maybe a week of sorrow..maybe u could go out with ur frens, for maybe snooker or bowling clubbing drinking.. then...
At this time, ull be more strong emotionally .. to maybe find someone even for a rebound..
About ur ex asking to be ur fren, say u want all or nothing..
(this is so she'd know u love her..and u cant be her fren and be ok talking to her as frens..)..
This will make her feel that she actually has lost u in her life and u wont be her pit stop when things dont work out with her goin to be bf..at least ..
goodluck
2006-10-05 21:54:51 · answer #6 · answered by kim_stolz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i will suggest you to not to accecpt her offer of simple friendship.Because if you really love her then you can not be her friends. It might be easy gfor her as she dont have any feelins for you but it will gonna hurt you a lot. Imagine that she gets involved with some other guy and she tells you about it you being a friend will have to listen to all that. Will you be able to do that .remember my friend that time is the biggest healer. it might feel you right now that you can not forget her. You might feel that by being her friend you will be atleast near to her but dear friend it really hurts a lot to be a friend of a person whom you love. Best thig is to move on in life and you will find some one else. May god bless you.
2006-10-05 21:42:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really value her company that much, you accept that offer of friendship. At least you will get to keep her in your life, even though it may not be in the way you want. You choices are basically life with her as a friend (and she could end up being your best friend), or a life without her.
2006-10-05 21:39:58 · answer #8 · answered by Social_D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She broke up with you so she's emotionally disconnected whether by force or intentionally.
You on the other hand, still feel love.
It can never be simple. You will be consumed by thoughts of her and days that were good between you when interacting with her on any level.
If there's no chance of reconciliation, you have to distance yourself from her no matter how much it hurts.
I'm not saying never see her or talk to her but for your emotional sanity, stay away as much as possible.
This requires an unimaginable amount of emotional strength.
I wish you well.
2006-10-05 21:46:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did she break up with you? At least she is still trying to keep you in her life by being friends with you. She may just need some time to sort things out with herself to realize that she does/doesn't want to be with you. Whenever you are around her do things you know she loves. Be your "sweet" self. If anything, try just be her friend right now. Respect her decison in that. Don't push her into getting back with you, most-likely that will just push her away. Goodluck. I hope you didn't cheat on her to make her break up with you.
2006-10-05 21:43:19 · answer #10 · answered by Mandy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, what was the reason that she broke up with you? There must have been a reason for her to break up with you. Try to use this reason to deal with it. If it's because of your character, promise her you will change it once you get back together again.
If it's your habits like smoking or drinking, try to correct. If it's because of another guy, then you should let her go. Since you love her so much, I think you should just let her be with who she is happy with.
I hope this helps :)
2006-10-05 21:38:55 · answer #11 · answered by b0b0link 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋