ok, so the girl i liked has moved on and found herself a boyfriend. i'm happy for her. best of luck to her. i'm moving on but i need some advice so i don't end up like this again.
i know the best way to get to know a girl is to approach her and just say hi. but what am i suppose to do once that opportunity is no longer there? if the girl showed signs of interests but i have already failed to act upon it when the chance was there, how can i approach her afterwards? if the relationship between the two of us is already at that weird stage where we make eye contact but don't say anything. if she knows that i exist and i know she exists. but i didn't do anything about it ealier on. to approach her and pretend like it's the first time seeing her is a lie i cannot do. to approach her and say something like "can we start over" sounds too random. or am i just thinking too much? do girls even think about a guy who hasn't spoken to her yet?
i know i should avoid this completely, but what if?
2006-10-05 20:30:50 · 11 answers · asked by loseribe 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It seems hard, but be brave, don't let it go. If you overcome the weirdness and say Hi or whatever you say, you will end up a stronger man at the end, no matter what happens. In the worst case, it will become even worse after you try and you can just make a decision to move on. It is better to be with people who understand you and your eyes and your body language. Just give it a try and don't be afraid to fail. It won't even count as a failure. It will count as an outcome of an experiment.
I don't see why should you avoid it completely. It is only ostriches who can't resist an urge to hide their head in the sand at the site of danger.
2006-10-05 20:39:15 · answer #1 · answered by Snowflake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When someone goes through a tragedy with their family..they usually want to be with their family. You Girlfriend and her mom are going through the same thing and their doing it together. It's natural you feel l ike she's pushing you away but it really is not about you. She's probably not liking men too much because of what her father did and just needs a little space. Try not to be too smothering, give her some space to breathe, and in a week or two talk to her about it. Try not to call her more than once a day for a time or so and see if that helps. Good luck, you seem like a great guy.
2016-03-27 06:57:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was her...I think that you took too long and taking long leads to uneccesary anticipation which eventually puts me off you.I would wonder if you were waiting for me to make the first move.And if you feel that now its all just weird,then hey...she feels the same way and that sucks!Dont allow it to get any more weird so just approach her before she gets tired of you not making a move.If this has been happening for along time,then she probebly does like you.So if you know that you are not gonna get a no then what is stopping you?She wont always be available you know.
2006-10-05 20:42:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why should you avoid it completely? Of course we do.......I could still describe to you a guy who walked past me 18 years ago in a comedy club in Sacramento.......the energy was that intense!
Heres what you do, the next time you guys make eye contact.....try to blush a bit....or at least get that kind of a look across. Then seek her out, apologize for things getting awkward before.......see you don't have to give details.....if she asks tell you had a lot of stuff going on and you couldnt' think straight.....then tell her that thoughts of her keep popping up in your head.......then ask her out to coffee or something casual and you two can chat.......and when you do, let her lead the conversation, remember what she says and actually LISTEN.....
good luck toots.
2006-10-05 20:39:01 · answer #4 · answered by WitchTwo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are thinking way to much!
Next time you see her ask her if she would like to go get coffee or take a walk or something.
Hopefully she will start talking to you first!
Good luck and thinking is good, but sometimes you just have to DO IT. Put caution to the wind.....
Everyone in this little town though I was married! Of course I new who started this rumour... I had to initiate things with my guy, he too thought I was married, small towns got to love them .....not!
2006-10-05 20:43:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her a call. Send her an email. Ask her out.
If she is concerned about the fact that you didn't act on her first flirtations, it will come up in conversation eventually, and you'll have the opportunity to explain yourself, if you so choose.
2006-10-05 20:39:55 · answer #6 · answered by cjanelles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are thinking too much. Say hi, hows it going?? Not a big issue to say hi to anyone, you could say hi to more than one girl. relax, enjoy life. girls have feelings just like you do, ok good luck
2006-10-05 20:38:43 · answer #7 · answered by spuds_suds 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Avoid over thinking and leave some matters to destiny.If you keep thinking all the time.there is no time to act and you can never speak with confidence.
2006-10-05 20:36:19 · answer #8 · answered by uncoolmom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok..u just hate it to lose someone that u like to other guy is it?
well..like u said before..maybe u can say hi n so on..then be friends with her..hangout with her n so on..treat her like u will never meet her again..but whatever u do..never ever rush to ask her to be ur gurl..but u have to always prepared that she might say no to ur proposal..
n just follow ur heart..if ur heart say that is ur gurl..than u should go for it..but make sure u know her well..n she is completely single n u doesnt have competitors..or u will end up broken hearted..
good luck!~
2006-10-05 20:36:55 · answer #9 · answered by rayna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be casual and next time say "hi," and introduce yourself, and tell her that you didn't want to miss another opportunity to ____fill in the blank.
2006-10-05 23:07:28 · answer #10 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋