I am am easy going guy that takes alot of crap. People think that they can insult me because I dont ever seem offended on the outside. On top of that, my life kinda sucks, I only have one friend, I have never even came close to having a girlfriend, I am not succeeding at my job or at college. I feel like most of the time, everything I do is a waste of time. When people really **** me off, I have these really violent fantasys. I feel like I will snap sometime soon. What should I do?
2006-10-05 20:20:53 · 14 answers · asked by icantfindaname50 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
You just seem to me to be sensitive to the cruel reality of the world. Some internalize it and others, become more philosophical about it. It's nothing really personal you should dwell on. The world isnt' after you, but it sure can feel that way sometimes. Be kinder to yourself,, you're young, you're not supposed to have a whole heck of a lot just yet. No one finds their dream job at 19,, and many don't a girlfriend. Don't put yourself up against some false ideals of who has what, to which you sit and compare yourself to. You're you,, find a hobby, that's what I'd do.. lots of things to do alone anyway, and reflect on the great qualities you do possess. So long as you have a job, 1 friend, your health, a warm place to lay at night, food, transportation, a computer,... the list can go on and on,, it's more than some others have. Best thing to do when I'm feeling down, consider someone else worse off them myself (hope that turned out right),, things could always be worse is my point.
Sure wish you well! Don't snap, ,, you'll lose more than what you have now, which you might not realize is worth something!
2006-10-05 20:36:35 · answer #1 · answered by Manatee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is going to sound stupid at first and I'm sure many people are going to disagree with me but here is the one thing that has kept me sane through many of those issues and more (minus the girlfriend thing, sorry)
Play violent video games. Lots of them. Finish one and get another. Blow up as many cg things and "FAKE" people as possible. Yell at the screen. Cuss and scream.
DO NOT; Imagine those people on the screen are people you do or do not know (keep it a game). Throw any part of the pc or console (that gets expensive). Decline an intimate encounter with a possible mate because of a game (if you have other reasons, fine. just not the game)
Contrary to the popular media violence in video games has not only made me terrified of any real life violence, it has also provided me with a constant release for aggresive tendancies and frustrations. Keep in mind that everything you do actually is a waste of time. Just like everyone else. So when it just gets to be too much pop in something that involves mutated soldiers and rocket launchers, spend a few hours making cars and kittens explode (in the game) and then head to bed.
When you wake up you'll either feel released and refreshed or oblivious to the crap as you plan your next excursion into alien infested mayhem. Either way you're good to go.
If you already play video games then you're screwed. Bummer.
2006-10-06 03:58:04 · answer #2 · answered by subject22 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you kind of answered it yourself really. You already know you take a lot of crap, so instead of taking the crap why not say something to ease the pressure instead of it building up inside you.
I think you are focusing on the negative too much. I bet the friend you have is a wonderful source of support for you.
You can only start to appear positive on the outside when you start dealing with whats going on in your head.
If you're walking around feeling sad/depressed [and don't take any drugs to build yourself up. That is NOT the answer so scratch that idea straight away!!] then you're not going to come across approachable. Women who would be more forward in approaching you, won't!!
Why don't you write down what you value in life (success, wealth, health, love) in order of priority (say Top 5 for now) and then write down what emotions you do your best to avoid (eg rejection, anger, frustration, again in order and top 5) and then you know what area it is you need to work on.
I can help you some more if you are willing to talk and be honest with me and more importantly yourself.
Don't worry, I will not judge you. As for the violent fantasies, I think they are a by-product of letting out some of the frustration/anguish you feel inside and will subside in time once you feel you are back on track.....
2006-10-06 03:38:34 · answer #3 · answered by Pragna T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not easy going. You may have difficulty saying no. One close friend is all you need. Job AND college? Um, could it be the word workload? Could we fit no girlfriend in there b/c of that workload? Waste of time because of failure?uselessness?unimportant in the Grande Scheme of Things?
You are a walking time bomb but because you or someone you know are putting pressures on you. Overachieving seems to be the culprit.
Not an underachieving loser.
So, learn how to say no, learn how to be assertive and learn how to really really like yourself. You sound very likeable. (OK, Answerers, everyone came down on the dude who thought he was so intelligent and gorgeous)
Wherever you go to work or school, there should be a program for help.
Good Luck. Look in the mirror and decide to like yourself.
2006-10-06 04:24:25 · answer #4 · answered by baghmom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find a therapist or an anger management group....fast!
But also identify things that interest you, sports or hobbies or music and get involved with organizations that can help you meet some new people and get some enjoyment out of life. Do you belong to a church? Join a Bible study group. Join a YMCA and work-out some of those frustrations through exercise....again, a decent place to meet new people and be good to your body at the same time. Sign-up for a college course that interests you, expand on your interests and be around others that share the same. Life is too short......make everyday (or at least most days) joyful. You owe that to yourself!
2006-10-06 03:33:22 · answer #5 · answered by allheart 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Call your Dr., get a referral to a therapist now and go as soon as possible. You need to learn basic coping skills that allot of us were never taught, growing up in allot of different family type based home life situations. Oh Yeah..about the snapping..Take a deep breathe and breath, count to ten. Do it Again, and again, and again.......leave the building if you need to. You want these skills to be positive ones that empower you and get back control of your own life. breath...
2006-10-06 03:45:02 · answer #6 · answered by jenlpfeil 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, you just need to find a balance. Don't pretend to be mr. nice guy by letting people **** you off. Instead of going from one extreme to the other, how about just finding a balance in between? Confront them, tease them back. You won't feel like snapping because you will have found a balance in character. Try it out.
2006-10-06 03:33:06 · answer #7 · answered by Harsh Noise Wall 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
who told you not to snap? snap at a person to teach him a lesson.then you can always talk to the guy and make him understand your point. you dont need many people to be your friend. one is enough.
2006-10-06 05:44:58 · answer #8 · answered by atahsina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a controlled snap.
Next time someone pisses you off, punch him right in the face, so he remembers it, people wont forget soon enough.
2006-10-06 03:35:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't snap...feel the positive..when life sucks always know it could be worse..I am curious are you a Gemini lol
2006-10-06 03:24:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋