i need help, can you give good advice?

Question

i have four kids , the oldest three i have no bother with but the youngest is a nightmare. he is 20mths old, he kicks, hits, bites and generally causes havoc. i have tried ignoring him, slapping him(not hard though which my husband says is the problem)putting him in time out(which he just ignores anyway and goes at whatever he wants) he is starting to do this to other children as well as adults. i need help.

i would just like to add that all my kids are loved equally and the youngest is a very spoiled little boy and when i say spolied i mean with love. their father is no monster and loves them all but he was brought up where he was slapped if he did something wrong and believes it did him more harm where as i was never slapped as a child. i can not give this little boy any more attention he is with me 24hrs a day and i mean 24hrs a day i can not even go to toilet on my own so dont dare say it is because my children are not loved

Answer 1

I have a grandchild that did the same. you need to take him to a children's clinic that understands that kind of outcry,he may have something serious. better to know then let this go on. but please don't spank him, that will just make him worse. he needs a lot of love and understanding. your husband needs to help.my grandchild is doing really well now.

Answer 2

Doesn't anyone watch Dr. Phil. He really has good advice. He has a book about phenomenal families. It takes more than just you trying to fix the kid. What is the Father doing besides trying to get you to physically assault the child. Sounds like the kid is crying out for positive attention. Read Dr. Phils book, practice what you read, then if the kid still plays up, have him assessed for psychological problems by a professional. Good luck with both the kid and the abusive husband

Answer 3

YOU SAID YOU SLAPPED YOUR CHILD? That's Child Abuse.
Children need tender, loving, and caring attention. They are too young to know what they are doing. Children that age are super energitic and try to do what they want most especially those that gives them attention of whatever kind.
Good for you that your child is healthy and strong. Do you want your child to just lie down, do nothing, stare at you, does not smile and keeps on crying?

Answer 4

Listen to your husband, pop him a good one and scare the little brat.

If an animal that is a quarter of your size starts growling at you, what do you do? You get mad and you stop before you really have to hurt it...

Wait for him to start back talking after you tell him to get in the corner then you go over there and you blister his *** for it. Let him sit in his own salty reward for being a little dick and after about 15 min. by himself you come back in there and ask him if he wants some more. He is going to say no and you tell him don't act like that, I your mother... Problem solved...

Answer 5

Maybe a doctor/child psychologist will be able to help. Are u giving all 4 kids the same attention, love and care ???

Answer 6

try putting him to a shrink.... or maybe just be nice to him(but don't spoil him) and spend more time with him...play with him and just spend quality time... maybe he's doing those things because you don't pay attention to him... if you don't to anything sooner he might be a rebel or a criminal in the future which im sure you don't want to happen...


all im saying is LOVE him...


or offer him something he likes if he does something good and if he does something but like hurt someone... be like "that's bad! if you keep doing that i won't give you candy or chocolate or whatever he desires."

Answer 7

Your child has severe mental or emotional problems & needs help quick!
Since CPS will not let you blister their little behinds anymore,you can thank them for this!
Take him to a phsycologist as quickly as possible & get him on some drugs!At least you will have a little peace!