I have a problem. I am don't have self esteem when it comes to interactions with woman. They are hot, but I can only get them when I am drunk. I am a grad student with a lot of potenital.
2006-10-05 19:54:54 · 4 answers · asked by za776 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm a grad student with a lot of potential too :-)
Well, dude, you have a problem. You are afraid of women. You really shouldn't be. Why be afraid of them. The worst that can happen is she says no and thinks that you're not interesting. Does her opinion change who you are? I really hope not. DOes her opinion count? Heck no. Is she going to tell people that she turned you down? I doubt it, and who is going to listen - they are all preoccupied with their own little problems. While drunk, you are meeting the matches that are actually not your matches but are questionable matches, if you know what I mean. Because when you are drunk you are not real everyday you. Accept who you are and someone will accept you too.
Let me ask you - howcome you have enough self-esteem to be a scientist? At any point someone can come out and show that they are smarter. How do you overcome this? You have to face it every day and you seem to be OK with it.
Do something about it before it is too late.
2006-10-05 19:56:42 · answer #1 · answered by Snowflake 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you want the right woman in your life, do not get drunk, and interact with them, when you are sober, and yourself. Different women like different things. Some would like a very confidant man, and some might be attracted to a shy man. But being shy, doesn't mean the person lacks in confidence. One could be shy and confidant both. You said you have low self-esteem. See if you can work on that? There are excellent book resources available. Read them, and put the knowledge to use. Everyone has strengths. Know yours. Ask friends and family who care about you, to tell you.....what they like about you. You will see that you are a lot more than you imagined. You are a Grad student. That itself shows that you have accomplished goin that far, and it's something to feel proud about.
It's OK to feel shy or awkward now and then. People can feel that all the time. So don't be too hard on yourself. Just stop drinking, and talk to girls the way it comes naturally to you. With more interaction, and friendships, you will see your confidance increasing.
All the best!
2006-10-05 20:20:14 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be yourself, being drunk is not a good thing, its a turn off for women, shyness is ok, sometimes if you make a move or just a simple hi or gesture or write a letter or text her, she will make a move too if she likes you, and then let it flow on its own. relax she is not going to eat you, maybe later!
2006-10-05 20:02:22 · answer #3 · answered by sure_whatever_29 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need confidence. Just go talk to the woman and they will like you if you tell truth
2006-10-05 19:57:45 · answer #4 · answered by Msthickmadem 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋