I have to be the biggest loser in the world! Someone I really love and care about, has hurt me so bad. Now all I do is cry, feel sorry for myself, and depressed. I'm scared to love anyone eles and let them love me I won't even date. And the saddest part of it all is I keep going back to him cause I feel like I don't know any better. I feel like my heart was made to love only him, I'm devestated and I don't want to be anymore. But I don't know anyother way, I want to go on and live a happy life but I feel like I'm stuck and I don't know how to let go of him. I'm losing my faith in everything I thought was positive in my life. I pray to God, what seem's like all the time. But the more I pray, the weaker I feel. I feel like the devil has taken away everything that use to bring joy in my life. How do I find my way?
2006-10-05 19:26:07 · 14 answers · asked by Ms. Educated 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Lord, you have promised us that you will never leave nor forsake us. Your word tells us that you have good plans for us. To cast our cares on you, because you love us. You say to give all we are and desire to you, and you will direct our path. Please today comfort Ms. Cakes and show her that you have a better life for her, one that will lift her up and put her feet on a high place, the rock of your word and faith in your guidance.
Please give Ms. Cakes the courage and grace to stay away from relationships that are not healthy, and not pleasing to you. Please show her that purity and virtue is a crown of glory. Please show her that confidence comes from knowing who she is because of your son. Please safeguard, protect and save her from harm. All these things I ask in Jesus' name, amen.
2006-10-05 19:31:44 · answer #1 · answered by Esther 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Relax for a while, spend time with your friends, build a life that doesnt include that person, I know how damned tough it is to do. I spent way too long in a similar situation. but at the end of the day its no good for either of you.
Pray, feel happy, and dont focus on what isnt happening, focus on making what you want to happen occur. Remember the divine only help those who help themselves!
really hope this helps and you can be happy again!
2006-10-06 05:15:19 · answer #2 · answered by Utburd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The pain you feel is like a well being dug. If the pain is great your well is deep. The amount of joy you can feel is like the water fulling up the well. The deeper the well the more joy you can have. When we love we make a place in your heart,this is the well, the person fulls it up. When they leave the place is still there. the next time we love this place is ready for them and they make an even larger place. this is how you can love more every-time.
Bless be
2006-10-06 02:35:08 · answer #3 · answered by Tedi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's some relationship advice I've learned over the years:
1) If it don't fit, don't buy it! Example - buying a dress: If you need to buy a dress, do you buy one that's pretty on the hanger but is too small or too large? No. Do you buy the one that fits, but that is a color that clashes horribly with your hair or skin tone? No. You put them back on the rack and there are no hard feelings between you or the dress...it just didn't work for you. Then you move on to find the one that does.
2) Contrary to what you might think, your happiness is not dependent on another person. You have to be happy with yourself before you should even consider getting into a relationship. (note that you call yourself a loser ... doesn't sound like you're too happy with yourself to me. I'd work on that first.)
3) Love only works if BOTH parties are in love. And if you're TRULY in love, you'll be more concerned with the happiness of the other person than you are with yourself. I'm not saying it isn't going to hurt or that it'll be easy for you. But if he isn't happy in the relationship, its not loving of you to try to force him to stay in it by either feeling sorry for you or by being in his face constantly trying to get him to get back together with you. If you're not able to do this then think about this - maybe you don't actually love him. Perhaps you're just co-dependent. A really good exercise is to read over the definition of love at 1 Corinthians 13:4-8. If anything of the "is" or "is not" items are out of place in your relationship then you can be positive that it wasn't love. And since knowledge is power, you'll have the knowledge that it wasn't love and the power to move on.
4) Allow time to heal and work on regaining your self esteem. Stay on your own for a while to combat being co-dependent. Once you've been on your own for a while and realize you don't actually NEED a man, then you'll have a much better ability to weed out the undesireable men who come along.
5) DO NOT sleep with someone you're dating! Not only is it scripturally unacceptable, (remember that fornicators are listed in as those who won't inherit God's kingdom - 1 Corinthians 6:9, 10) but it automatically throws you into a situation conducive of serious emotional pain if it doesn't work out. That's one reason why God is so strict on the no sex before marriage issue. It's not beneficial for you or for the guy (although most men believe otherwise).
6) As for your faith...you'll have plenty of time to build it while you're going through the healing process. When you say you feel like the devil has taken everything away...remember Job. He lost just about everything he had in one day - his livestock, his servants, his children, his health, even his wife and his friends turned on him. So while you may think you've got it bad, he had it MUCH worse...but he maintained his integrity to God and was blessed with MORE than he had originally! :) My suggestions would be to read the Bible (Psalm 86 is a good chapter to start with), pray often and direct your prayers to Jehovah (that's God's name incase you didn't know) and close your prayer through Jesus' name. Remember to pray for strength and guidance.
That's the best advise I can give you. Hope it helps.
2006-10-06 03:22:58 · answer #4 · answered by Kelly L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I too have had this problem... But I was the one who was the bastard in my relationship... there is one person for you... made for you only... some lives you are with them... some lives you are not... I have suffered fro 7 years over a relationship gone bad... I didn't think I would make it... I grew during those years....
and just recently god led me to be able to communicate with her... I live 2,000 miles away from her... yet we are in the most beautiful relationship online... we are taking it slow and planning for the future.... take your pain as a lesson... give it time to examine what went wrong... give him time to grow... if you are meant to be together it will happen.... your heart has a lesson to learn hun... don't give up....
I've learned that no matter how shattered your heart has become... the world does not stop for your grief...
be strong...
2006-10-06 02:33:58 · answer #5 · answered by John-Paul 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God has answered your prayers. The man who was in you life cannot hurt you any more. You are given the opportunity to start new relationship.
You are going through a "grieving" process. Feeling sorry for what it could have been. Surrender to God. Keep praying & talking to God. All your prayers will be answered. Trust me!
2006-10-06 02:37:09 · answer #6 · answered by Angel Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not the first nor the last to feel this way .If he has hurt you this much then hes the wrong person for you . most likely needs to grow up himself also.Resist the temptation to subject your self to more heartbreak and realize that it may just be lust . that will burn brightly for awhile and then burn out.This is the way of most relationships . mistaking lust for love.Use it as a lesson and be more careful and slower next time . get to know the person and them you before you decide wither its love or lust that's brought you together.
The Devil if you must has only the power that you give it over you.
Find that quite voice inside of you first. it is your soul.your real link to GOD.just saying words is not enough if you do not think your self worthy of Gods help.
2006-10-06 02:57:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were a wiccan you would probably be calling the guy an energy vampire. He drains the energy from you. The best thing to do is to get away from him and find someone worth loving.
For you, that guy is basically your personal "devil".
2006-10-06 02:48:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe in your self, your life is worth more than someone who dosn't care for you.
You are special in your own way, so don't give in for someone that dosn't deserve you.
Keep praying,
and by God's will you'll find the way
good luck
2006-10-06 02:33:45 · answer #9 · answered by sunshine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need time away from this person
You have lost your ability to Believe in your self worth
GET IT BACK
if not then you will continually be run over by everyone you meet
Time heals all wounds.......Kick back and relax you now have your freedom and can enjoy when and what you like with out having to please no one but your self
God has not left you......even in this time of need
Don't shut Him out
2006-10-06 02:34:22 · answer #10 · answered by snuggels102 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all you should do write everything that you want to tell him and you had no chance to say to him, read and than burn that paper, this will close your past, don't live your past ,don't live your future,live your present ,if you see present is a gift,so take one day at the time, many fish in the sea,short one tall one who doesn't want you, you don't want them. always remember,don't chase three things in your life man,death and bus,sooner or later they will arrive,
2006-10-06 02:43:00 · answer #11 · answered by kitty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋