The situation is that my girlfriend is 8 months pregnant....I was layed off on my job and she works part time rent was due last week and we can't pay the electric bill I'm actually suprised my internet still works I feel so bad that I can't give her what she needs I feel like the biggest loser in the world and I can't even sleep anymore the baby will be here soon and all this happening is taking away from the joy and love I should be feeling so now I'm pushing away from her because of my own **** it's almost to much to take I just wish I could find work what kind of man am I that can't provide for his family....I'm only 25 and I'm just at a low point does anyone have any advice for me at all anything will help plz
2006-10-05 19:22:13 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tell her exaclty what you're feeling. If she knows that you are trying and you still love her and have all these emotions, most of which she is probably feeling, she will understand. When a man shows his vunerable side to the woman he loves, it makes her feel that much closer to you. Keep trying to find a job and see if you can do little odd jobs until you find a 9-5. Everything will work out.
2006-10-05 19:31:00 · answer #1 · answered by Curly Q Diva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are organizations in most communities that will give emergency assisance for rent that is past due. The Salvation Army is one that will if they can at the time. They can also help with food. Contact your local human services office and find out where you might get some emergency assistance. As far as the job, the way the current job markets have been going, I would take anything I could get, even if it meant working at your local Burger King. You need to bring in some income. You have a child coming soon. When depression sets in, most people pushed their loved ones away some, though unintentional usually. Try getting your mind of it some before you spend time with her so you can concentrate on her emotional needs instead of your depression. Once you get a job, things will start looking up again.
2006-10-06 02:32:14 · answer #2 · answered by Social_D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, your dream job may not be out there but there are jobs. Get several if need be and by the way cut out all extras like Internet. You are suppose to be there for her and all you are doing is adding extra stress on her. Go to McDonald's, it's more than what you make now and it shows her you care. Look for better work but until that comes do whatever it takes to bring money in. You are a loser if all you do is whine about things instead of doing what ever it takes to pay the rent. Good Luck. and Congrats on the baby.
2006-10-06 02:45:56 · answer #3 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're in a tough spot... but that doesn't reflect upon you as a person. Share your feelings with your girlfriend... then take a deep breath and get back to work on improving your situation.
Stick together as a team.
Don't make matters worse by sapping your own morale by beating yourself up.
When you feel bad and overwhelmed, accept the feelings for what they are... you don't need to change or reject them. But don't let them fool you into thinking you are unworthy.
And, I recommend that you pray to your god, as you understand god in your life. Just for guidance and support.
2006-10-06 02:30:45 · answer #4 · answered by Bifferoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋