Gets upset with me for eating dessert after dinner? She says "you already ate enough at dinner you don't need anymore". I didn't even have a big dinner. Every time she see's me eat anything she looks at it, and either makes some comment about how I'm eating too much or how fattening it is. One time i was making a salad and she said i better not eat anymore than that for lunch. I am not fat, about 5'8'', 140lbs, and i run about 5 miles every day plus go to the gym 3 or 4 times a week. I have a history of eating disorders, and I think my grandmother knows it, but is in denial about it because she practically started it. She started telling me i was fat at 16 years old. She raised me, so we know eachother quite well.
I sometimes fly off the handle when she makes a remark. I feel bad because she is 86, and she tells me how aweful i act towards her and how i have no respect for elders. But what i am suppose to do when she perpetuates the problems that i have with food?
2006-10-05 19:03:56 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tell her in a respectful way that she needs to not worry about what you are eating...Just be straight up with her
2006-10-05 19:07:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If everything you say is true (5 miles every day, etc) then you must be in exceptional shape or well on your way, even though you weigh 140lbs.
But most important, it only matters what you think. If you remember that, it will not matter to argue with your grannie.
If you think you are fine, then you are. If you think you are not fine, then you are wrong... We can all improve our health, but that has nothing to do with our worth as individuals.
But you can't change how an 86 year old person thinks. Focus on how you feel.
Good luck
2006-10-06 02:11:46 · answer #2 · answered by Bifferoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She raised you. How old are you? Do you still live at her house?
It is difficult for some parents to let go. Just let her know you appreciate her concern but you can now make your own choices.
Is she afraid of being alone? Taking care of you (even when she is too bossy) is the only purpose she has. Just let her know you understand and that you love her.
2006-10-06 02:19:15 · answer #3 · answered by early bird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Smother her with loving kindness. It'll take her so by surprise, she'll be befuddles for awhile. In the meantime, maybe you can have some visitors in to help you cope with her. I'm sure she's a handful at 86 years of age!
2006-10-06 02:10:18 · answer #4 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to granny that you have two things to do tonight: eat dessert and research retirement communities. You only have time to get one thing done before you go to bed. She'll bake the apple pie for you.
2006-10-06 02:14:07 · answer #5 · answered by wuxxler 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grandmas do that. Just say I love how you worry about me gramma! Give her a hug and a kiss. You'll be sorry if you let her nagging over food bother you and you allow it to be a control issue. It's just not worth it. Offer her a bite of your dessert. ;)
2006-10-06 02:12:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never jump down her throat! Tell her "I love you too Grandma", every single time she says something about your eating habits. She is old and can't easily change her ways but you can. Don't let it bother you, she is just showing concern for you no matter how misconstrued she is.
2006-10-06 02:12:57 · answer #7 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the problem with old people is that they tend to speak their mind and damn the consiquences,you may as well let it go,,choose to ignore her,,she wont be here forever so arguing wont make you feel good,,it will just make you feel like you are starting on an old lady,,let her know you heard her and thats it,,do as you want to,if she has always been like this it is doubtful saying anything will make a difference so,,let her say her piece,,reply,,'oh well' so i gain 100 pounds,its worth it' what else can you do.
2006-10-06 02:18:21 · answer #8 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, maybe she is afraid yr eating disorder is back! Tell her nicely that u are not over eating. Don't "talk back" to her as i believe she is just showing concern for u.
2006-10-06 02:17:00 · answer #9 · answered by Renew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont mind your grandma. let her understand that its good your eating them rather tahn it get spoils
2006-10-06 02:08:06 · answer #10 · answered by crystalink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋