my poor buddy is 21 years old but he's a virgin. I feel bad but he's just shy. he's good looking but just cant talk to girls. I dont have a problem talking to girls but he never wants to go out to bars and parties cuz "he doesnt fit in". I want to help him cause he's to shy/lazy to help himself. I'm afraid if he doesnt learn to communcate with girls now he's going to be a "40 year old virgin" helpp me help him thanks
2006-10-05 19:01:54 · 12 answers · asked by ahh help 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
awsome responses but i know he wants to do it, but he expects a girl to show up at our house and just **** his brains out without talkign to her lol
2006-10-05 19:09:03 · update #1
Maybe he is content with jacking off and does not want to get laid..Maybe he is in the closet, you never know
2006-10-05 19:10:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever asked him if he wants to lose his virginity in the first place? Maybe it is his preference to wait for the right person. If not then I suggest helping him find someone that is more shy than him and he may just open up to that person. However when the time is here for it to happen, it will. I'm just wondering though why does it bug you so much? Maybe your friend has no self-confidence, or maybe he acts like he really wants to lose his virginity when he is around you, but is really not ready. Just think about that.
2006-10-06 02:06:48 · answer #2 · answered by Muriel F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest being a virgin isn't a bad thing considering STD's I lost mine when I was 15 and I regret not waiting because I eventually ended up sleeping with alot of girls luckily I didn't catch anything and because I went to bars and party's all the time I didn't wear condoms because I was wasted.....Maybe you should look up to your friend and consider hanging out with him more because those are the friends that will keep you outta of trouble believe me on that
2006-10-06 02:05:01 · answer #3 · answered by MiZaLiTy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wants help, he should be looking for it himself. There is nothing inherently wrong with being a virgin. Perhaps he is just waiting for the right person. If not, he could try dating on the internet... quite easy to meet people that way.
2006-10-06 02:05:10 · answer #4 · answered by Bifferoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he won't go to the parties bring the paries to him. Don't just take over his house but call him n tell him your gonna go over and ur bringing sone friends with you, hopefully he won't mind , if you give him a little to drink he'll jump out of his bubble, or maybe he needs to just get to know the people before he acts up Good Luck helping you buddy pal
2006-10-06 02:08:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i appreciate you helping your friend but the drive must come the person first. lets not judge him okay. maybe he is happy being 21 and still virgin. anyway i think it is just okay., it will not him make less a person if he is still virgin at 40. its a choice and if he is happy then let him be virgin,shy all his life.
2006-10-06 02:08:54 · answer #6 · answered by star 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm you should be blunt with this person...you shoulnt sit there and try and conn him to go out...make him go out...tell him to get off his A$$ and grow up and get out of the rutt he is in... be blunt honest and a little mean... you have treid the nice approach... if his reason is that he '' doesnt fit in" then tell him to grow up and realise that no-one originally fits in... those people mold themselves to you (the person in question)... tell him that he is wasting his youth and he will regret it... tell him that he cant just sit there and expect things to happen to him.... fire him up get him angrey so... tyr and get rid of the shyness
good luck
2006-10-06 02:08:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you didnt say that he was unhappy with his life. Leave him alone he will meet someone and fall in love, it doesnt have to be at a pub or club. Just let him be and one day a gurl will talk to him and he will find that they communicate just fine.
2006-10-06 02:08:37 · answer #8 · answered by teneesha2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my brother-in-law didn't lose his virginity until he was 26. my husband and i would take him out to bars and parties but he would never meet any girls. he would ask us for advice and we would give it to him and then one day he finally asked out this girl he worked with and dated for awhile and he finally lost his virginity. so here's my advice, just give him advice on how to talk to girls and eventually, on his own, he will find someone.
2006-10-06 02:15:59 · answer #9 · answered by Ditsey24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats awesome thats hes a virgin...theres nothing wrong w/ that...lol but i know what u mean....just try to break him from his shell...make him go out w/ you one night and just hang out...introduce him to a sweet girl....itll be hard and a lil annoying but if you wanna help him...just do what ya gotta do! good luck ;)
2006-10-06 02:06:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋