If you were told you can not have kids, would you be ok with that?

Question

If you are happily married and after 5 years of traveling all over you decide to have kids and was told you can not have kids, would you be okay with that and consider yourself lucky (no diapers, no responsabilities, no lack of sleep) or would you be devasted?
Would you adopt even if it's $30,000?

Answer 1

Yeah i would be ok with it.. i would adopt..
i was adopted myself.
from 2 people that tried to abort me, and didnt want me in the first place, they were not married and had no job... and i could of easily been thrown aside and abandonded..
a couple soon adopted me, that couldnt have kids either...those are my parents. and i love them.
help a kid in need, or a kid that may need a good parent.
adoption is good.
i wouldnt worry about the cost cause the cost of love is priceless. thats just my opinion.
on the other hand i may be a little dissapointed i couldnt have kids.
but not all that much
adoption is a great thing.

Answer 2

Id wonder why I didnt go get a check up year after year if I planned on having kids in the future. Maintaining your health and he his is important. If you knew this five even ten years ago what would you have decided then?
No, I wouldnt be ok with it....It was something I wanted in my future and I had regular checkups to make sure everything works. The doc could tell you if all is okay...well, anyway...so what I would do if he told me/we couldnt I probably would want to adopt if I was already married and found out. If he could have kids and I could not...there's always surrogacy. If he couldnt, but I could, there's sperm banks. Invitro is another solution in some cases.
Fostering a child isnt permanent but in some cases can lead to adoption. Or just being a really great aunt and uncle to nieces and nephews. I sooo desired to raise a family early early on so...yeah I'd be devastated!
Yes, I'd pay to adopt if I had to.

Answer 3

I know the feeling. I am not happy. 3 years ago I married a lady that was 17 years younger than I was; she wanted a baby and so did I. She already had a child from a previous relationship. But she didn't want her daughter to be an only child.

We did the wild thing every time she was fertile and nothing happened so I went and got checked; Zero nothing, even though I have three kids from a previous marrige. I had dried up.

We have looked into the prospect of a sperm donor this way the child is biolocally one of yours, and it doesn't cost as much. we had also looked into adoption if you go with the local state agency it won't cost near as much as the cost that you had mentioned.

Good luck

Answer 4

at first devastation sets in i was told that i would never have kids the only advice to you is what my mother in law told me put it in gods hands and when he thinks that you are ready and wants you to bear a child he will shower you with that blessing and that is exactly what i did and my hubby and i were both working making mookah bucks an one day no monthly went to doctors and 9 months later gave birth to a 8 pound 5 ounce baby boy and it did not stop there i have a 16 yr old boy a 15 yr old girl and a 12 yr old boy...i wish you all the best and pray that your story will have a happy ending as mine did but if it is a certainty there is a lot of children out there wishing they had parents maybe thinking adoption would be another choice good luck to you

Answer 5

I have never been told that I can't have kids. I can't imagine how that would feel. But let me tell you that I have considered adopting a kid, because I think of all the kids who haven't had the chance to have a family because of whatever reason lies in their background. I think no human being should be kept from being with his or her mom and dad. It's just not fair. And if we can make one of those little angels happy, why not do it? If you feel that the kid will not be your own and your family if you adopt, then you shouldn't adopt at all.

Answer 6

One Friday evening afterwork, I drove 3 hours to my fiancee's home. Her dad met me at the door with a cold handshake. He told me my girl was in the family room. I went in and he shut the door. She broke down - she would never be able to have children.
No prob. I put my arm around her and told her we would adopt.
We have. One son came out of 'nam on the next to last plane through Holt. One son came out of Korea as an infant. One daughter and half-bro are state adoptions/Trans-Eurasians. We've had a blast. $30k sounds high, but then, our family has been together 32 years.
Go for it. It's a blast. How else would a good Irishman get an Asian into the family line?

Answer 7

As a matter of fact me and my husband would love to have a child of our own, but we can't. It has been eight years and nothing. We are Okay with it, there are too many children waiting to be adopted in this world. It would be shellfish,wanting one from both our DNA, when we know we cannot have a child of our own. Yes $30,000 is worth it.

Answer 8

It would hurt me deeply at first, but then I would take into consideration how much I want a child in my life, and how many children out there are in need of caring parents. I would then focus all my energy on welcoming a child into my home that may not have come from me, but will always be a part of me. I wish you the best, and you shouldn't have to pay to adopt a child.

Best Wishes!!

:o)

Answer 9

I always wanted kids, I would have been devestated. I have 4 kids of my own, and I know what a "hassle" parenting can be.... but even knowing what I do now that I have kids, I wouldnt change it. So yes I would consider adoption even at $30k (but "considering" doesnt always mean "succeeding" unfortunately)

Answer 10

It'd be devastating but I'd adopt. It's something I've considered already.