My parents divorced when I was four and my brother was one, after that, half the time we didn't know where he was, and was always making excuses why he wasn't there when he said he would be. But I loved him and I loved the times I did get to be with him. 6 years ago my first husband passed away, and shortly after that my dad decided it was time to be a father, He would complain when I wouldn cancel my traditions with my mom and her family to be with him and his on the holidays. He'll call and ask why we hadn't called to wish him Happy Birthday, or Happy Father's Day yet. Even as an adult he never comes to see me, just complains when I wait to long to come to him. 2 months ago, I moved away from my family, and when I left I didn't tell him I was leaving, and I haven't talk to him since. I know I hurt him, but he doesn't even call my mom to see if I'm doing good. He sees my brother all the time, and hasn't even asked him. I don't know what to do, I miss him alot.what do I do
2006-10-05 18:22:53 · 6 answers · asked by Tina W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You need to talk to him, you complain about him and want a relationship with him yet you treat him almost as he treats you. You both need to step up to the plate and treat each other better.Talk to him or write him a letter explaining what you feel.
2006-10-05 18:30:14 · answer #1 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to decided on something like that. My Real father was like that. He would only visit when it was convenient for him. I have been push aside by him my whole life. Made excuse for his lack of visitation, lashed out mom when he disappointed me again, cried myself to sleep when he forgot my birthdays but I loved him. He is my Dad. I am getting married in 34.5 hours and once again my dad has let me down by not coming. I decided it was time to let him know exactly how I felt and that I was done with his treatment. I am not a child of convenience. I wasn't gonna take being push aside when he I know he gives the others more than me. I am not talking about material things either. I want his love and his affection. I am amazed that he listen but in the end he had nothing to say to me about it. As much as it hurts I know that I won't contact him again. Sometimes you have to just forget about them. Some men can't be Dad's no matter how hard they try or how much we want and need them too. Don't waste your life worrying about it. It is not your fault. There will come a time when regret sets in and they realize what they have missed out.
Parents aren't all they are cracked up to be.
2006-10-06 01:36:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really miss him and love him as you say , Why don't you call him and tell him where you are and invite him to your home.. and see what happen.. He may grow up some day who know.. If that don't work out I guess it is up to you if you want the one sided relationship with him or not.. sounds like you are getting older and want the relationship so you may just have to go for it on his terms and go to him all the time.
good luck..
2006-10-06 01:33:05 · answer #3 · answered by Sandy F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put all hurt feelings aside and see your dad. Sometimes we as children have to be an example to our parents.
2006-10-06 01:32:56 · answer #4 · answered by Tisha J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell the sob too kiss off you don't need him now if he werent there for you how can you possible miss him if he wasen't there when you was young child and needed him ? stick with your mother she was there
2006-10-06 01:30:05 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand what a Dad beat Dad is.
2006-10-06 02:45:20 · answer #6 · answered by Pencil 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋