i wounder if i should tell my father he is a shitty father. i dont think he should have had kids at all. hes too weak. his oldest (me 20) is full od rage and is sure to end up in jaill for murder and this youngest (11 my half brother) is on his way to being another damn gangster. so should i tell my father he should have been more like grandpa and hit us when we needed it rather than being so soft? all though i guess it would be too late for him to change. every time i see hom i want to tell him he has dont a bad job but i dont.
2006-10-05 18:10:13 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
There is no question that influences have helped to shape you,
but since you are able to step back and ask this reflective question, you should also be able to stand up to what is right and keep it in check. it sounds like you have the intelligence to do that.
mentor your half brother, show him there is a better way, by example.
be the strong one here.
and pray for your dad.
2006-10-05 18:13:50 · answer #1 · answered by David S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the question you should be asking is to yourself..... you father has no choice in what road you decide to take through life that is your choice.... i have a son 16 now who was going down the wrong road and as parents all we could do was advice him what life held for him if he continued on this path and pray that he would see the light...we did not choose for him to get in trouble in school all of the time nor did we choose for him to carry the reputation that he is now working so diligently to get rid of.... is your father innocent that i cannot answer because i do not know the kind of life that he is living and be able to tell whether this is your choice or a choice of roll playing your father....my only wish to you is please sit down and write down all of the wrong things that you do but at the same time write down the good things and then search your heart and remember how the actions made you feel and i have faith in you that you will see the the good way of life is the road that you need to turn on and be there for your brother and be a role model not a role player good luck to you
2006-10-05 18:21:37 · answer #2 · answered by penelope 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think telling your father he sucks will help your brother? I doubt it.
You are old enough to take responsibilty for yourself. You can get a job and get new friends and find someone to talk to about your rage issues. And if you do that, you will be a good example to your little brother. That is the most important thing you could do.
Do you think he could help you? If not, leave him alone. Do your own thing and figure out your own goals.
2006-10-05 18:16:39 · answer #3 · answered by Katherine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guess what dude, if you realize he didn't do a good job then it means you know what YOU are doing wrong and need to change yourself. Your father may have done the best he could but if that wasn't good enough then fix it. You are coping out by putting on the blame on him, that some responsibility for your own actions.
2006-10-05 18:14:44 · answer #4 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel that like that but not like u i just hate him for controlling my life and i just dont want to tell him and all so i just have to move out and get away when i graduate from high school and i have like 8 months left so yeah i think you should tell him b/c u have the freedom of speech and thought but dont just yell it out just say it like an adult since u are an adult so yeah
2006-10-05 18:15:11 · answer #5 · answered by mrmach@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL A THIS POINT, THE ANSWER WOULD BE NO....YOUR 20 HE MORE THEN LIKLY FEELS HIS WORK IS DONE WHEN IT COMES TO YOU. AND YOU NOW ARE GROWN AND NO RIGHT FROM WRONG....BUT WHAT YOU NEED TO DO NOW IS....WATCH OUT FOR YOUR BROTHER, IF YOUR DAD IS NOT THE STRONG ONE, OR BEING THE TEACHER (right/wrong) THEN YOU NEED TO PLAY THE ROLL AND DO RIGHT BY YOUR BROTHER.................STEP UP
2006-10-05 18:21:55 · answer #6 · answered by chinadoll 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it really depends if you have an open communication. if not and you think you would really hurt him. why not trying to write him a letter instead. tell him that you want him to improve. that the reason you ar telling him this is because you love him
2006-10-05 18:14:06 · answer #7 · answered by crystalink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well talk to him in a nice way dont just go to him and say "You this" , "You that!", Just tell him how you feel.
I feel that...!
2006-10-05 18:12:17 · answer #8 · answered by El Morrito De Phoenix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it ain't good
2006-10-05 18:13:40 · answer #9 · answered by (l)SR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋