I allwod this guy to get close to me. I now I feel left out in the cold due to he is married. How do I get over this hurt feeling an move forward.
2006-10-05 17:52:06 · 16 answers · asked by demetricegrn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
by finding another married man, then cause HIS wife and kids pain they will have to endure for the rest of their lives cause you two are extremely selfish.
Oh poor me, boo hoo me, married man don't like me. Think about others for once maybe?
2006-10-05 17:54:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Put bluntly, start caring for a man who is not married. A therapist might tell you to write a letter to this married man. You will not ever send it. The letter will be an expression of how you feel hurt and left out in the cold. It will be your first step in moving forward.
2006-10-05 18:01:07 · answer #2 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me be all the way real with you on this.I have a child by a married man.Listen closely LEAVE HIM ALONE.TRUST ME I KNOW THE FEELING OF BEING IN LOVE AND GETTING CAUGHT UP IN THE HYPE.GIRL DONT BELIEVE THE HYPE.THAT IS BULLSH*T.HE AINT NEVER GONE LEAVE,HE'S USING U AS A ESCAPE FROM HIM PROBLEMS @ HOME AND U ENABLE HIM TO CONTINUE ON WITH HIS MARRIAGE.HE HAS NO REASON TO LEAVE B/C HE HAS HIS CAKE AND IS EATING IT TO.I KNOW ITS HARD AND IM OVER IT NOW BUT look you deserve your own man and you dont come second best to anyone.When I did it I was obviously @ a low point in my life and my selfesteem was shot,I dint know that and couldnt admit it till now.So is yours.Im sure ur a great girl but do away with the heart ache and pain b/c he will get over it and you will be left to deal with it.Cut all contact and take time to find out who you are and what you deserve.It aint him.Please leave.I love my child and so does the father but this is on eof many things that can happen.Thats her man let her have him.Carma is a mothaf*cka trust me ive had my share.
2006-10-05 18:02:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate to this. Sorry that I can't answer your question because I am actually going through it too. I didn't now that he was married until after a year of us being together. I should have asked this question. The feeling of pain and hurt brings the anger to the surface.
2006-10-05 17:59:31 · answer #4 · answered by Lady C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not hard. YOu do the right thing and stop having contact with him in any way.
You get over it by realizing how dumb and immoral it was for you to be involved in this. This is partly on you. Your not a victim; this poor guys wife and family is. Stop being a part of this and stop all communication.
2006-10-05 17:58:35 · answer #5 · answered by Ice4444 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get away from the married man. If you work in the same place, start looking for a job someplace else. If you are neighbors, begin looking for a place to move. If you are in the same church, find another. You savvy?
2006-10-05 17:55:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you knew up front he was married, you knew he could never be with you the way you wanted him to be..atleast when you wanted him to be...or like you want him to be, suck it up and move on you knew what was going on...if you feel cold grab a blanket and wrap up..and dont expect him to keep you warm he has a wife and you knew it. do you really expect him to come running to you??? he cant.hes married for a reson. and stays there for a reason. you was just a comfort at the time. move on, you deserve better. good luck.
2006-10-05 18:01:49 · answer #7 · answered by countryrose24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try not even calling him and look for other hot guys that are singles out there.. it's not easy but deep in your heart u know that the married guy is your big brother that you will never forget.. u care about him because of the friendship that u have!!
2006-10-05 17:56:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in a similar situation, yet I was unaware of his marriage until after the fact of him luring me in with his charm and flirtation. Of course I had already fallen for him, I just try to imagine the bad things about him, think about his wife, and also try to ignore him and avoid him at all costs. Good luck to you, and I feel your pain. God bless!
2006-10-05 18:07:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put yourself in his spouses shoes and you will see what a skunk he is. That should do the trick. Don't mess w/ married men, it will never make you happy.
2006-10-05 17:54:28 · answer #10 · answered by Val 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋