Well...so he left me out of the blue 8 months ago over a stupid,stupid fight that WASNT my fault-but i missed him so much that i practically begged him to forgive me (how humiliating..) though its his bad but he remained stubborn. So I suffered but made up my mind like 5 months ago NEVER to take him back. But now he's like acting strange and wanting us to get back together again but I can't - the relationship was too painful while it lasted and the way he left me was totally unacceptable . Its too painful i dont ever want to think about it (more so to relive it ) but he's like so sad now and losing weight. I want him to forget me and move on (its easy really because he's attractive) but he's refusing and acting like a baby. I really care about him because we started off as very close friend, just that he messed up, but it really is OVER - i refuse to go back. Are there any ways for me to talk this out with him WITHOUT sounding mean and causing more pain than is necessary?
2006-10-05 17:51:15 · 14 answers · asked by aishah 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
honestly i would let sleeping dogs lie you get it ?dont go waking things up now leave them as is he has to accept the fact that its over and remember he left you in the blue and all the pain and rejection remember what that was like you passed that phase so my advice to you leave him alone and just say hi and bye whenever you do bump heads and just keep it moving trust me he will stop all the drama once he sees you really have no interests in him just dont look back trust me if you do you will be sorry good luck.
2006-10-05 17:59:17 · answer #1 · answered by ellie_m1123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that the break-up hurt so bad that you are withdrawing yourself from him. Like once biten, twice shy. You feel that you just can't afford to go into it right now. you have a wall built. But, it doesn't mean that it is completely over. Tell him you really need some serious time off and concentrate on other stuff. Tell him how about 6 months to a year.
Then after 6 months to a year, you repeat the same statement for another 6 months and a year.
So, he will gradually goes away.
2006-10-06 00:56:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start it off by saying how great of a person and friend he is to you...(make him feel good about himself)..then say you much rather be a good friend like you guys were from the start. That being with him were some of the greatest times in your life, but now you have to move on. And you would hate to lose him as a friend...(of course you are just saying this to him to make him feel good about himself..but you really are meaning that this is it for you two.) He'll leave a little hurt, but he will feel good at what you told him about you two in the past and that he "thinks" he can still be a good friend to you. It might work. If not, go for the jugular. You have to cut him off, Tell him to go starve himself to death, cause you ain't taking him back...EVER.
2006-10-06 01:00:21 · answer #3 · answered by Dvldog2323 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's going to hurt no matter what. You have to be straight with him, and that's that. It would be worse if you lead him to believe something could happen in the future if that's not what you want. Stop taking his calls and responding to his e-mails. It may sound harsh, but if you keep giving him hope, he won't move on.
2006-10-06 00:55:30 · answer #4 · answered by tsopolly 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Their is no easy way around this. And unfortunately, you can't count on turning him away and him actually being happy about it. If you value his friendship, lay out the ground rules for friendship and be firm.
2006-10-06 01:01:24 · answer #5 · answered by divad 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This happened to me once and ultimately I had to totally ignore the guy. If you take his calls, you're giving him the attention he wants. He needs help, he needs friends, true, but you are not the person who should help him or be his friend right now.
2006-10-06 00:54:50 · answer #6 · answered by Katherine 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
tell him it would be best to be just friends because there will always be somthing from our past that will come between us. I want the both of us to be happy and we can't accomplish that with each other
2006-10-06 00:57:04 · answer #7 · answered by sngozig 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Say this "In order for me to truly honour and cherish what we once had, I have to end this chapter of our romantic relationship because I know in setting you free I am sending you to a happier place."
2006-10-06 00:54:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
just remember everything that he put you thru and be honest dint have to be cruel.
and he has to accept his reality that is over, i know it is not easy but when they decide to dump a girl they just do it.
they don't think it twice
2006-10-06 00:58:33 · answer #9 · answered by IVETTE 7/26 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop all communicaiton. It will hurt yes but its the best method. keep your distance from him and keep silent.
each day that passes will get easier./dg
2006-10-06 00:56:04 · answer #10 · answered by demetricegrn 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋