so my boyfriend and his ex dated a while and every time i ask i don't get complete answers until later... like he said he caused a stain on his floor by spilling soda about 3 months ago ( this stain is in his bedroom!!!)... today i found out it was his ex. they are still friends and she is basically a slut. am i being paranoid? as i find out more and more stuff like that i become more and more jealous almost. they are good friends so i can't tell him he can't talk to her, yet it bothers me when i hear about her or when he is with her. i get these jealous feelings everytime she talks to him. is this normal?
2006-10-05 17:45:59 · 29 answers · asked by confused 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well yea it is normal! You are really protective. every person has the same feelings over someone. sometimes the feeling might tell the truth, but sometimes not. i cannot tell u if he is cheating on u because i dont know him. on your place i should keep an eye on him... o yea wtf is up with the stain on his bed? a soda stain can get cleaned. i know cuz i spilled a cup of pepsi blue on the wall :P
2006-10-05 17:50:33 · answer #1 · answered by polish 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is normal to feel jealous. What's not normal is the situation. I mean, there's nothing wrong with being friends after being a couple, the problem is that he isn't honest with you. But on the other hand, maybe he isn't telling you these things because he knows there will be trouble and wants to keep you from feeling bad. Unfortunately, boys are really bad at this, cause we can keep it a secret for two weeks after it happens, but then we tell on ourselves without knowing. Talk to him and ask him to tell you these things, you will get used to them, because as you said you can't tell him not to see her again. If after telling him he still keeps this situations for himself, then it will be the perfect time to start looking for someone else. Good luck!
2006-10-05 17:53:28 · answer #2 · answered by Horumaket 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am dating one guy and I am good friends with an ex boyfriend. I think it should be OK for him to be friends with her. BUT the part about your story that I don't like is that he's not being honest with you. When I talk to my ex, I don't mind if my current boyfriend is in the same room. I have nothing to hide from him. And he knows that I'm trying to fix up my ex with a good woman so it's very clear to him that we are not getting back together. I went out of my way to introduce the two. So I would say, it is normal for you to expect him to keep everything in the open. You should be able to go along when he hangs out with her and listen in on his phone conversations if there is nothing for him to hide.
2006-10-05 17:51:48 · answer #3 · answered by pamgissa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to be jealous. Why is he still in contact with her? You need to communicate to him how you feel so that he understands it makes you uncomfortable. He should be respectful of your feelings. If my boyfriend was still friends with an ex and hanging out with her continually, I would take it as a sign of him not being genuinely interested in me. Friends with an ex would make me suspicious. Talk to him and tell him how you feel, and hear what he has to say about this.
2006-10-05 17:53:54 · answer #4 · answered by Kaylin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like they still have something going on. what the hell was she doing in his bedroom anyway. i would be super pissed off. you should give him a ultimatum. tell him he needs to choose between you and the ex, if he chooses the ex, hes an *** and you would be better off without him. if it was really love in the first place you would not have any doubts. there are still some good guys out there, don't give up. and p.s. those feelings are not normal
2006-10-05 17:58:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes more then likely you should be jealous .But like you said what can you do about it. And face it who are you hurting? You girl just you .No man is Worth it. If he really cares he will be sure the felling will go a way . I,am sure he knows how it makes you fell without saying a word.So love yourself first.If he care you wont stay jealous long.
2006-10-05 19:46:11 · answer #6 · answered by thelma_shane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to reconsider a new boyfriend. Something's fishy going on and you have the right feeling, telling you somethings going on.It seems like he's hiding things from you and if he's hanging out with his ex and not paying much attention to you and still talking to her theirs something going on. Word from the wise.
(If you feel this way around him or her and it doesn't feel right and he's not up front with you then their is something happening.If your not comfortable about this then move on.Theirs many fish in the sea.
Maybe while your with this loser maybe just maybe theirs a really good looking man having his eye on you as your dealing
with this loser.
GoodLuck telling this loser off.
2006-10-05 18:07:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he told you a lie about the stain on the floor, then he is lying about other things! You better watch out, he is up to no good that is "VERY" clear. So no your not overreacting, honestly your underreacting.
If they lie about small things, they will lie about the big ones, don't ever forget that.
2006-10-05 17:48:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Believe me they are still on. They still have interests on each other. Stay clear of this because it will get all muddy as to which woman he really likes. He is not over her. This will be a long battle for you. The question is "do you want to put the time?"
2006-10-05 17:50:05 · answer #9 · answered by Wondering myself 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are acting normal - very normal. only cases in which a guy can be friends with ex is when two conditions are fulfilled :
his new gf get along ok with his ex
he can demonstrate trust, complete trust.
Sorry to say in your case both conditions are off, so ask him to stay away from her or you stay away from him.
Respect your feelings when they are right sweety, life is precious, heart even more so!
2006-10-05 17:50:00 · answer #10 · answered by Puneet S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋