Theres a guy I been talking to online for a month. We really hit it off. We've spent part of nearly everyday talking, at times for 2+ hours...hes sweet, hot and he seemed to really be into me. We've talked about meeting in person. Heres my prob: This week has really been a hard one for me, stress, problems, raging hormones, etc. The last 2 days, I havent talked to him, so today I sent him a msg thru myspace which he read but didn't reply. 3 hrs later I sent him an IM and got no reply. Then I sent a msg that said "You should know by now that I like you, but Im tired of feeling like the one doing all the pursuing...if you're still interested you know how to reach me." He sent me one back saying ok? I thought you knew I was swamped this week. I replied, No, Mon. when we talked you said you were swamped, but I havent talked to you since to know. I later sent an Im sorry type of msg...he read it but I got no reply. I realize now I overreacted but dont know what to do next...help
2006-10-05 17:42:34 · 9 answers · asked by Doogie 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wanted to clarify a couple of things...First I didn't meet him on a online dating svc...he sought me out after seeing my profile on myspace..he sent me probably 3 messages before I even replied. Early on in thing situation, he'd leave me messages on IM...when I'd sign on in the morning, there'd be an offline msg from him. Also, we only live about 50 miles apart...they only thing that has kept us from meeting up has been that we work conflicting schedules therefore, making it a bit more difficult to get together.
2006-10-05 18:02:19 · update #1
I also wanted to add that we've talked on the phone several times as well. Again, he was the one who sought me out, leaving me msgs, being complimentary and flattering and seemed to enjoy talking with me about any and every thing. But it seems like once he felt he "had" me, that I was into him, he started to back off a bit. That's something that was/is so very confusing. Sorry to ramble, but I couldn't include alot of this info in my original post due to space issues.
2006-10-05 18:13:27 · update #2
I think the problem is that you do not have a relationship in person, but only online. That is not a good relationship to begin with. But I think if he really liked you, he would have at least sent a few words your way. I know I would, if only to give you a little update. I suggest you seek out men in person and not online next time. If you really want to see if you have something going with that guy, then wait until next week and see if he is more responsive. But if you can not meet him easily and often in person, then I do not see much hope for your relationship. Good luck!
2006-10-05 17:50:21 · answer #1 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's got mental problems. Most likely a maniac depressive without his medicaiton.. The way he first wants to talk and chat and then a few days later just turns cold like that.
Besides how old is this stalker that "found " you on my-space?
If I were you, I'd at least wait on the next bus (slang for get another boyfriend). If he comes around , fine. But in worst case, you can maybe make him notice you by saying you and Bubba went out the other night to see or do whatever.
A guy wants a girl more when he sees she is of worth in the eyes of other guys. It makes them slightly jealous. Don't shove Bubba down his face and don't tell every detail. He doesn't want to know. Just saying we went to ______ and saying "yes" when this pc guy asks if you had a good time, it may be all it takes to get him to notice you.
And if not, you already have a suitor in waiting.
Good Luck.
2006-10-05 17:57:55 · answer #2 · answered by captn_carrot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your coming on way too strong. Dont send him anymore messages, if he wants to talk let him be the one to initiate the conversation other than that leave him alone.
Online dating and whatnot is not a good impression on a guy anyways it makes you seem desperate.
2006-10-05 17:47:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try to stop over reacting. Relationships aren't the only thing in the world for people to deal with. He will be okay with you not spending every moment of life right now.
2006-10-05 17:48:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
loopy in a competent way. as quickly as I met my Gemini schoolmate I knew she the two had to be saggitarius or a Gemini. i'm loopy interior and while i'm around a Gemini I permit the loopy out. i like it and that i admire how they make me experience. they are basically unfastened and that they talk lots and that they take risks.
2016-10-15 21:35:32 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, heres what i would do,
write one more saying hey i know i over reacted ive been having a hard week myself, i shouldnt have taken it out on you... im sorry...
then just say, well i hope to here from you soon untill then seeya,
that way he knows its in his hands to make contact, but you just cant write back to him until he does you,
good luck
2006-10-05 17:54:08 · answer #6 · answered by Boots 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything. He'll come around. Just watch and wait, cuz if you keep trying he'll really back off.
2006-10-05 17:48:29 · answer #7 · answered by Pinkie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guess he got too many "crack pot" messages. or else He has too many to answer, better luck next time.
2006-10-05 17:47:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
TAKE IT SLOW.
2006-10-05 17:46:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋