i have a problem i'm working with my bf in the same place, only that i have a degree he hasn't recently i got an offer from my boss my salary is going to be higher, like: he 500 and i 1000, he says that maybe we're going to have problems in the future, and i think maybe he is right but i love him, but nowhe is very upsed i dont know what to do
2006-10-05 17:29:31 · 18 answers · asked by cindyosita 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well... it's normal, don't you think?
Us, women, think with our heart while men think with their heads.
So, since you love him, you just encounter the fact of the higher salary as expected "Oh, good! More money for both of us" while he thinks "She's bringing the bread for the family" which is opposite to masculine attitude.
So, you see, it's normal... You will definately have problems, because what happens in your relationship needs lots of maturity to overcome and I do not know if your bf has this level of maturity...
On the other hand, don't let this opportunity go by, even if this means that you will have problems in the furture; there are always temptations but if a relationship is solid enough, there will be no problems.
Good luck!
2006-10-05 17:49:25 · answer #1 · answered by ngiapapa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm shocked that you have a degree and you can't spell "upset" or know anything about grammar.
If he is upset that you make more money than him he is a loser, that sounds misogynistic to me. Women should be allowed to be the bread winners in a family too. Talk to him about it, see why he is upset and tell him he needs to come to terms with it. You can't hold yourself back because he's not as good as you. He's not right, let him go to school and get a higher degree than you, or work extra hard and get a raise. He doesn't deserve more money just because he's a man. Don't feel bad for your success. He needs to deal with it and be proud for you.
2006-10-05 17:52:08 · answer #2 · answered by alley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that sucks
seriously the promblem really starts with the fact your working together
it's hard to do so if you get it 2 work i give you Props
Be like "I adore you and you know that but if you have a problem with how much money i'm making i don't know what you expect me 2 do about it, am I supposed to make less money to make you feel better?"
Honestly though this guy sounds like a jerk... You sound liek way to nice of a girl for some d0ushbag who would say something like that.
2006-10-05 17:33:19 · answer #3 · answered by Coxie Megan 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you got a degree with that spelling and grammar then I would say he doesn't have a problem because you're probably not going to go much farther than you already have.
That having been said, welcome your boyfriend to the 21st century-where it is possible for women to make as much as, if not more than, men. Tell him to seek some counseling to help him deal with his feelings of inadequacy and unfounded machismo.
2006-10-05 17:34:32 · answer #4 · answered by elk312 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He can't be upset with you just because you make more than him. You work hard for your degree and he should be happy for you. In the relationship there's no compeition instead that gf and bf should help each other, encourage each other, support each other, and love each other. He should understand and you should feel it's your fault.
2006-10-05 17:39:11 · answer #5 · answered by weniki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boy friend is highly egoistic. He is of a oldy type man, tell him that money should not be a source for break in a relationship. If he has this inhibitations you will have very big problems after marriage.
2006-10-05 17:35:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi there!
have the same situation here...... the difference is i have job and he don't have.... its hard because we seldom see each other and go out... i cant talk to him too much about work because i always think that i might offend him or something.... to make things smooth i just boost his morale and encourage him more in finding job....
talk to him.... i know he wont be upset if you will explain about it.... and in return he will understand it.... hope that would help... God bless! =)
2006-10-06 06:11:59 · answer #7 · answered by simply_mica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, who cares! If he leaves you because of that, than at least you can support your self on your salary!
what a loser...his girl makes more money than he does....
2006-10-05 17:31:56 · answer #8 · answered by Svetlana D 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well don't worry, its male egoism, talk to ur bf, tell him that it doesn't make any difference, tell him that u still love him and needs his love as well, tell him that u haven't changed over the time, make him understand that these materialistic thing has no place in love.
2006-10-05 17:35:55 · answer #9 · answered by rohit 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relationships rarely workout when you work together. But also, his ego is bruised, but hey, he should've gotten a degree if he wanted to make more money. i say, you go!
2006-10-05 17:33:20 · answer #10 · answered by Val 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋