My sons behavior in school. He is six and has gone through some devistating things in the past two years.?

Question

My son has had these thing happen in the last two years, I was in a sledding accident, so one day we were out having fun the next i was gone for three weeks in the hospital, then we had to move. After I healed my daughter who was 19 years older than him was diagnosed with cervical cancer, he watched her throw up on a daily basis and lots of care revolved around her for over a year to which she passed away this past june, we then had to move again. The day his sister died he did not cry, My son is a child who does not do well with change, he likes to know a routine. We still are working on one at home being I also have my granddaughter who is 7. He also has gone from a private kindergaden to a public first grade. He is not doing well with the school rules of no touching other students and staying in his seat. He is very angry, I feel the school i aiming at me although my friends and family tell me i am doing nothing wrong. Also his dad is not involved in his life, md knows, etc

Answer 1

My goodness, those are some awful challenges.. how are you doing, first off? I imagine that you are doing everything you can to get by emotionally, good days/bad ones.. I can't even imagine..well I am indeed sorry, I was thinking of you first, because well, imagine a child of 6-7 dealing with everything that you are dealing with. You have the logical thinking to see what needs to be done, to anticipate what is going to happen, and you're juggling it all, and it sounds like you're the only one to be counted upon. Now.. your son is doing it completely in the dark, unanswered, afraid, uncertain, confused, and can't use any outlet for dealing with all this. You might be diverting you own emotions into just trying to stay afloat, while he doesnt' know how to do that.

My first advice is to inform the school of the issues that you and your family have been dealing with. Ask for a school therapist, (sometimes they have counselors, or can provid services or information regarding it). Second, if you've got anyone to help take some load off you, call them, and now is the time to ask. Join a church if you are so inclined, as this can be a valuable resource as well. Look online for some support forums and chat rooms, they might be beneficial, at least in getting out some of the heartache and frustration. Pull out the yellow pages, and make some calls for family therapy, you all need it, as this is way to much a burden for you, and if someone can help relieve this situation, use it!

Your son is angry, cause what has occurred to him and what he has witnessed is unfair. Remember being that age and the naiveness of thinking that we had. The world was a happy place, and we didn't have a care in the world. His little mind can't process all this hardship, so he needs to be able to understand it and vent, and cry, and cope.

I'm sorry for what you've gone through, and my words might not mean a thing, but I believe you are strong, heck you've proven that by letting us all know what your managing, despite it all. Hang in there, I wish you well!

Answer 2

When you get a be aware dwelling style university ( regardless of the grade stage ) you will have to prepare a individual assembly with the instructor. Face to stand is consistently bigger than notes or mobile calls. Discuss precisely what the trouble is after which come to a mutual contract of ways its to be treated. Never permit a trouble linger on for each and every-ones sake. You will then have a miles bigger inspiration, easy methods to put in force behaviour alterations at dwelling. Keep in brain a few little one are traditional talkers and uncover it very intricate to not speak out of flip. This is in which well magnificence room educating practises are available in. Some lecturers uncover this difficult to enforce within the magnificence room . This isn't to mention the instructor isn't committed and does not do his/her task good. The effortless approach out is to put in writing notes to moms and dads, in wish that they may be able to uncover the reply. If he's very brilliant and bored, then an enrichment software is to ensure that him. Most faculties have this or will make the notion of advancing him one grade stage. It is consistently fine to look a blissful little one within the magnificence room. These are the youngsters, that uncover studying a laugh and effortless. He demands to be talked to via his trainer and your self in combination and also you each ought to attempt to paintings to in combination as a workforce, in this behaviour. Cussing is not ever allowed and he demands to get the message it isn't. As some distance a punishment for what has already occurred, I might overlook that. However, after your assembly together with his trainer, then at some point, you'll enforce grounding, casting off toys, and many others., or what ever you agreed on. He is blissful and demands to stick that approach. Good success to you and your son. ( Connie Mom of four and fifth. grade trainer

Answer 3

get him into to counseling immediately and have the school psychologist do and assessment screening on him immediately PLEASE do not let this go it will only get worse believe me i went through it with two of my sons and as soon as i recognized there was a problem i took immediate steps to intervene PLEASE for the sake of your child this is the best advice being that i have been there and done that in fact with my 12 year old i thought he was a normal child just very stubborn and refusing to listen or do his schoolwork an just thought he had a bad temper,,,, bad tempers cannot be put off just as that "bad tempers" it is also known as anger management and there is all kind of help and counseling for this anyway when i had my 12 yr old assessed here the problem was not actually with him directly he has be diagnosed with Mild Mental Retardation and i have him in special education and he has and IEP in place and God let me tell you I do not regret doing it one bit he is a much happier child and now that we know what is wrong we are able to adapt too his ways...if for no one Else's sake SAVE YOUR SON FROM UNNECESSARY AGONY THROUGHOUT LIFE my deepest sypathy go out to you and your son may god bless you

Answer 4

You really need to find him a good mental health counselor who specializes with children. Check with the juvenile division of your local law enforcement agency and see who they send their child victims to - they are usually the best. Or talk to your medical doctor. Your son has had a lot to deal with at such a young age and he probably needs a little help in dealing with those things the doesn't actually have the capacity to deal with. Good luck.

Answer 5

im sorry that you and he had such a traumatic two years. just remember that you have each other. talk to him on a daily basis everyday all day if you have to. you are his stability.
my daughter is 7 and just lost what she has always known, so i know your pain. i lost my mother to cancer, my home to my father and his girlfriend, my brother to prison.....now we are living with a relative who is 90 and i am caring for her....my duaghter is showing anger.....i know that i am her stability so i talk to her all the time.
the more you talk to your children, the easier it will be for them to open up and talk to you.

Answer 6

tell him you love him.
don't be frightened of his emotions.
hold him firmly
let him know that you are in control
tell him to do as he would be done by
let him know that it will all be ok

when he's a big boy.

Answer 7

poor thing, my advice is to take him to see a psychologist.
he needs professional help soon, if not he'll always be angry

Answer 8

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