my parents are on my back about it, mostly to have kids, and i dont want to at all, to me their are to many kids out their who need us, and dont have anyone to love them, what about them, anyway im only 29, when i look at the way my brother treats his wife, and the kids are their to see it all, i just dont want to turn out like them, and my parents use to fight all the time, over little thing's, so i moves out when i was 18, i just dont want to end up like anyone in my family, cause i see what it has done to the rest of them, the women go through hell, so im turned off of getting married and haveing kids, i look after my brothers kids all the time, and i love kid,s but why wont my family just leave me alone
2006-10-05 17:12:15 · 4 answers · asked by louise 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I believe you have given excellent reasons why not to have kids and exhibited how you have the maturity to make the decision. Bravo.
2006-10-05 17:15:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one should get married and have kids because others expect that of them. Neither the marriage nor the parenting will succeed. But I do feel some concern about you ever naturally being able to follow through, if you meet a great guy and you are so good with kids, because you've seen terrible role models. Try and frequent happier families. They're out there.
2006-10-06 00:36:03 · answer #2 · answered by browneyedgirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to get married and have kids, then don't. This is your life, not theirs. Follow your instincts, do what you think is best for you. You know yourself better than anyone else, you know what you want and what will make you happy. You decide for yourself. You said you're 29, you're very young and have plenty of time to decide. If oneday you find someone, don't think he's going to be just like your brother. Everyone is different. Of course everyone seems nice at first, but if you ever find yourself in a situation just like your brother's wife, you can always GET OUT. Always do what's best for you. This is not about being selfish. A lot of women suffer because they don't always think for themselves.
2006-10-06 01:05:58 · answer #3 · answered by Angelina 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to sit your parents down and state to them clearly and without raising your voice - "i 'm 29 and quite happy, when and if i decide to have children or get married is a very personal decision, i will make this decision on my own and when the time is right for me, i will not discuss this subject anymore but i am grateful for your love and concern, i will come to you when i have anything to talk about in this area"
and here is the tricky part "stick to this", just walk away without a word every time they bring it up. eventually they will see you mean it and they will stop nagging you. it has just become a habit for them. good luck in your future what ever you do.
2006-10-06 02:19:14 · answer #4 · answered by sunirose2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋