my son is 7 and always thought as his stepfather as daddy who he love unconditionally, and never get to see his real dad! but when my husband (step dad)get mad at me says he got one child. I got 2 son, one by my husband.
2006-10-05 17:10:52 · 17 answers · asked by birdsdafly 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think hes a step dad of a brat!
2006-10-05 17:12:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
I think that's a pretty cheap shot,, and a low one at that. Seems your husband is drawing the line between the two children, and when he's angry, he immediately protects what he feels is the investment in the relationship and that is,, what he said, HIS 1 child. Obviously he's got some deeper issues, and they aren't good, even a regrettable apology after the fact, can't change that those unkind words. Especially when it takes so much effort to put into making extended families work.
Seems he married you, and well, it's a package deal. He needs to see that a child can give unconditional love, and doesn't see him as being any other form of parent, but dad. There really isn't a difference anyway. God bless those that step up to the plate, and wear that hat everyday for transitioning into merged families, but this guy has set himself apart, and perhaps need to know that if a child overhears those words, they will surely recent the person, and suffer in many ways.
I can't say that your husband needs to do this or that, it's on him. However, make sure that you are creating bonds for your entire family. Make sure you don't display any difference in parenting skills, or discipline. You both have to be on board with each other about BOTH children. Make sure first that it's not something that you need to evaluate. I wish you well on this one! My best!
2006-10-05 17:25:23 · answer #2 · answered by Manatee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think/know that's some bull crap! Your husband is telling you how he really feel about having a step-child. Meaning he don't. He should acknowledge your son as his own natural child. When you two said "I DO", he said I do to your son also. You both have two sons...there should not be a separation with the children. Meaning treating one better than the other. Hopefully your 7 year old don't hear him saying bad words like that.
2006-10-05 18:15:54 · answer #3 · answered by Lady C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs parenting classes and hopefully that will help if not dont let it drag on I dealt with that and stayed 15 yrs too long my ex would belittle my son which always tried to be close to his stepdad (since the age of 5)the three children we had would always tell me why do you stay with Dad he is hateful right outta the mouths of babes.He belittled my son for going to college to be a teacher said it was a job nobody wanted never praised him for being on the deans list or anything.I thankful when I wake every morning I made change because he never changed in 15 yrs.Good Luck
2006-10-05 17:17:21 · answer #4 · answered by luckiestarrr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be outraged. You need to put your foot down, imagine how your son actually feels about this? Hearing him say that, how worthless the poor boy would feel! I would tell your husband, my child came with this package and if you cant love us all the same then we wont be here for you to love at all.
2006-10-05 17:13:20 · answer #5 · answered by ♡MaNda♡ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he was just angry and saying that biologically he has only fathered one child. Give him a break, if he really does love his stepson it doesn't matter if he gets fed up with the pressure some times. If he does it day in day out then teach your son secret swears and add fuel to the psycholigal fire
2006-10-05 17:15:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all say things when we are mad but that is crossing the line. What if your son over heard? You need to talk to him about it and see where his feelings are. If he doesn't love both of your children then find someone who will.
2006-10-05 17:13:37 · answer #7 · answered by betty_htch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's an idiot! Your obligation is to protect and care for your children since you chose to bring them into the world. I think it is selfish of your husband to say this even if he is only saying it to get your mad. You need to let him know it is unacceptable and that you WON'T stand for it. If it persists I think you have to come to terms with the fact you married an @ss and remove you and your children from the situation.
Best Wishes, I'm sure this isn't easy!
2006-10-05 17:12:25 · answer #8 · answered by poetic princess 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 21:34:55 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May be he is talking in fit of anger. IF he normally does not speak like that, no need to worry, he will cool down and back tonormal in few minutesagain with same old affection
2006-10-05 17:15:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Step daddy needs to grow the f**k up!
2006-10-05 17:12:49 · answer #11 · answered by Val 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋