Postpardem?

Question

Has anyone ever been so scared that something would happen to your baby that you can't sleep at night and you cry all the time? I have anxiety that something will happen to him. I just love him sooo much. I know this is not healthy for him to have a crazy mom. What do I do?

Answer 1

You are not crazy, your hormones are raging still and all new moms feel anxiety.

You are probably just exhausted, get your husband or another relative to take baby for a few hrs, between feedings. Either spend that time sleeping, taking a soothing bath, reading, or doing whatever relaxes you most.

Tell your OB/GYN how you feel, they can help.

With my first, I had trouble sleeping because of anxiety, so I put my baby in his carriage and next to my bed, I slept with my hand on his tummy. We both did great.

Deep breaths, babies are remarkably durable little people.

Norton is a girl (sorry for any confusion).

Answer 2

You sound like a normal mom to me. Try taking a newborn care class or find a great local new moms group to talk with to help ease your anxiety. If you have not been to your 6 week checkup yet mention it when you go and if it is severe enough get treated.
There is no shame in PPD and if you are taking care of you then you are taking care of baby. Keep loving him and you will find your way. Mothering is called an art for a reason, most of use don't know exactly what to do the 1st time around on everything.

Answer 3

I have panic & anxiety disorder. For those of you reading this thinking I should see a doctor I have seen 6 different ones over the last 19 years, been on several meds & none them work 100%.
Anyway, I try very hard to be aware of how I feel so I won't be letting the baby see what mommy is going through. I always talk to him like I'm the happiest person in the world & that everything is just fine & dandy. My family is aware of my situation and they are really helping to make sure I learn to "let go" and not try to keep him so close, by that I mean not letting him go anywhere without me. Always having to have him in my sight 24/7. It's not easy at all, but after the first 4 or 5 times he was taken to my dad or my m-i-l's without me I started getting better about it. I actually started to enjoy the time I had where I was not constantly responsible for him every single second.
My husband is constantly telling me, after our baby goes to sleep for the night "check on him", "what's he doing?", "how's he laying?"..... I tell him that I can not sit up all night & watch the baby sleep. I told him that he just has to pray that the baby sleeps safely every night.
You think you're having anxiety?? My husband has been to the ER 3 times thinking he was having a heart attack, and even started seeing a cardiologist & had to stress test done. I knew he was just having bad anxiety attacks over the baby, but he wouldn't listen to me. Once he had the stress test & had it confirmed that his heart was ok he was fine.
So, to finally answer your question, what you're going through is normal. As far as what you do, you will just have to learn to have faith & trust that he's going to be ok. If you can not get over these fears you might want to talk to a doctor about a mild medication to help settle you down.
Good Luck.

Answer 4

yes I had a sick little girl and if she didnt wake me every 20min (cause she normally would) I would have to check on her cause I was afraid something was wrong. The crying is probably due to lack of sleep. Maybe you should have someone over while you rest up that way you know nothing is wrong with baby so you can sleep and once you sleep you want be crying so much P.S if you cry it makes you more tired

Answer 5

Don't worry, that is normal to feel that way. I have three kids and you never stop having those feelings when they are very little yet. It's because your baby is so little that you feel over protective. As your baby grows, you will be more assured and feel more comfortable about many things. As for the crying... I've been there too and I know that it makes you feel like a monster with all those weird hormones and emotions running loose,,,,, but trust me that will pass too! wink

Answer 6

my daughter in ten know, and i can rem. when she was just born be so nervous that i woke up sleep walken i woke up in her closet. i rem staring at her when she was esleep making sure she was breathing, i would wake her up sometimes just to hear her cry, and girl, my daughter was three days old befor i actually held her, she was 10 pounds three ounces but to me she still looked so little, i was scared i was going to hurt her. i had the nurce lay her next to me in the bed, i would just stare at her and rub her pretty little head. so yes, i know the feeling you are feeling. all i can say is good luck, but to this day i still keep watch over my child, it is a mother instink i think, i worry about her so much. but the feeling of being a mother is the best thing in the world, enjoy it while you can bc every day my child pushes me away just alittle more like now she does not want me to walk her to her class room, she wants to be dropped off. i cant hold her like i use to, so, enjoy it while you can, love him, or her as much as possible. and thank GOD everyday that he gave you the best gift in the world. HE MADE YOU A MOM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 7

I had that feeling post-partem and also on-going. If your child is a newborn under a year, you are likely suffering from post-partem issues, and you should talk to your obstetrician/gynecologist. If your child is older you should talk to your regular medical doctor. you may be suffering from another sort of anxiety disorder. Either way, don't put it off. Fear is paralyzing and you cannot be a good mother to your child or a good friend to yourself if you do not take care of this. Good luck, my prayers are with you.

Answer 8

Go to the doctor... It's not normal, I just went to the doctor today for that and am now getting help... Everyday everytime he lays down and I close the door I'm terrified he wont wake up... Plus I have other symtoms It doesn't hurt to ask...

Answer 9

Talk to your doc. I know i had dreams almost everynight, for a year, that i had to get up and put my son to bed.... i woudl feel around the bed for him, (bag my husband sometimes..ooops!!!) and wake myself up before i realized i was dreaming. i didnt cry all the time though...part of it is just "being a mom" but if your so worried your crying, you should talk to someone!

Answer 10

You don't have postpardem. You are just a new mom. It is ok to worry about your child's well being. It will get better over time.
You just have to get used to being a mom it's completly normal to be protetive of your new born.