Does it take this long to get over an ex?

Question

I have been dumped by my ex and I just can't get over him, it has been two years now. As I was surfing on the web I came across http://lonelyou.com/ which promise to forget your ex in just 24hours, is it true? Can any one help me on this please

Answer 1

It takes a minute to have a crush on someone, an hour to like someone, and a day to love someone -- but it takes a lifetime to forget someone.
Trying to forget someone you loved is like trying to remember someone you never knew
you never really stop loving someone. you just learn to try to live without them

Answer 2

It shouldn't take that long to get over an ex. If you are honest with yourself; do you want to get over it?
Don't waste your life. There is a lot of good life to be lived and your missing out.
Go out with friends, meet new people, join a volunteer group, become a Big Sister/Big Brother. Take you focus off yourself and your ex and put it on someone else.
Go back to school. Get a second job. Join a church group.
Is this person worth wasting the rest of your life over. If he/she is an ex, something wasn't right between you and it is better to be lonely, alone, than to be lonely with someone else.

Answer 3

I don't know if you ever really completely forget them - you have to train your brain not to think about him. When you are thinking about him and you realize it - you have to force yourself to think about something else. You should try to focus your mental energy on improving your own life on all three levels: physically, spiritually and mentally. Get connected to who you are and what you really want out of life. Start a journal and clear your mind out of your thoughts of him or write about what you want to do with your future, your goals, where do you want to be this time next year? Take a college class or join a Pilate's class or do something that forces you out into the world and also something that you enjoy doing or try something you have never done before but have been interested in doing.

I was divorced almost 2 1/2 yrs ago. I still think about my ex on occasion and have dreams about him.. Now, I have no love for him and i don't miss him even a little bit. But sometimes my mind still goes there. We were together for 10 years - that's a long time. I am with someone new that I feel is my soul mate and I love him very much - but thoughts of the ex still pop up. I just change my mind - or think about something else...I don't dwell on thoughts of him. It is over and it would have never worked out and I know that with all my heart and soul - and you should know that too. Just try to retrain your brain - and get your thoughts on making positive changes in your own life. God bless you.

Answer 4

I don't think you can do it in 24 hours. But it will take as long as you want it to. You can get over your ex and go on with your life or choose to hang on..get busy and occupy your time. Hang out with different friends (not the friends you both had) get a hobby, spend time with your family (no discussion about ex). But don't let the ex rule your life..its over. Do you really think he is sitting around thinking about you--if this was the case then he would not be your ex.

Answer 5

It is simply mind over matter. Two years is an awfully long time to still be holding on to your ex. You need to find a way to get rid of those feelings so you can move on in your life. Perhaps counseling might be the answer for you?

Answer 6

No hunny it is not going to make you forget him. It takes time to heal when you are hurting so much. There no set time to get over someone. What you need to do is pick yourself up and know that you deserve someone that is good to you and will treat you the way you deserve. I dated someone for one year in 01 and it took me forever to get over him. Alot of it on my half was the fact my pride was burised. We dated then he asked me to marry him in August and then broke up with me in September. You are a worthwhile person and you will fond someone that will make you happy. However long it takes,take your time. When you see the need to make yourself available again you will,but until then concentrate on yourself. There is someone out there for everyone. If you need a friend my email is [e-mail]. After we broke up a year had passed and I met my hubby and we have had our ups and downs like any relationship but I am happier than ever. You will have it too! Take care !

Answer 7

Wow, that sounds pretty shifty. I've never taken more than a month or so to get over an ex, but I've heard a good book to read is "It's called a breakup because it's broken", and it's written by the same guy who wrote "He's not that into you"

Answer 8

I don't know anything about the website, but getting over and ex takes time. No one can put a time limit on the heart. You start loving you again. Take yourself to a movie(comedy) no love movies. Take yourself to the mall for lunch. Start doing things by yourself, that you enjoy doing. I'm not saying you will get over him by doing these things, but learn to truly love yourself. Once you start falling in love with you, you open the door to the next chapter in your life.

Answer 9

It depends on your effort to forget your ex. Try to remember all the bad things he done to you. What are the things that made your ex dumped you? Don't push your self. Try to have more activities, works to do, etc..Only time will tell..best of luck..

Answer 10

I honestly think that time is the only cure. I went through the samething when I broke up w/ my first girlfriend... a long time ago. It gets easier with time. Go out and hang out with your friends and try to have a good time. That helps alot.