By wrong things I mean. getting bad grades.stealing,lieing,cheating on games,running out of the house after dark without permission,
running with the wrong crowd that steals from him in our house,
and allot more.
Talking to them does not work, grounding exaserbates the problem.
taking away privileges also makes the behavior escalate.
threats of a scared straight program doesnt work. Nor does military school enrollment.
2006-10-05 16:35:02 · 7 answers · asked by Jeffrey H 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
enroll them then, stop using it as a threat. the military school is what I'd go for. however, dont avoid talking to him/her even if they dont want to hear it.
2006-10-05 16:39:09 · answer #1 · answered by goldie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am sorry that you are going through this with your teen. His friends are the biggest problem. If he is hanging out with the wrong crowd, can you change his school? It may have to be a private or military school.
My daughter did a nose dive in middle school. Her grades dropped and her friends were rude and bad influences. I changed her middle school and had to drive her and pick her up everyday, but now she gets good grades and has nice friends. The best decision I ever made.
Parenting is 25% of it and friends over rule by 75% of your child's influences and choices.
It seems to have gone too far, that perhaps a scared straight program or military school should no longer be just a threat. Sometimes loving your child and doing what is best is the hardest thing. Tough Love for your son. I hope you get some advice for the answerers that can help. Take care.
2006-10-05 17:14:02 · answer #2 · answered by galbee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You let this situation get out of hand years ago and now you want a solution. Stop threatening and do. Put that hellion in military school or into a scared straight program The point is to DO SOMETHING. You are sitting by wringing your hands and weakly sighing "stop it" and the kid is thumbing his nose at you. Who is the adult here? Get some Guts parent and be a parent. Get the yellow pages and find yourself a good milirary school that has a name for disciplin and get that boy enrolled pronto. Do something NOW. Take charge now and get him the help he needs. Do not make any more threats. Send him to military school now or visit him in jail or sit by his grave later. Shame on you for waiting so long to take action. no more talk do it now.
2006-10-05 16:57:22 · answer #3 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If nothing that you are doing is stopping this kind of behavior, then follow through with putting them in military school. They may not like it, but it will change them and their behavior. It will take them away from the people you don't want them to be around, and also teach them responsibility. The lies, the stealing, and the bad behavior will stop. I hope this helps.
2006-10-05 16:49:49 · answer #4 · answered by organic gardener 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok imma give you the secret... as i was in the same problem only i was the child..... what my parents did was get tired of threatining of a scared straight program and actully sent me to one, now i don't know how they are where you live but i was living in kansas at the time and it scared the hell outta me... if that don't work then i don't know what ta tell you... but stop the empty threats... they know you are not gonna do anything so they will keep doing it
2006-10-05 17:28:14 · answer #5 · answered by chadpsychodog 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her to juvenile institutions where the authorities will train her civil duties and responiblities and she will be dealt with strict discipline for behavioral correction.
2006-10-05 16:42:45 · answer #6 · answered by dtmc542006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long answer required. There's a lot more going on here they you may realize. Look into 'Love and Logic' on the web. it may be one word. Good luck.
2006-10-05 16:40:03 · answer #7 · answered by WILLIAM W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋