are children more likely to be a loner if they usually play by themselves at a young age?

Question

My son is only 6 months old but he seems bored sometimes. He loves to be around other kids, but there's no kids he can play with around here, only at daycare. Is he more likely to become a loner if he just plays by himself or if I need to get things done around the house and let him play by himself?

Answer 1

no.. actually independent play (now as well as when he is older) is very important to developing imagination and self -sufficiency.
kids up to about age 3 , even when aroudn other kids their age dont really play "with " them anyway, they play "next to" them. parallel play..

Answer 2

I grew up as an only child on a farm in the middle of a cornfield. I had very little interaction with other kids except for school so I think that me be a bit of a loner when I was younger. But man, do I have one heck of an imagination now and I did really good in school. So who knows, he is just to young to know for sure. Get hin into a daycare so he can play with other kids for a few hours a day.

Answer 3

I have 4 children and one of them was a loner when he was younger, never wanted to play with anyone, not even his brothers or sister, he is now a teenager and still is a loner, he has no friends.
When your son gets a littler older, you need to make sure he is with other children, keep him in daycare.

Answer 4

Don't worry, being alone at any particular age does not cause a person to become a loner.

Whether or not a person is a loner is determined at conception: it's an inherant part of the personality. Just as extraverts are born, not made, so too are introverts born, not made.

Get to know his personality and appreciate him for what he is.

Answer 5

What is wrong with being a loner? I go between being the outgoing, party guy, who is "that guy" at parties and bars. You know the one being an *** and stuff like that. Then two weeks later, I will not want to be around anyone, and just kick back by myself. Being a loner is not a bad thing.

Answer 6

At six months old you are still his "main world". It isn't until children get past two that they start to move "out and away" from their mother/father/home-as-world and start thinking about other children much. Even then, they tend to be happy with just them and their parents until they get closer to three. At three children start expressing a wish to expand their world by asking to go to school or go out and play with other children.

I'm not saying he isn't entertained by other children. Babies are entertained by everybody. At his age, though, his development isn't necessarily geared to socializing by having playmates around all the time.

Most children get to really need to be with other children when they get to be three or four, and it tends to work out naturally that they have playmates in daycare or preschool or in the neighborhood. When they're at home they may have no playmates. Independent playing is important too.

In other words, what your baby is doing right now has nothing to do with what he'll be when he grows up or even what he'll do when he's three. He's at an age where he is entertained by other children. He'll get to be nine or ten months old or so and scream if you try leaving him with anyone.

In answer to your question: NO.

Answer 7

Believe it or not, this is actually a very important step in his development. ALL babies go through this regardless of what the parents say. Next will come the parrell play, this is where he'll sit next to another child and play - but they aren't playing together. After that will you slowly start to see cooperative play along with others such as imaginative, OMG I forgot the name of another one but it's where he'll give simple directions and act out their play together (like playing house only he'll say something like "And you don't want me to go so you cry" and the other kid cries). Here's a good site on the types of play:

http://www.childdevelopmentinfo.com/development/play-child-development.htm

Relax! Play with your son (as I'm sure you do) with bold bright colors, play sing-a-longs like patty cake (games that teach him about his anatomy) and where is thumbkin etc. You CAN also do your housework while he plays quietly; be greatful he'll play quietly so you can clean lol. They make books with all the different games you can play with your infant, here's a link to one.

http://www.amazon.com/Babys-Game-Book-Isabel-Wilner/dp/0688159168

Answer 8

Kids that usually play by them selves make alot of friends when they are around kids at school or daycare. He will still be sociable.

Answer 9

absolutely not at this age. You should be spending time with him instead of getting things done around the house! Do stuff when he naps!!! Don't miss out on valuable time - no wonder he is bored if you aren't spending every single minute with him!

Answer 10

well not totally true. but if i where you i would get some of the kids parents numbers to set play dates with them, so hes not bored, and alone all the time.