I need real big help...?

Question

Okay me and My boyfriend the one that is sixteen he is very controling and likes to tell me what i can and cant do...

And me and him are expecting a little one in 8 months....

We have been argueing and fusen and fighten there is never a day that we dont.Hes controling and screams and yells do you think that im in a abuseive relationship that can turn out to abusive husband...

Okay we used pertection i was on the pill and he was always wearing a condom....we took saftey percotions we just didnt take the right ones that time...

Im not stupid and immature please stop saying that.

Answer 1

Wow that happened to me 5 years ago.
My husband and I have been together for the last 5 and half years. He was the worst in the bunch of people I knew. He was a drug addict, a liar a thief anything you want to sat. At the age of 14 and when he turned 17 he became a father 5 years later he is the most responsible MAN I have ever met he doesn’t go out with the boys doesn’t drink doesn’t smoke he left his bad friends and chose his family over friends goes to work comes home spends time with our daughter and on the weekends we go out together so in the end what I am trying to say is that if he really loves you he will change for you and for the baby or at least you will see signs of him trying to better himself and if he doesn’t then let him be and run away
Good luck.

Answer 2

He is already abusive.

No one has the right to tell you what to do.

You should have gotten to know him before you got knocked up.

My father is a Doctor, my Mother has a Master's degree in Nursing, my Sister is a Respiratory Therapist, my other Sister is a Professor of Dentistry, my Aunt and Uncle both have Master's in Physical Therapy, my other Uncle is a Cardiologist.....

There is NO WAY that you were on the pill AND he wore a condom and you STILL became pregnant.

Do you realize how incredibly rare it is to get pregnant on the pill, much less on TWO forms of birth control? Do you realize how rare it is to become pregnant by missing the pill for a few days? Do you know in Europe women ONLY take the pill on the days they have sex, instead of all month long?

Sorry dear, you can't fool us. You are lying.

Besides, that isn't the point. You still spread your legs for someone you didn't know well enough.

Pretty stupid and immature if you ask me, and all these other people that answered your question. And, you did ask us.

P.S. You do not spell as well as a 5th grader, how do you expect to be parent to a child?

Answer 3

I do believe your in a abusive relationship and it can only get
worse especially when your getting ready to have a baby.
The best thing to do is talk to your family and consider your
soon to be husband counseling he really needs it and I in the
mean time I know your confused and alone and pregnant but,
listen get away from the violance soon as possible. If he's been
abusive he'll alway's be that way. I've been their dealt with that
and I have a beauitful daughter out of it but, I'm not with the lowlife bastered! Sorry I hate my ex-husband. I went through a lot so did my daughter until I grew to realize it wasn't going to work. I know it's hard to just leave but do it ! Go to family and
get a protective order on him and then you'll know your safe.
He won't change for a thing only if he get's on medicine and
seeks counseling and stops his controlling behavior.
He doesn't know how to treat you. Say good bye!

Answer 4

Ive never heard of a controlling person waking up one morning and not being controlling.He needs some help and so do you because trust me after you go along with a controlling person you have have issues too.Pregnacy is a hard road anyway and trying to put up with a man/boy like that well for sure put you through more grief than you need now or ever.Good Luck

Answer 5

yo fool, he be a immature kid as u r. Dont get the shitt twisted. He's buckling under da pressure of having all the responsibility of raisin a family. Verbal abuse is as bad as physical as it effects ur self esteem. U might want 2 think of an alternative other then having dat baby. Ur both not ready as ur both very immature and it takes way mor maturity then both u have. Abort and run. Its in ur best interest as he will abuse u forever or check ur self into a women battered shelter. they will keep u. feed u, and take care of u and school u and most improtant HIDE U... Dont get it twistd. Dont even Trip

Answer 6

YES!!! Right now it is emotional and verbal abuse, but it could very easily become physical. You are pregnant, and he should be doing everything possible to be loving with you and make it as stress free as possible for you. He is 16 and that's very immature for becoming a parent, yet some people do manage it. Don't continue to allow the emotional and verbal abuse...if you do, your life will be a living hell. It's better to be alone than to be a victim of abuse

Answer 7

Yes, you are in an abusive relationship, and he would very likely be an abusive husband...and he won't be old enough to be a real husband to a woman for the next decade or so. Get out while you still can. My fingers are crossed for you.

Answer 8

He will be an abusive husband ofcourse! It is very hard but wise to leave him. Wont be gud for your child and also ur pregnancy is already going thru a lot of stress!
take care and have friends whom you can spend time with.Try to be with as many cheerful people as u can and start getting out of this mess. I am sure the moment u will try, things will shape up for ur betterment. But please START NOW!

Answer 9

If he controls you then you need to leave him because once you have that little one he will be abusive towards your child. Is that what you want? You need to think not only about yourself but also about your child and the effect it will have on your child. Is that the kind of example you want to give your child that its okay to be in an abusive relationship. Think about it.

Answer 10

yes you are. It usually happens after a couple of years but he has started right away.If your not comfortable being with him then its not the first time this type of thing has happen.Think about what your child will hear from this man also.I dont want to break anyone up but it will only get worse.People like him will simply not agree to loose total control.Please be wise and make the right decission for you and your child