He into 'The View' and look at mirror and wink at himself and giggle maniacially in high pitch laughs of faires. Then he run around house in girly voice singing he want a french tip manicure and that he want to marry ballerina men. I kinda look at my wife in scared look and she stare at me in scared look and we worry and we cry as we listen to him do aerobics in his room, wondering, scared, sweating our fears out, as he haunt our minds with his homosexuality. What I do? Run away?
2006-10-05 16:17:38 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I hope you are not serious! If you would love your son any less if he were gay, you don't deserve to be a parent.
2006-10-05 16:19:49 · answer #1 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey do you love your son? That's what you need to think about. Then ask the guy if he likes men (or did you already do that?) You can't stop him from being gay. I'm sure you and your wife want a son who would one day meet and marry a wonderful woman and have his own family. But sounds to me that he really likes himself the way he is and if you start distancing yourselves from him he may do the same with you. You will loose your son gay or not he is still your child. Think about what the world does to people who are different! It's hard to be a productive member of society let alone being alienated by your family. Talk to your son. Don't think so much about him being a homosexual. Life will go on. Being gay isn't the worst sin he can commit. We are not to be judge and jury The Lord will have the last word in this case we are to love one another. Don't run away. Love him....No I'm not gay. I just have an open mind, I don't want it flaunted in my face but someones personal life is just that. Good Luck:)
2006-10-05 16:30:44 · answer #2 · answered by stuffy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't youg uys fret too much, he might be just going through a phase.... Only time will tell if he is gay or not. Meantime you could try to get him interested in manly activities such soccer, football, hockey.... But if he is really gay or bisexual, there is nothing you can do about it. Sexual orientation is part of who we are, same as having blue eyes or being tall... Nobody can change it.... And remember that gay or not, your son is still your son. He loves you and hedeserves your love. You might also want to seek counseling for you and your wife to help you deal with this issue.
2006-10-05 16:40:12 · answer #3 · answered by Jasmine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant stop anyone from being gay and if u try and he really is he will end up marrying a girl being unhappy probably cheat on her with guys and maybe one day he will actually come out and when he does he will be so scared, but after a bit he will be the happiest ever, now if u try to make this happen you will make your son lose a good 10years of his life, so u can say your son is straight, how selfish is that
2006-10-05 16:40:33 · answer #4 · answered by t l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok if he turns gay then he'll turn gay. you should learn to be used to it, your son will be gay, love him for who he is, dont become one of those parents who losses their child because they hate homosexuals and you'll hate your son if he becomes homosexual too. and also he might not even be gay, in today's society he might be a "gay straight guy" (term from "Sex in the City"), the technical term is metrosexual, where he acts like a gay guy but is still straight, and this will give him a better chance with the ladies if he's like that because he'll be in touch with them and they'll feel more attracted to him. well those are the only answers i can give you, good luck, but i say you be ready for both, be ready to love your son even though he may be gay, you should ask him if he is gay, just flat out ask him and say you want to know because the way he acts is peculiar and was making you wonder.
oh i forgot to add that my belief is that homosexuals are...well not born gay, but they have something psycological that makes them gay and it can't be stopped if they really are gay. i believe that it occurs within their first 10 years
2006-10-05 16:29:18 · answer #5 · answered by ParadoxZero 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't prevent your son from being "gay" anymore than I can prevent my daughter from being a "lesbian".
Letting your child know you love him/her and providing them with food and shelter is sometimes the only security a parent can give to their children. Your son may not be ""gay"; nor have any desire to be "gay". He may just be antagonizing you because you have made negative comments about "gays".
Children between the ages of 11,12,13, and even 14 and 15, take pleasure, and some satisfaction, in tormenting their parents, teachers, grandparents, and anyone they consider "stupid", "straight", and "out of touch", with bizarre behavior.
If your son is "gay", you will be faced with accepting that fact; or, you may lose your son forever. Where will you run?
2006-10-05 17:09:39 · answer #6 · answered by Baby Poots 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of answers already. I guess everyone is trying to say you can't change him. Hes a child lets not worry about the future. Love him today and the rest will fall into place. Keep an opened mind and love him it will be ok. Don't run away and don't be haten!
2006-10-05 16:31:52 · answer #7 · answered by ascendent2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, wow this is a tough question. I would sit down and talk to him man to man and ask him why he is doing this. Talk to him and see what he says. You really can't do much. Tell him that it isn't right, or normal for him to be doing something like this. And if you believe in God, read 1 Corithians 6:9. Read it yourself. The bible doesn't approve at ll of two men(humans) to 'lie' with other men(meaning same sex sleeping with same sex). If he believes in God strongly that will talk some sense into him.
2006-10-05 16:25:20 · answer #8 · answered by dotbrie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe anyone 'turns' gay. I think for the most part they are born that way. Your son sounds like he's trying to upset you for fun. Or he's mentally unbalanced, or both. If this is a real question, I think you should get him help. Don't know how old he is but, if he's a kid, it's up to you. If not, he should be living somewhere else.
2006-10-05 16:21:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all people don't turn gay so you can't stop that. They are either gay or they're not. And coming from me I don't see anyhting wrong with homosexual people. They are people to and there is nothing wrong with that. The only thing you can do is get over your fears and accept your son for who he is.
2006-10-05 16:27:54 · answer #10 · answered by supernatural_dragonfly 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can always have a joke with your wife, while your son is around, and say to her that you meet this man who you want to start seeing, and invite him over to dinner, and just hold his hand for a short moment, and see what your son say's, if he think's it's sick, then their is your answer, he will not turn out gay at all.but have a talk with him, and maybe he will talk to you, you have to be open with your kid's or they will never feel loved, this could be a way for him to reach out to you, or a way for him to tell you, to hell with the women. well good luck, or have a few mate's over and talk about gay man, maybe he will get the hint, if all elce fail's, then you may just have to except the fact that this is who he wants to be, but no, they are not born gay.
2006-10-05 16:37:29 · answer #11 · answered by louise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋