okay, theres this guy i realy realy like and im not sure about my feelings absolutly (sp?) but my best friend said she ""loves""him....shes been ""in love"" many times before....shes 13.....but this guy doesnt even like her , he likes me, and im afraid that if i go out w/ him that shell hate me, but shes my bff! and she has a b/f what do i do!!!??? ♥
2006-10-05 16:15:32 · 18 answers · asked by Holly Advice 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
go out with him!! if shes your best friend and she has a boyfriend than she will GET OVER IT and be your friend still!!
2006-10-05 16:17:39 · answer #1 · answered by im just me.. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she was not already 'hooked up', I would say friendship is more important than any male that might come along. But since she has someone and from what you don't say, she has no intention of becoming available to this guy you both like, I have to say that you are not responsible for your friends happiness. You can support it (as she should you) and be happy in it, but you are not responsible for it and it's time you faced that fact.
I would talk earnestly with her and just let her know your feelings on this and your distress that any action on your part toward becoming happy with this guy will bother your relationship with her but that you also have to live your life. Since she should not have both of these guys (pls feel free to leave out the part about how 'he doesn't like you but me anyway'), that leaves him available to explore a further friendship with you. If she can't be happy (or at least pretend) at the prospect of your happiness with this guy and be supportive, then maybe you should rething her bff status.
And that's my thought on the subject....
2006-10-05 23:24:33 · answer #2 · answered by Goodmomma1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You all are way too young for this sort of drama. Enjoy being young and stop trying to grow up so fast. Trust me it ain't what you think it is You should know when you are well off and stay a kid as long as you can. Forget this boy girl nonsense and get your education so you don't have to be asking "would you like fries with that" when you are 30
2006-10-05 23:20:35 · answer #3 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand that this girl is your best friend but you stated that she likes alot of guys and she has a boyfriend then she is in no way serious how can you be loyal to her and risk missing out on happiness if you let her and her kids games affect you be for real she shouldnt even be having a boyfriend at her age i hope you have more sense than that any way i think both of yous should be easy but not in those terms understand life is still awhile away from yous so enjoy it but not like that good luck ....E
2006-10-05 23:31:17 · answer #4 · answered by ellie_m1123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a new best friend that doesn't fall in love with every guy she meets haha. reall just go out with the guy. if she's really your friend she won't be so selfish as to hate you because you have something she already has.
2006-10-05 23:19:42 · answer #5 · answered by mindscar1158 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People fall in and out of love several times at 13,don't get too serious,or worry about it.
2006-10-05 23:21:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since she has a bf, then dont care about her and go out wit this guy. If shes your best friend then shell know whats good for you.
2006-10-05 23:21:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her what u feel for him because telling the truth will only make u and ur friend in a happier life. If she is your best friend then definitely she will understand everything
2006-10-05 23:26:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're 13, GAWD, wait untill you're at least in highschool for this drama, and for now, just friggin ignore all of this, watch in 2 to 3 years, you wont even remember this and then you'll be all like "WoW, Pie Man was totally right, i hope i gave him 10 points"
: )
2006-10-05 23:19:04 · answer #9 · answered by Pie Man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES.. be careful.. going out with him would ruin your friendship with the other girl.. I know.. it happens so you have to decide going for the boy who would probably ditch you in time and you would have lost the friendship of the girl
2006-10-05 23:18:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋