My little girl is 3 and I have raised her without her dad for 3 years. the longer I do it by myself they deeper I dig my debt hole. I don't want him to have rights what should I do?
2006-10-05 16:10:58 · 13 answers · asked by tiffanydeannabney04 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Not much you can do if he is paying child support he will have parental rights. Unless you can prove he is and unfit Father than they may have supervised visits but he will still have rights... Sorry not much help I'm sure
2006-10-05 16:14:28 · answer #1 · answered by Todd F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey I understand what you are going through. Don't even worry about what others think, your reasons for not letting the father around are your own personal reasons and none of their business.
My husband and I are separated. I'm in Texas he's in Cali. I don't trust him, that's why we're split. I didn't like the way he talked to the kids, expected them to be perfect all the time, never cut any breaks. he wasn't abusive per say, but he wasn't exactly pleasant for the kids to be around. I don't like his family at all and I don't doubt for a second that if given the chance they'd take my son to Mexico (where his grandmother is from) and I'd never see him again. Husband sends no money because I don't want my 4 year old traveling to California and my idiot husband thinks he would be fine traveling on his own. I filed for support. I will deal with the consequences of visitation when that time comes. See everyone has their own reasons for feeling the way they do, even if it is just bitterness, but i doubt that is the case here right?
The way I figure is that he's had plenty of time to come see his child and he's chosen not to so why would he start now? Is it really a big concern for you? If so just ask for supervised visitation. The court will surely grant it, especially since they don't know each other. good luck.
2006-10-05 23:37:18 · answer #2 · answered by azile_wehttam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing. 1st we went to court and through mediation, he was to pay child support and we were to have joint custody, he never followed through so i took he back again and got full and sole custody of my daughter and its up to my discretion when or if he will ever see his daughter. You can also see about him signing over his rights to you, but im not sure if you will be able to get support. the best thing I can say is to talk to an attorney. There are some that can give you advice for little or no cost depending on your financial situation. Good Luck and remember you and your baby will be alright.
2006-10-05 23:25:24 · answer #3 · answered by nadia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yo fool, its ho's like u dat b pissn me off. first off ist illegal to not give him access 2 dat child regardless of support. quit ur complaing and file a child support order. After dat the county will take it out his pay. I tell u but i shouldnt cause u b not wantin dat dad in his life but u want his money. It b a good thing he b responsible until child 19 in california. Dat b FACT!!!!!!!They also will ask for back support from day child born. They also will take all his future income tax returns and give them to you. He dosent have a choice even if u b hiden dat kid. Also if he tries 2 ask for custody of any kind just tell the d.a. dat he needs 2 c the kid under court ordered supervision. He got 2 pay 4 dat. $75.00 an hour. this b california law........ dont get this twistd. The child comes first!!!! No matter wut he b sayn. If u need a reason tell da court he will flee wit the kid! It wurks everytime. Guaranteed!!!Dont EvenTrip
2006-10-05 23:20:35 · answer #4 · answered by Dont Trip 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay --- I'm a mom. I need to know FIRST why you don't want him to have any rights but you want money from him. I worked in law for over 20 years and my father was my hero AND I'VE BEEN DIVORCED --- so I understand stuff. I DO NOT AND WILL NOT EVER UNDERSTAND --- UNLESS THE MAN IS A CHILD MOLESTOR ---CHILD BEATER OR SOMETHING why he should not have rights.. if I was deprived of my father growing up........DAMN. KIDS NEED THEIR MOM AND THEIR DAD. Do not do this to him or your child --- DO NOT DO IT --- UNLESS YOU HAVE A REALLY REALLY REALLY GOOD REASON. Through my ROUGH divorce --- I NEVER DEPRIVED MY SON OF HIS FATHER........you better be more specific here because women are starting to PISS ME OFF NOW. Where is your heart????? Are you like 14 or something????????????????????
Plus I'm 48 years old and NEW grandma ---- so don't think this answer is from a child.
2006-10-05 23:17:01 · answer #5 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
file for custody of your daughter that way it will be that she legally lives with you and stuff like that and then also file for child support, even if the father doesnt have contact with the child he can still be ordered to pay child support until she turns 18 or in some cases 21( i'm in ny here it is 21 as long as the child is still living with you)
2006-10-05 23:16:21 · answer #6 · answered by my101201cutiepie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to contact the court system in your area. They will tell you how you can receive child support.
If the father is not in the picture now he will most likely not want to come around even when you make him pay.
If you are getting assistance from the government you will not have to worry about the legal bills they will take care of it for you. you just have to tell them who's the daddy
2006-10-05 23:37:59 · answer #7 · answered by Said 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
parental rights and child support are two separate issues in a court of law. If you get them confused when you are in front of a judge you will be surely sorry.
Just trying to give you a heads up.
2006-10-05 23:20:47 · answer #8 · answered by lesbianmommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Child support is not a payment to get to see a child. It is for the care and support that the child needs. He would not have to see your daughter if you choose not to let him. But he should be made to pay for her upkeep. I hope this helps.
2006-10-05 23:21:52 · answer #9 · answered by organic gardener 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While normally I would agree with 'Don't Trip"s eloquent and well written anti-female rant above, I have custody of my two children and guess what? I'm a man! Shows you what a skeeve I was married to, huh?
2006-10-09 16:59:45 · answer #10 · answered by Chuck N Knutz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋