im 16 year old and a freshman at vanderbilt university...i met this guy jeffrey. i liked him alot but the only problem i had was that he was always trying to touch parts of my body or make me touch him kissing and all that stuff and i didnt feel comfortable with it i did some of the stuff with him just cos i wanted him to be happy and when he saw i was quite reluctant he gave a speech about how he though i was a beautiful girl and everything but that i was a little too immature for him...i was kinda ok with it and i got over him even though i liked him alot. Just a week ago he came back into my life and he calls me everyday saying he wants to get back with me and he doesnt know how he let me go..i like him so much but i fear it would be the same old story again so help!!
2006-10-05 16:10:09 · 9 answers · asked by 0 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
before jumping into this, set him straight right now. Ask him if he remembers why you two broke up in the first place. tell him its because you didnt feel totaly comfortable doing some things and want to take it slow, and that if you decide to date him again than he would have to respect what you want. Make sure he knows that you are still going to be the same, so your not changing hes the one who needs to change and respect you, or dont bother dating you. See what he says, if hes willing to go by your rules and listen to you than try it if you really care for him, but if you think hes not going to respect you than dont bother, tell him that he had you once and screwed up...say this old saying...
"you fooled me once, shame on you"
"you fooled me twice, shame on me"
But if your willing to give it one more shot, go for it, but if hes not changing and still the same, dump his sorry butt and move on to much better things in life.
2006-10-05 17:32:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your instincts, trust your "gut". People only change under extreme conditions. What has happenned between now and then to change him? Probably nothing. Keep your distance and let him fall over trying to get back with you.
2006-10-05 16:14:36 · answer #2 · answered by Just another 2D character online 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are that he is only like sex with you?but you love him,you still so young,time will make a conclusion.
2006-10-05 16:15:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him things have to be different then they were before, and if he doesn't do so, then find someone else who will meet your standards and give you what you want. You don't need to do things that you don't want to do just to please someone.
2006-10-05 16:14:07 · answer #4 · answered by Goose Feet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say leave him alone, if you get back together with him, he might take advantage of you or do something. be careful and good luck
2006-10-05 16:14:16 · answer #5 · answered by anonymous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him alone you are too young, tell him if he likes you he'll quit and no means no
2006-10-05 16:28:21 · answer #6 · answered by jason 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump the ****** - he just wants in your tender pants.
2006-10-05 16:14:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just wants sex from you.
2006-10-05 16:15:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your fears are not unfounded...do not get back with that creep!
2006-10-05 16:15:22 · answer #9 · answered by Pooks 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋