Does it affect my relationship with my baby (7mths) if she is separated from me and i only see her 2 week once

Question

i took care of her for 6mths n breastfed. i started work lately and she was taken away by my mother in law as she claim that it's not safe to hire babysitter nowadays but she lives very far away and i miss my baby so badly. what can i do? i'm afraid she wouldn't recognise me anymore...

she thinks that me and my husband is not stable enough and she is afraid it will affect the baby moreover i'm financially weak

Answer 1

get that baby back...NOW!

Answer 2

Yes, this will affect your relationship with your baby.
Don't let your mother-in-law have so much control. Now you are just working for her (and your child).
See about a good day-care close to home, or see about nanny sharing with a friend, but get your child back. She needs you and you need her. She is too young to be separated from the person she loves most int he world.
Where is your husband? Can't he help you with this?
I'm so sorry you're in this situation, but get your baby back now!
You will lose your bond with each other!
I hope you can restart breastfeeding and pump while at work and supply the nursery you find with breast milk.
I hate your mother-in-law so much right now. She is taking advantage of the fact that new mothers are weak and insecure.
Get Strong now, girl!
Good-Luck!
My heart is breaking for you!

Answer 3

You've got to be kidding? If not, you need to get control of your family and tell your mother-in-law you appreciate her trying to help, but there is no way you are going to be away from your baby for that length of time. There are more ways than you can count to assure your baby is in safe hands while you work, there are a lot of wonderful day care centers (private and churches) just do your homework and interview parents that have their children there; there are wonderful co-ops with moms and dads in the same position. For goodness sake, get your backbone up and do not let anyone, not even a grandparent step over that respect line that is yours. Get em kiddo!!!! Do not be intimidated! And give your baby an extra hug for me. I love my children dearly, I couldn't imagine someone taking them from me at any time in their life.

Answer 4

To answer your main question:

YES, it will affect your relationship with your baby.

Call the police, and legal aid.

Your child's primary bond was with you and that bond has been disrupted. Not only will it affect your relationship with your child, but it can also effect her emotional development overall and she can even suffer psychological problems.

Your child can suffer from attachment disorder issues, security issues, and have long lasting effects.

I speak from experience. Slightly different situation.. child was 2.5 and dad abducted her and went into hiding for a year.... police were useless, because he was dad, even though he didn't have custody. Long story, but bottom line is yes, it can and will cause long term problems. Fix it, now!!!

Answer 5

I think that before everyone starts judging there needs to be more questions answered here.

1. Was there any other reason that your Mother-in-law gave for taking the baby under her care?

2. Did you feel, at any time, that you were not fully able to care for the baby?

3. Was there underlying issues here that can not be spoken in a public forum?

All these are huge questions, and before We all judge and say get that baby back NOW, We need to find out the full story, Give the girl a chance to fully explain. I see all of you asking what the heck, yet, not saying, go ahead and message Me, and see if perhaps we can talk in a more private settting to try to figure this out.

Dont get Me wrong, I am not trying to get into anyones business that doesnt want Me there. Thats not why I am responding, I simply think there are other issues that are not able to be brought out.

Yes, the bonding process is right now. And yes, I think you should try to get your baby back, but before I unequivically say do it NOW, I want to find out whats going on between both parties.

It's not fair to judge either party and say, How could you, or Why did you. Everyone has their own reasons for doing one thing or another. Im sure most of you have made decisions that perhaps maybe later you regretted. Please think about this when trying to answer this ladies statement/Question.

I believe you baby will recognize you. There are certian scents each and everyone of Us have. The baby even if not by sight, will recognize the scent of her mother. She will find it familuar, and comforting.

I have certian "issues" in which, I felt was the best thing for My children to live with their grandpa. I cant go into all of them now, but I will say this, I love them enough to know that Grandpa, provides a stable environment. Provides, the things they need, that I simply can not afford. My kids have been with their grandpa for 4 years now. One of the very most hardest things in this world I had to do was realize that at that time in My life, I simply could not afford to be able to take care of My children properly. I in an act of love let My father have guardianship over them. I see them every week, and any time I want to. He never in any way keeps Me from My children. I miss them terribly, but I know that this is best for them. I am thankful to My father for taking on that responsibility. When I can, I help with clothing or anything they need, but My Father doesnt not demand I do that. He took them on lovingly. I realize the fact that I am so very very lucky. I know alot of women could not have the specialness in their family that I have. For My father, I will always be greatful.

If you would like to contact Me, you may, if you have yahoo, perhaps we can discuss whats going on, and I can help, and if I cant, perhaps I can give an ear to listen. Believe Me, I so understand what your going through.

From the very bottom of My heart I wish you the best.

Answer 6

is she gone 100% of the time or only while your at work? not all mothers are stay at home moms nor can they all be, your baby will still know and recognise you plus a baby knows its mom scent, but if she is gone 100% of the time then yes it will affect your relationship it would whether it be a friend spouse or child

Answer 7

You let you MIL take your baby? She is not a parent, she has no rights, you have allowed her to kidnap your baby. Now you go right now and get that child!

Get her, get a good sitter, get recommendations. My son was in the hands of sitters and daycare centers from the time he was 9 weeks old. While I was careful, in picking them, we never had a problem. He always loved his sitters and I think most of them spoiled him rotten, you know, cutting the crusts off his sandwiches, things like that.

Answer 8

Have your husband tell his mother to give your child back. I do not think you want to cause problems but she is yours, and your mother-in-law can not just take her away. Day cares can be safe, maybe have your mother-in-law help you find a good one that all of you can agree on. good luck

Answer 9

What right did your mother in law have to take your baby away????? Where is the father??? I think you are making all of this up.

Answer 10

wow im sorry. all i can think of are 2 things 1 make a lot of long visits or 2 see if your work can get a baby sitter so u can see har at work and all of the time after.
good luck!!

Answer 11

It will drive a wedge between you and your baby...this is the time where the most bonding is made.....GET YOU BABY FROM YOUR MOTHER IN LAW...its not all good.