I dated this guy on and off for about 3 years and the time came...I gave him my virginity. My love for him grew deeper because of that. The time came for me to go off to college where I am now. But I still love him and would like to be with him again. Is it a way that I can get over him?
2006-10-05 16:07:53 · 34 answers · asked by focusedbrat 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The only way to get over anyone is time. You will always love this man and hold a special place in your heart for him, he was your first, you never forget that.
2006-10-05 16:10:37 · answer #1 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes there is. You already know it but I will spell it out for you. Concentrate on your studies, really get into your classes. Find some great club or activity to get totally involved in and to give your spare time to, Keep focused on what you are doing to keep yourself busy. Focus on getting everything you possibly can out of your college experience and get all the skills and tools you can to use to build yourself a wonderful life. IF you are to be together, fate will put you back together but I thinkyou should let it go and do what I said to get over him. This is not the right time, he is not the right guy.
Women don't seem to understand 'YOU WILL FALL IN LOVE WITH THE FIRST GUY YOU **** SO YOU BETTER PICK WISELY BEFORE YOU JUMP IN THE SACK
2006-10-05 16:15:19 · answer #2 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same situation that you are in just recently. But the thing is a girl never forgets her first, that's just how it is but over time you learn to deal with it. There is a way you could get over him but depending on how much you loved or love him it's gonna be hard and it takes time depending on how fresh your break up was. Like for me it took some time getting over my ex of three years but over time I came to terms that it was over and I moved on. It's okay to still love him and have feelings for him but don't let it consume you too much. But in the mean time keep yourself busy with things you love to do.
I hope I was of some help. I wish you the best of luck! And hey, maybe one day ya'll will get back together *smiles*. Email me sometime if you would like to talk sweety!
2006-10-05 16:17:53 · answer #3 · answered by Tina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you find out let me know. I was with my guy for more then 5 years and he chased me for a year before we started dating. It's 10 years later, I am married with two kids but he still crosses my mind at least once a day. Don't get me wrong, I love my husband but I dont think you ever get over your first true love
2006-10-05 16:11:06 · answer #4 · answered by what do you think? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to get over your first true love. Perhaps the time will come for the two of you to be together again. Did you consider a long distance relationship? If it is meant to be, simply give it time and true love will concur all. If you two don't get together, just be happy with the memories of the good times you had and allow yourself to let new love enter your life.
Best Wishes!!!
:o)
2006-10-05 16:09:37 · answer #5 · answered by poetic princess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meet new people and hold on to what you have until you are ready to settle down so you won't have to go through felling like this again. It will be worth the wait. If he is your soul mate (What God puts together no man shall part) then in due time you will be together again. Just concentrate on you for now so you will have more to offer the relationship that God has planned for you.
2006-10-05 16:12:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you are talking about.. I know your feeling.. It is not easy and particularly giving your virginity to a guy. you tend to stick with your feelings for a long time.. If you really want to get over him... let time take its course.... go out occasionally and meet other people(guys) and the chances of meeting another guy that you like equally or better will come along..
2006-10-05 16:11:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you're young and right now the world is at your doorstep. You're in college, which means you want to do something with your life -kudos to you!!
This "guy"...has he contacted you since?? If not, a phone call to him wouldn't hurt to gauge his interest. I'd advise against making this a "bootie call" unless you want to get hurt.
The only way to get over him is to get involved in life...college, home, whatever. It'll take time, but it's worth it. Don't tie yourself to the "hopes" that this guy cares...more often than not guys are just in it for one thing. I hope for your sake this is not the case.
I was in the same boat as you...many years ago...I only wish I'd been strong enough to leave my girlfriend.
2006-10-05 16:14:15 · answer #8 · answered by vamedic4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it takes FOREVER to get over your first love first this first that first everything..... took me years.. it honestly takes a LIFE CHANGING event to get over something like that... like.. meeting a new guy and falling absolutely head over heals in love with him! or.. having a baby! or you might not ever get over him you might always hold that special place for him in your heart... doesnt mean you have to close it off... maybe there is a possibility that one day u 2 could re-unite.. but dont close out all your other options too! be open minded and optimistic.. have fun, date go out meet new people... dont hang on to the past to much!!
2006-10-05 16:11:52 · answer #9 · answered by im just me.. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After that amount of time I think it will take awhile. When you are hurting you need to focus on something else. Like your education. It is always hard to get over our first. You have to know that he will not be the last. Enjoy your youth because that is something you can never get back.
2006-10-05 17:38:04 · answer #10 · answered by jessica h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋