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My Fiance and I are inserting a card in our invites that needs to ask people to give us gift certificates or money b/c we are moving. I was thinking something along these lines:

"Although we are registered at Bed,Bath and Beyond do to the fact that we will be moving, Gift certificate or money would be greatly appreciated."

Please help, That cannot be the best way to word that.

2006-10-05 15:59:11 · 19 answers · asked by The pink Soccer ball 3 in Family & Relationships Weddings

19 answers

FATAL ETIQUETTE ERROR... you can not include ANY gift request with a wedding invitation. There is absolutely positively NO WAY to word this request without being tacky and classless.

2006-10-05 16:33:43 · answer #1 · answered by treday25 5 · 2 0

Actually, you would be best to not put any information about gift-giving in your invitation. It would appear as though you were asking for money, when what you are really supposed to be asking is for people to celebrate your marriage with you.

Wedding gifts are optional, really. Guests do not have to bring a gift at all, though most do. And most of those guests will give you gift cards and money anyway, because they don't want to carry around a wrapped gift until the reception. The ones who do want to give you a wrapped gift will call someone close to you (your mom, or even you) to ask where you are registered. At this time, they can be told that since you are moving, you prefer money and gift cards, but that you are registered at Bed, Bath, and Beyond.

I know it seems like it might be easier to insert this card. But really, the traditional method works out just fine, and you won't insult any of the guests or appear rude.

Best of luck!

EDIT: I was scrolling through some of your other answers to this question, and I see the suggestion of a "wishing-well reception." I've seen this done before, and while it seemed a good solution, it caused a lot of chaos. Apparently this is a new idea, and many, many people have no idea what this means.

2006-10-06 09:48:55 · answer #2 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 1 0

I do not like the idea of asking for money. It just seems so tacky and so many people want to do it. I suggest, not asking, never ask for money. If I were you, I would register for things that you know you can use in your new home, and if that's only 10 things and you expect 100 guests, oops you didnt find enough. They'll be forced to look at the registry and see nothing left, and get a gift card or give cash. My only suggestion because asking for money is just not proper .

2006-10-06 17:15:04 · answer #3 · answered by rdnkchic2003 4 · 0 0

First of all I want to say shame on the people that are actually getting mad at you because you asked a question. Gee folks have you no mercy!! Also too if they think asking for money is bad some people might find it rude to do a registry. Couldn't that be considered "begging" for items? So don't feel bad, it just depends on your point of view.

I totally understand your question and your problem. Here is the solution:

On your invitations put something to this effect:

The honour of your presence is requested to witness the marriage of ____ and_____ on_____at______. (HERE IS THE PUNCHLINE) At the very bottom put, "Wishing well reception immediately following"

Now if the wedding and reception is at the same place then just put that, but if it isn't where ever you give the info for the reception location, just put "Wishing well reception" on the card. There are pretty fonts to get it typed in.

How do I know that it works you may ask? Because I had a very classy wedding where people brought cards (ones with money) and gifts where we all had a lot of fun. But I also was grateful for whatever I got and sent out thank you cards for every gift.

True, the point is that people give freely from their hearts and we need to be grateful for whatever we have. Do remember that.

I know you're not just concerned with money. Neither am I and If nobody gave me a dime I still would have had the time of my life.

2006-10-06 00:50:43 · answer #4 · answered by zabeeday 2 · 1 2

There is no best way to word that. It is rude and crass to ask for that. You should be inviting people to your wedding to celebrate with you. They are not obligated to give a gift, but of course, most do. It should be their choice what gift they give to you to help your new life along as a married couple. Moving or not moving, you should not impose something like this on your guests. Be grateful for whatever you will get, and don't include such a comment along with your invitations. Really think about this hard.....

2006-10-05 23:11:43 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 4 0

I would never put a card in that says... you want cash!
I would redo Bed, Bath & Beyond gift registry with only the things you really want now!!
If there is less to pick from, people will more than likely give $.

Remember, you can return items almost every where and also pass the word by mouth that $ would be the best with the move!!

2006-10-05 23:10:11 · answer #6 · answered by Lucky 7 4 · 1 1

You don't put registry info in wedding invites and you never ever put a request for money in an invitation. People are not obligated to give a gift for a wedding, although it is customary. Suffice to say it would be extremely tacky to insert a money request card into your invitations.

2006-10-06 02:29:41 · answer #7 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 1 0

Unregister at BBB so there isn't a list out there of stuff you don't really want until after you've moved or might not want after you move.

Make it known to your invitees through word of mouth that you are going to be moving soon after the wedding. It can be seen as tacky to tell people where you are registered and what gifts you'd appreciate (and it is implied you would not appreciate other gifts).

2006-10-06 01:46:47 · answer #8 · answered by superchrisw 2 · 2 0

wow how ignorant are you. You never ask anyone for money at a wedding. A wedding is the celebration of two people coming together. No one is obligated to give you anything. If I were you I would not put your little note in your invitation or you will be looking like a real idiot to your guests.

2006-10-07 07:06:53 · answer #9 · answered by JAYNE C 4 · 0 0

I don't feel that asking for money, in any form, can be appropriate in a wedding invitation. Sorry, but even if it's a 'modern' thing to do, it's still tacky. I do understand what you're dealing with, though, and if you feel strongly about this, I would suggest:

The gift of your presence is all we desire. However, because we are relocating, if you also choose to honor us with a gift, a material one would be better replaced by a gift certificate or other such token. Thank you.

Do NOT forget the Thank You!

2006-10-05 23:16:26 · answer #10 · answered by Lisa G 3 · 1 2

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