There is a guy that I dated about 7 years ago. I was 23 and he was 27. We got along great and had a lot of fun. Though, he ended up breaking up with me when he found out the his job was transferring him. Since then, we kept in touch off and on...probably once a year I would say. It was usually him calling me. Usually on my birthday...he has always remembered my birthday. (???) During the last couple of years, he has started to call once every few months. As a matter of fact, he called last night. Always asking me if I am still single. Always telling me he was so stupid for breaking up with me. My question is what do guys mean when they call you up after many years and start saying things like this? I am TOTALLY over the break up and have come to consider him a friend. I am wondering if I should ask him if he is implying something. Should I? Or should I just stick to my guns and treat him like the friend that I have?
2006-10-05
15:53:59
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Oh...and yes, he is still single.
2006-10-05
15:55:03 ·
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It likely means he's had a taste of the world and is now having second (and perhaps even third) thoughts about the breakup.
In other words, he finally realized he foolishly passed up a good deal (you) and is perhaps now hoping for a second chance.
The question you have to answer yourself is whether you want to stick to your guns, as you put it, or open up the possibility of rekindling the romance.
If you chose the later, simply wait until he makes one of these comments and immediately reply that the two of you should get together to talk. Unless he is a total dummy, he'll put the two (his comment and your suggestion) together.
2006-10-05 16:10:01
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answered by Dwight S 3
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He has grown up and probably realized that you two were a great couple.... now that he is calling you more and always asking if you are still single, he is interested in getting back together. If you are over HIM (you said you were over the breakup) and want to keep it just as friends, let him know that you are doing great and value the fact that you've stayed friends.... and that is where it is going to stay. If he is wanting more and you are interested, let him do the talking.
2006-10-05 15:57:35
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answered by Anonymous
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well, i kinda had the same problem with an old friend. but, i think he's seeking for a relationship in you.
well, there are two things you could do.
1. ask him how he feels about you. &if he's looking at you as more than a friend, then you should decide if you want to stay friends or go back as a couple.
2. just stick to what you have now. &stay friends.
but right now, it seems like you wanna stay friends.
so just do whatever your heart tells you to do. i know it's corny, but it is true.
2006-10-05 15:58:32
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answered by ♥Jamie. 3
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sweetie it sounds to me as if homeboy is having regrets for leaving you the way he did and hes just keeping the door open so hopefully one day if you let him he could possibly get back with you he sounds as if he still has carried the torch of love for you all these years .....but if you are over him like you say give your self the benefit of the doubt ask him out but only as friends make sure he knows it and see if you have any feelings stirring and you can take the rest from there ok good luck.....E
2006-10-05 16:00:21
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answered by ellie_m1123 2
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well. i think its good that oyu guys have remained friends. but the fact he keeps telling you that he is regretful of his break up with oyu is most likely a sign that he still has feelings for you. remember you broke up becasue he was getting transferred right? not because he didnt like you anymore. just keep treating him as a friend. unless your single and you secretly do want him back. men always want what they cant have
2006-10-05 15:59:39
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answered by filippa_s2 1
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well what i would do is see if he has what it takes to ask you out or try to hook up even if he does live far he should be the one imlping something if he wants a relationship he needs to get no dont ask if he id implying something cuz we know he is so ya just next time he says something like that just be like ok or dont respond cuz if your over the break up then why would you want anything more then friends
2006-10-05 15:57:50
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answered by ♥♥livin_life_and_lovin_it♥♥ 2
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He misses you and knows he should have not broken it off because of the job.
The question that you have to ask yourself is was it good for you then and will it be now if you take him back. If the answer is yes then go for it.
Why let something that was a mistake be in the way of something good that can happen now.
2006-10-05 15:57:19
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answered by Biker 6
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do you still feel like friends everytime you you talk to him? if your totally over the break up then let him know that. if you wanna go back let him know. but remember people change, he may have been what you liked then, but not what you like now....i think you should keep it as friends, either way, talk about it and get it over with
2006-10-05 15:58:04
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answered by luciousbbwkitty 2
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It means he is either on the rebound after a breakup, or he has always regretted his breakup with you and has been kicking himself ever since. It can happen just like that. Good luck
2006-10-05 15:58:43
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answered by nicksriders 3
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stick to your guns!! guys do that when there feeling lonely or regretfull!!! if he wanted to imply something more by these more frequent phone calls and conversations than eventually he will come out and say it but if its not what he really wants. than he wont.. just treat him like the friend that you have been treating him and dont try and persue anything more unless you want to and he says its what he wants... afterall.. he did move away didnt he!!
2006-10-05 15:57:06
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answered by im just me.. 3
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