I made up my mind on who i wanted.I have noticed that every man that i have dated never told me how they felt about me or us being together.Sometimes i think that its because they dont care about me or us.But I have no clue at all.
2006-10-05 15:34:36 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You just havent found the right guy yet.....a guy that is mature enough to be in a relationship will KNOW that a woman needs to hear how you feel about them, they need this all the time.....its proven that women need to hear how much they are loved...just the same a guy in a relationship needs to feel respected! It says this right in the Bible.....men are to show love to a woman and a woman is supposed to respect there man!...It makes sence and it works!
Good Luck~
2006-10-05 15:38:42 · answer #1 · answered by jlp165 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my man is very quiet and shy but he still will talk to me but I think a man has to feel secure in the relationship before he will show his softer side most men do think it is not very macho to show emotion but they do have feelings and if they are not secure in the relationship they may hide there feelings and I know some times men just want to be left a lone when they are upset so they need a little space and understanding but when they are ready to talk just be there to listen and reassure them that it is OK to tell you how they feel and you will be able to get closer than any other woman in his life !!!!!!don't ask to many questions or fish for info that they are not ready to share when they are ready they will tell you!!!
my ex showed love to me by providing a food and shelter and he had a had time understanding I need more I can work and take of my self I wanted T.L.C. too and he had a hard time kissing me and holding me it was sex and that was about it no romance it was just what he wanted and never about what I wanted he would always yell if I did not do every thing he wanted done the way he wanted it and the kids too but I would ask him to do something and sometimes he would and sometimes there would be excuses why he did not get to it!!!! I was working most of the time too but useally only part time jobs and took care of the kids etc etc and I am so much better off now my new husband is the best he reallly is I even iron his closes sometimes I love doing things for him make breakfast ever morn and pack him a lunch and make him dinner and clean house and still work out side of the house but I love doing stuff for him I was i could do more evenand he sometimes dose his own ironing and laundry and stuff and he wants to always give me back rubs and stuiff always sayes he loves me and kisses me with real passion in the kisses ever time and hugs me he has to touch me ever time he walks by holds my hand when we watch t.v. he is the best!!! we have known each other 36 years but we are just like newly weds!!!!
2006-10-08 08:03:38 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs. Blue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We shut up because we have learned that the more we talk the more we get into trouble.
For example, if he says "I really enjoy being with you tonight," she will say "what, don't you enjoy being with me every night!" Or he might say that she has the sexiest behind in the world, and she will say "well, who is second place?" You get the picture.
Make no mistake, men can express their feelings. But those of us who have been around know that no matter what we say, she may try to use it against us. That's why we just smile and say "yes dear." Because we know that the little psycho ***** who lives within our sweetheart can rear her ugly head at a moments notice.
2006-10-05 15:45:33 · answer #3 · answered by eddygordo19 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are picking the wrong men. Men have trouble expressing themselves with words that is true but when they feel something strong they will tell you. If they are not telling you what you want to hear listen to what they are saying. If they love you they will show it and say it. If they are not sure, they will show it only and hold off on saying it. If they don't feel deeply for you ...they won't say or do anything but have sex with you (if you let him). Pay close attention. True love will take care of you unconditionally. Take care of yourself.
2006-10-05 15:42:13 · answer #4 · answered by BWILD & GODSDIVA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not that they don't care. It's mostly because guys have a hard time expressing there feelings. Us girls express to much, and were good at doing so. But guys are different it's not really there area of expertise, at least most of them any way.
But I'm sure if a guy really loved you he would tell you in his own way. I really believe that.
2006-10-05 15:41:43 · answer #5 · answered by Sarah j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think alot of it comes from them not beging shown how to show affection or talk about how they feel. the other reason has alot to do with pride! it use to bother me really bad but anymore i just say screw it and go on with life. there is no point in me wasting my life trying to figure out what their problem is! it's sad though, they are actually missing out! we probably wouldn't bi*ch at them half as much if we knew what was going on in their heads! then we'd all be happy!
2006-10-05 15:42:27 · answer #6 · answered by *~BETHY~* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men in todays society have been mislead into believing that showing thier feelings is a sign of weakness.
2006-10-05 17:59:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
men are men.. some are great at the feeling thing and some are not... well, ok, a lot are not... but as a woman , if it is important to you, to know how they feel, just ask .... that is the problem... we as women must learn to appraoch men on their level, they cant on ours, to female for them... just openly ask, keep it simple and to the point at first, take what they say at face value... they learn from us, so it will take time... God bless
2006-10-05 15:39:42 · answer #8 · answered by Annie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe he hasnt made his mind up who he wanted.i think you may be reading more into this than there is.
2006-10-05 15:38:50 · answer #9 · answered by greg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men don't often talk about their feelings. From early on, men are given the feeling that it's not "manly" to be open with their feelings.
2006-10-05 15:36:59 · answer #10 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋