4 more than 2 years.....whole day i talk with him....whole day i think abt him.......i m in so Much pain ....plz help me out....i was so Lonely then when i met a Guy On net....we exchanged Pics....n then we fall In Luv with each Other..he said More than 1000 times he luv me..........I Luved him alot More than My own Life...n after a Couple of Years i came 2 know she was a gal......n was teasing me....what should i do....the person whom i Luved the most even dont exist...i ll die!!!!! i feel so Much pain n i hv Dark circles Now due 2 Not sleeping at all.....i want 2 die
2006-10-05 15:24:12 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i m 18.....n i thank all of u people who helped me alot...rahul..pari...prince ...tja...bindu.....mr.yah.....thnx....n u wonderer...how can u blaim a person who has already in bad condition...how can u hurt a person who has already been hurt
2006-10-05 20:06:16 · update #1
i m so sorry 2 hear this....i m so depressed since i hv read ur question...Dont U think U deserve a Better Luv?u r a gud gal i can Judge from ur question...then y r u wasting Ur Time on a Sick joke.... 1st of all how can u fall in luv w/someone u never met....... words mean nothing if u can't put them w/a face and a body who's saying those things..... next time take the time out to meet the person.. get over it... bad judgement, now move on....
surely u ll meet a real guy and occupy your time so you dont think about it. that was a really mean joke to play........Your not is love. You were just bored. You cant fall in love with a photograph. Yes it was an evil thing for this girl to do. You need to get out and interact with people. Meet new friends........ Forget the internet..........
you made a mistake because of someone not being honest with you. It's not the end of the world for you. Take what happened and make it a lesson from which you learn about prospective people the next time. There are lots of insincere people out on the Internet and you need to learn to protect yourself. Just take this as lesson one in taking care of you. Keep your chin up.
YOU'LL GET OVER THIS IN A WHILE. YOU'LL ALSO GO THROUGH A STAGE THAT YOU HATE THE OTHER PERSON FOR DOING THIS TO YOU......Don't die its not that deep. you might have been in love then but you'll find love again. just remember that he doesnt exist, and next time remember not to believe anything until you see them. What you have is a emotional relationship with this person. But it is just like any other, they lied to you, they let you trust them and spit on your trust. Just think of all the other things they could have lied to you about. They made you fall in love with someone who does not exist. That is not fair to anyone. Pull yourself together and think about it realistically. I know it hurts but all pain goes away.. it may take a little while but it will go away, concentrate on the future now
you are really not in love.. you are only in love with the idea you made of her...move on...
get a life, you must move on
2006-10-05 15:40:37 · answer #1 · answered by pari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Mashal,
U are not the only person who has been fooled like this, there are many many more who have fallen prey and prey to such extents that they have travelled to other countries to supposedly meet their on-line BF/GF they befriended.
Yes it does really hurt but u have to get a grip of yourself and forget it or at least try and forget it just like u do a bad dream.
I don't know how young u are ? Such experiences are not new, men/women are know to get hurt with live people, this was only a virtual dream.
The net also has some positives, see how many nice people have answered back and have been nice to you and tried to help in their own way by comforting words and sincere advise.
Solution:
1. Get of the Net for some time.
2. Get some good real friends and socialise with them.
3. Try and find some one special of the opposite sex and become good friends or alternatively try and look for a real flesh and blood person around u in the neighbour hood/College/work place/social circle/church.
4. Think of the episode as a bad dream or a joke turned sour. With time u will get over.
5. But remember, don't get back and do the same thing with some one else, as a revenge people tend to do this a lot.
Good Luck and Smile please
2006-10-05 19:02:49 · answer #2 · answered by Rahul 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Net is tricky. How do i know u r also not playing a trick ? Simply to enjoy the sympathy of others.
Any way I rather take a positive view and trust u with all your problems. Now look at the whole thing from a different angle. U are an emotional person and u have so much of love inside u that u can fall in love with anyone - even with an imaginary person. But why blame yourself ? was it your fault ? nah! Then stop pitying yourself, get hold of your life , put on a fancy dress and go out and party. tomorrow will be a much brighter day.
All the best.
P. S. - If u feel like send me an email.
2006-10-05 18:49:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Im not sure how old you are and that really doesnt matter pain is pain at any age. Im 36 recently divorced and have two great boys 11 and 2 years old and i miss them dearly. I understand loneliness and how real the pain can feel. Some people are cruel in this world but the beautiful ones do exist (few they may be). Remember " the pain will subside and this to will pass. This experience although painfull will hopefully make you better prepared for tomorrow. Dont give your heart to readily and dont harden your heart either. This only proves that you are willing to be a kind and loving human being so keep loving and making this world sweeter cause your in it.
2006-10-05 15:41:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's sad and I understand how that would affect you but you shouldn't let an ******* like that ruin your life!! That is why I'm totally against online chat and dating services!! People can truly get hurt. Everyone goes through rough times and while this situation is a bit different, it's still equal to falling in love with a man and finding out he was cheating on you or he has a family in another state. I say don't look online anymore go out and have confidence in yourself and find a real man that will love you for you and not a screen name!!! Okay??? I hope you will find comfort in knowing that the pain won't last forever and you will find a man that deserves you and when that happens you will be on cloud nine and never float down!!!!!!
2006-10-05 15:26:55 · answer #5 · answered by EriksSweetheart 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Step AWAY from the computer. You need to get back to yourself and far far FAR away from the computer. The one thing about dating on line is that the internet is only a tool. Until there is some connection in reality you should not be putting so much into the internet.
It is time for YOU to get back to real life. You need to learn how to reconnect to the human race. Go work out... get out of deep dark depressing bedroom that only makes you want to turn on the computer. You will eventually feel better. If you let yourself die then that is kind of permanent... Sure it is embarrassing but EVERYONE has those days. You think you are the only one that has been fooled by someone on the internet? People LIE to each other on this thing EVERY DAY. And EVERY DAY somone out there is getting fooled.
Get back to yourself. Someone will come to you when you find yourself more attractive.
2006-10-05 16:07:27 · answer #6 · answered by Just another 2D character online 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh thats really sad.But you are not the first one to experience such a thing.It is easy to happen when you fall in luv thru net.Falling in luv with someone online is not bad.But u have to make sure that the person at the other end is a genuine guy.Before knowing someone completely, you cant love him.can u?So next time when you find some nice guy on the net do try to make sure he is genuine.Dont worry you will get over this problem after few days.Time will heal all wounds.Learn from your mistakes and move ahead.Afterall you shud not spoil your life for someone who never even existed.So stay happy and all the best
2006-10-05 15:36:54 · answer #7 · answered by Manu 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That is a truly harsh trick this person has pulled on you. I don't know what to tell you, I can only imagine the shock and pain you are going through. I can't believe there are such cruel people out there, whom have nothing better to do, then to poison other peoples heart, they must be unhappy in life and want to bring others down with them. My best advise is to try to move on, try to go out more, meet new guys, start fresh with yourself, give yourself a new look for a new self esteem. I am sorry for this.
2006-10-05 15:31:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Death is not the release you seek.Only more pain will come of death.hey say,"It is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all".Be happy in knowing that you can love because some people cannot.I think you will be fine if you can find a friend that understands.If responded to you like that I would have opted to meet you in person as soon as I knew you a little.Don't give up that easy ,the world is full of people that would not do that to you.When it gets hard,remember that the good feelings are still out there too.
2006-10-05 18:09:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
OK, now this is silly - you cannot love someone you cannot touch - love comes from interaction - otherwise someone is only your friend. A person on the internet that loves you for 2 years that you cannot see is a liar. Period. End of discussion. And better yet - if he/she lied about being a dude.. how do you know they arent lying about being a chick. Let it go.. move on.. and get a real guy - no more fantasy land.
2006-10-05 15:31:24 · answer #10 · answered by bigtruckjulie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋