I would love to be able to stay at home with my daughter and raise her, but I am not able to due to being a single mom and finances. I wonder if any other moms feel the same?
2006-10-05 15:08:09 · 17 answers · asked by Easter Bunny 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
See Im in the same boat, except I have it a lot harder. I am 19, SINGLE, and a mother of a 14 month old girl, and a 6 week old girl. I want more than anything to be a stay at home mom......obviously I cannot. I have trust issues with handing over my children to someone I hardly know just so that I can work for $5.50 an hour, most of which is going straight to daycare and gas money just to get back towork......it really doesn't make any sense. It's all a stupid cycle.....and people wonder why I'm on welfare......and just for all the assholes, before you say something hateful to me. My children's father was murdered in IRAQ in January, we were not married, so I have no bennefits, neither do our children.
So anyways, I wish I could stay home with my daughters and live on welfare, it seems like I should at least get that.
2006-10-05 15:23:46 · answer #1 · answered by AuroraBorealis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you can appreciate an answer from the oppisite position.I used to work ,alot.I absolutely LOVED my job! I am a cert med tech and worked with people who had schizophrenia,paranoid behavior,bipolar, and conditions like that.. some that didnt have anyone.No family or anybody that cared about them,except the employees like me that were there 70 hours a week.Two years ago,I gave that up to stay at home at that time,with my 5 year old and 1 year old daughters,now I have 3 girls,and expecting another in feb.Dont get me wrong,I love to be here everyday with my girls and raise them instead of a day care worker or someone I dont personally know,It is fulfilling,but there are times that I really miss the adult social conversations,and a world where I was just brandi,not mommy. I just miss it sometimes.My husband works 5 days a week,sometimes 6 days, at least 12 hours everyday.Just sometimes it gets lonely not having someone to converse with and talk to about how youre feeling I guess.I commend the women who want to stay with the kids and that do stay with the kids.I am one.I love being a stay at home mom, It just gets lonely sometimes,Its not all its cracked up to be,this job you cant ever clock out of ya know?the work is never done,and I know it isnt for amom that works outside the home either,I never seemed to catch up working outside the home full time. I give you great respect for your positions.You have a very busy life,and no matter what.. never enough time for your family. Heres to you! I have alot of appreciation that there are moms like you out there.
2006-10-05 22:29:30 · answer #2 · answered by luv2bawifenmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm married and have one boy, my husband is in the military, so obviously we don't make that much with just his paycheck (I use to be enlisted but got out b/c of baby) So I just got a job and it hurt the first day to leave my baby at daycare, but the people that take care of him are so great, and the facility is just awesome, and right there where I work that it really doesn't bother me anymore to drop him off and go to work.. Even though I know he doesn't understand me I always tell him why I have to work and that I'll miss him so much while I'm gone, and we need the money... He seems to enjoy it, and it has actually helped a lot, ever since we put him in daycare he seems to be more sociable and he can sleep on his back without having to be swaddled!! I am very happy of that!! But yea it hurts, but honestly when I was a stay at home Mom I went almost crazy being couped up in the house all day!! We couldn't go anywhere because we couldn't afford it!! Now we can actually do stuff together as a family and I am so much happier!!
2006-10-05 22:23:39 · answer #3 · answered by Me... 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I did it, and I'm a single mom too. I started my own business and I'm now able to be home when ever I want. I wish you all the best with your daughter. And realize that just because you are not at home doesn't mean you aren't a great mom.
2006-10-06 21:16:42 · answer #4 · answered by loveorlust06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I work because I want to, just b/c of my personality, BUT, I work at a job where I bring my daughter with me. I used to be a teacher, but, since I have my daughter, I now work as a nanny for a family that lets me keep my daughter with me. Best of both worlds. You could try to find a similar situation, or opening up your own daycare center, etc. Some larger companies have on-site daycare, so you could visit your child during the day. Others allow more flex-time and/or work at home options. It will depend on your background and education/experience, but, just try to find the best fit for you and your daughter. I don't know if you can work at any of these places, or if they're near you, but....
http://www.workingmother.com/web?service=vpage/77
There's a list of the top 100 companies for working moms. Good luck.
2006-10-05 22:35:38 · answer #5 · answered by katheek77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would love to stay home, but am not able to because I have never felt my husband was very stable at work. But I do not know anyone who wants to. I guess not many mom's want to be stay home mothers anymore. Times have changed I guess. I know there are some out there tho and I praise them.
2006-10-05 22:34:07 · answer #6 · answered by Babygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a married mother of 2. My husband works 40-65 hours a week, he has a pretty good job. But we can't make it unless I work also. I work 40 hours a week. One of my children are in kindergarten. I would love to stay home with them. But it isn't possible. It just makes me miss them even more when I am gone. The thing is when I did stay home for a couple of months with them I pretty much played with them all day and I didn't get much done with cleaning. So now when I get off work I clean pretty much until it's time for bed. But I do get 2 days off and one short day, so I do get to spend time with them. I think alot of moms probably would love to stay home with their kids!
2006-10-05 22:15:13 · answer #7 · answered by Love not hate 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had to work while my hubby was in school he played "mom" We agreed when he got out of school I could stay home while he got a job............I am still working, he has graduated and still looking for a job.........He cleans house and cooks which helps out. Now my kids are all grown now. And I probably will get a promotion at work soon and it will be difficult to quit. I stayed home with my kids until the last one started school (she was 7. ..........see it was hard to go to work) then I got a job............Now I just wish I had stayed home. But all those years I living out in the middle of now where and had no social contact with anyone except my kids for months it starts to gets to you..........I needed an outside life other than trapped at home with 4 kids. But if I had lived in town I would of been happy to stay home with my kids.
2006-10-06 21:36:03 · answer #8 · answered by krayzmom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't have any yet but want to stay part time home with the kids some day
2006-10-05 23:59:03 · answer #9 · answered by babylove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say, 95% of married moms could but chose not to. Children should have a parent at home with them, mom or dad.
Shame
Single moms usually have no choice.
2006-10-06 04:49:13 · answer #10 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋