*HOW* does my choice on who to marry have such an affect on you *PERONALLY* that you need to vote a ban against it?
The question is specifically asking about how my life has such a significant influence on yours that you feel a need to set a different standard for me, a gay woman who you don't know and most likely will never meet.
A couple up front points:
* Marriage is between two consenting adults. (Pedophilia and beastiality are violent acts, so pls don't go there and believe it a valid point.)
* Your faith might explain what you believe, but it does NOT explain how you are affected personally today. So, pls don't quote the Bible. (Besides the commandments and Christ's teachings trump any other obscure reference you may be inclined to misconstrue.)
Thanks for explaining because I really do not understand how my life can possibly be such a threat to you.
2006-10-05 15:06:46 · 23 answers · asked by Alex62 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
blaze - I can still have children and may very well have them. Btw, lots of straight couples choose not to have children so I'm not seeing any logic in your answer let alone how my life affects you.
2006-10-05 15:12:16 · update #1
Sorry, typo, peronally s/b personally.
2006-10-05 15:14:08 · update #2
Mr Answer - The vast majority of pedophiles are straight men who molest girls. Second, why do you as a Christain condone divorce and remarriage or any number of other commonly accepted and legal sins if as you claim Christians will condone no sins? You're are not making a remotely logical case, and you aren't explaining how my life is affecting you.
2006-10-05 15:18:04 · update #3
dmd - really, are you serious. Broadcast??? When you can be legally fired or denied housing simply because the boss or the bank found out something about your personal life, then we can talk.
2006-10-05 15:20:38 · update #4
flame baby - Explain to me why I should pay taxes for benefits only you get.
2006-10-05 15:23:11 · update #5
To be honest with you, I don't understand it either and I don't feel threatened. Best wishes to you.
2006-10-05 15:10:54 · answer #1 · answered by dave 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I have only random thoughts on this as you are almost right, you life does affect me:
1. Over 8000 years of not one city/country (place) on Earth letting this be considered "normal" activity.
2. I will have to explain your life to my son.
3. What you need is inheritance and property laws - not marriage.
4. What you need is Doctors and the legal world to acknowledge your rights as a couple. To be heard as right to life or death situations, raising children, signing contracts, etc. (similar to #3)
5. The majority will at this time, 2006, never accept "marriage" as a term for same sex partnerships.
Find a better term that does NOT rub religious peoples nose in your life style. The actual WORD - offends religious if Gays say it, so find a BETTER word?!? There must be a BETTER word.
6. The silent majority could care less about the minority of gays (numbers wise) - except that they are fed up with all the TV time, (the in your face attitude) and the fact that children are involved.
7 The flaming gays ruin any chance the normal gays have of TV time, acceptance in society, TOO out there for the silent majority.
Your life is NOT a threat - the threat is from the actions of "your side" and the "religious side" spilling over into hurting my "silent majority side". Basically please fight quieter, and not on TV. You both are too noisy and scary.
(AS A GROUP) You I really hope are happy with your partner, as I would be for any couple. My marriage failed after 11 years, as 50% of the marriages do - so in the back of your mind, don't dwell on this, but in 11 years will you be able to be living after a divorce, that's what I'm learning, it's harder than you think, because everything reminds you of your spouse! Plus she has our son, so I am doubly sad. (Oct. starts my depression till Jan 7th.)
These are my random thoughts.
2006-10-05 22:32:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
While I do not want to be misconstrued as a homophobe, I do think there are valid threats that religious institutions feel because of gay marriage. In Europe, there are cases right now of religious people who are threatened with jail time for disagreeing and speaking out against sexual relationships between the same sex. As America has been following the patterns of Europe, there is some potential legal risk for people who do not wish to sanction gay marriage in their institutions. Independent religious institutions should have the right to determine what they deem acceptable or unacceptable in their societies. This is an abbreviated version of this argument, but I believe it is a valid one.
On a side note, I have a couple of gay friends and do not wish this comment to be taken as a slight against you or the gay community. I hope that you will take it for what it is, but without offense.
2006-10-05 22:25:00 · answer #3 · answered by Pyebwa 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A very valid point, but consider this. Homosexuals are accused of living a promiscuous lifestyle, and yet are denied the legal union of marraige (i.e. taking vows to love and honor each other and only each other). It's sad that such a large segment of our population can be held to such a double standard.
2006-10-05 22:14:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You tell 'em girl! I'm not gay, but I would be proud to be your matron of honor. Love should be honored in all of its forms, and a gay family is as much a family as the Ozzie and Harriet variety. The world is changing in the direction of tolerance, but we need to give it a shove once in a while to keep it moving - let's heave-ho together!
Congrats on finding someone you want to marry - have you considered a trip to Canada? - no fuss about it there, and you can have a second ceremony in your home area once people come to their senses and realize that your love should be honored.
2006-10-05 23:44:03 · answer #5 · answered by Maple 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why do we need to explain. Your the one asking to change what has been accepted as normal for ever by every civilization. When there would be some who went the way of homosexuality it was always considered (strange). So you should answer why we should change marriage for you. And as to why, every study shows it doesn't work especially for families (not all I know but most) and as families are the bedrock of society you are undermine a very important part of the well being of all who live around you just so you can have what any thinking person must admit to abnormal sex . I love my father but I don't expect to change marriage laws over it.
2006-10-05 22:18:04 · answer #6 · answered by beek 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I basically don't care don't rub it in my face and it is your life What goes on behind closed doors.. as long as no-one gets hurt.... how many women are in a straight marriage and get beat daily???...Hummmm Now about God factor.. you'll have to ask Him and listen for the answer... Good Luck!!! I really mean it
2006-10-05 22:22:13 · answer #7 · answered by Andi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm with you 100%. this is why we need to try to deter people from religion., because religion is dangerous.
keep speaking up. it may not do you personally any good, but the kids 25 or 30 years down the road will thank you.
2006-10-05 22:14:04 · answer #8 · answered by tobykeogh 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really do not understand this mantrality in people.
I am an Ordained Minister and i feel that i should be able to preform a legal marriage ceramony for any 2 adults that i wish to. and that is permissible by my religion. as my religion premist this it should not be a law that i cannot do this.
a gay marriage ban is also affecting my freedom of religion.
2006-10-05 22:10:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Your choice affects me personally because of the choice you are making continues to feed the breakdown of the very foundation our world was created. It is against God to engage in a sexual relationship with a member of the same sex, so if it is against God then it is a sinful act. This idea of "tolerance" is pure nonsense. God commands us to love all people, He does not command us to support the very things He is against. So when society is "tolerant" of behavior that is sinful it becomes the "norm" to be sinful and is accepted by the masses because no one wants to be left out. As a Christian I too am left out just as you are for Christians face persecution daily. All that said, I live in this society with you and I do not want to live in a society that thinks and behaves in a way that is against God.
2006-10-05 22:18:50 · answer #10 · answered by jcholmes_99 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
The whole marriage concept is biblical and it is a constitution between a man and a woman. Most people dont give a **** what u do in your personal life either until u make a big *** federal case about it. why dont u just be happy with your "life partner" and shut the hell up
2006-10-05 22:12:48 · answer #11 · answered by Brandon B 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋