im in highschool and my boyfriend (now ex) and I have been going out since may. i was really busy over the summer with work, ap classes and my family vacation. id call him everyday, but we never went anywhere. the day school came back he hung out more, but we arent in any classes togethr, so its hard to talk besides lunch. on the night of a football game, he invited me the next day to see a movie, but i sed i couldn't because i already made plans that morning with my family friend from napa valley. suddenly, he blows up, yells and thank god for my friend jeff, or he wouldve hit me. what did i do wrong? i dont mean to be busy, and i always call...now im pretty sure were broken up and he HATES me....
2006-10-05 14:43:53 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no im not a bitc*...him being mental might be true though...i dont know what to do except ignore him
2006-10-05 14:51:16 · update #1
How many men does it take to change a light bulb?.....ONE, they just hold onto the bulb and let the world revolve around them.
What did you do wrong?....well, first of all, you got a life of your own. You made that dreadful mistake of thinking for yourself. Your second crucial error was loving your family more than any one else. The fatal blow came when you assumed he was secure in himself.
You did nothing wrong! After having 50 years experience as a self absorbed, self centered male.......I know a little of what I'm talking about.
Show him the door and remind him that the door to your heart is closed too! If he is like this now? What will he be like 5 years from now? Do you have 5 years to throw away? Do you have 10? Do you have another day you really want to live in the fear of his anger?......I didn't think so.
2006-10-05 14:52:59 · answer #1 · answered by Don B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-08-29 07:14:07 · answer #2 · answered by willsey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good! Let him hate you...he saved you an immediate future of becoming his punching bag for no good reason! You did nothing wrong at all...and, you should already know that. You need to be stronger and not so ready to think that you are wrong...otherwise, guys like HIM will see you as their doormat and prey on you!
Don't tolerate his disrespect or his anger...cut off all ties to this idiot, and consider yourself lucky for finding out about his anger management issues and abusive tendancies BEFORE you got hurt! If you are going to be that passive of a person in life...I think you may want to talk with someone, or look into some self help books now, while you're young...because, if you don't avoid the being manipulated so easily NOW...you can and will subject yourself to being someone's victim later in life!
2006-10-05 14:50:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you did nothing wrong. He is not mature enough to be in a relationship with anyone. You should not have to be any boys punching bag or doormat either. If he is acting in a violent manner toward you, you need to find someone else to be your boyfriend. These are the situations which go from bad to worse. I know a young woman who had a boyfriend who acted in a threatening manner toward her several times, and she had friends that would step in most of the time, then she ended up with a broken arm and ribs when no one was around to protect her. She kept going back to this abuser, as she "loved" him. She is now paralyzed and in a wheelchair for the rest of her life as he decided to try and kill her one night and ran her vehicle off of the road with his vehicle and her car went off of the road into a ravine and she has several spinal injuries. The best and safest thing for you to do is to stay away from this person, he has control and anger issues; and they are bound to get worse. You deserve to have a great and safe relationship with a man who will treat you with love and respect. Best of luck and have a good night.
2006-10-05 15:09:34 · answer #4 · answered by Sue F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you didn't do anything wrong...I promise you ..You did it right I promise..anyone that yells and tries to strike you or does strike you is not Worth being with..it may start with screaming and then a slap, then a punch, then a beating beating,then maybe go way to far and you end up a statistic..no matter how much you "love" him try to move on please..I have been in a domestic violence relationship and didn't get out until he fractured my 6 month old child...hes now 12 and happy and healthy but i punish myself every day for the pain i stayed through that eventually hurt him..good luck and stay safe
2006-10-05 14:52:35 · answer #5 · answered by Alli 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If was going to hit you why would you want him anyway
sound like you are asking if you id someething wrong to get hit NO
Don't ever let yourself get hit it can lead to much more than emotional hurt and you don't want that
You seem busy and love your life so HS is for having fun so take a chill and just be you...Wow som many years ahead why give to a guy who has a temper
2006-10-05 14:49:59 · answer #6 · answered by aaricka 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi. I don't care how frustrated he was about not seeing you, If his answer to missing you and wanting to be with you was to blow up in anger to where he was going to hit you, your better off without him. It would have been just a matter of time before he found some reason to hit you. A man can feel hurt because he misses the one that he loves but, he doesn't hurt the one that he loves because he misses them. Consider yourself lucky that you moved on. (At Least I Hope So...) That's just my opinion... Take care.
2006-10-05 15:00:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he was actually about to hit you, that means he has anger issues and lack of self control issues. Thats not your fault he's screwed up inside. First of all he's an ungrateful wretch, your not that busy. I've been seperated from my boyfriend for two years and its hard, and we love each other alot and i thought I was bad for getting mad at him when he does'nt call me for two or three days straight. Sounds like your boyfriend is a real jerk. You deserve better. oh and why are you the one that is always calling, why does'nt he call for once?
2006-10-05 14:51:09 · answer #8 · answered by wants to know today 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No do not take the abuse.. Once he begin to hit you, you have then gave him that open window that it's ok, to hit you if you do not stop it when it happens..
You are not a punching bag honey. And if you don't stop it now it will get worse and that can lead to death. If he hit you once he will do it again and again and again. Remember this one thing Love may hurt the heart but not the body
2006-10-05 15:14:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sure hope that you are broken up. You are heading down a road that is a deadend if you aren't. Growing up in an abusive house really sucks, and there is no way in hell that I would allow any man to threaten me. Leave him, if you haven't already. Get Out!
2006-10-05 14:48:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋