i went out for a year with this guy and our relationship was great, at the end we started to have problems so we decided to go our separate ways, about five months after that i started seeing this other guy who i am currently with, the raletionship is getting serious, he is even talking about marriage, but i think i still have feeling for my ex.. is this normal? will they disspear with time? should i ignore them or should i do something about it?
2006-10-05 14:41:12 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
totally normal but follow your heart it may be corny but it works trust me, if you want further details e-mail me
2006-10-05 14:43:30 · answer #1 · answered by mewantcoffee16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you may have been on the rebound from the ex, and then there is also the question, does the ex have feelings for you? I think I will always have some feelings for my first love, seems most people do, but if you know the relationship will never go anywhere then you have to move on, just be sure that when you do you are sure about your feeling's for the new guy. When in doubt, don't.
2006-10-05 14:46:09 · answer #2 · answered by preshus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of your current relationship until you figure out where you wanna be if you bring feelings for someone else into your new relationship things will never work out between you two and all you'll do is hurt him and he will not understand why you couldn't love him the way you loved the other guy! I've been in that same situation and I hurt a man who was a very good man but I wasn't ready to move on and carried those feelings around with me and I tried to ignore them until one day he asked me if there was someone else and I said yes, it broke his heart and every time I tried to explain to him what was up, then he just asked me why I couldn't love him the same way or at least as much as the past guy, I didn't have an answer for him!! Then I come to find out that really all I wanted was to patch up the unresolved issues we had and the unanswered questions finally answered but I still lost a very good man! I do have good news, I SAVED A BUNCH OF MONEY ON CAR INSURANCE BY SWITCHING TO GIECO LOL HAHAHAHA!!!!! No but seriously the good thing is that I then met my now fiance months after!!!! So please either stick with the guy and talk to your ex and get whatever unresolved issues you have out the way and move on with your life or just end it now with the new guy! Do him that one favor okay, Hun!?
2006-10-05 14:44:42 · answer #3 · answered by EriksSweetheart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may always have some little feelings there for your EX but if you are in another serious relationship then stick with that! Try to take you time about getting married and make sure you are able to let go. You are forgetting the seious problems that you had with your EX-think!
2006-10-05 14:49:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to checkout your values, beliefs,and morals because
at least give a relationship a year for marriage even if you have
a kid from another relationship or marriage even if you don't have
kids from another marriage or relationship and work the problems
out not just go from one man to the next. Every relationship has problems and struggles you just need to work as a team.
So Good Luck to you!
2006-10-05 15:01:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's quite possible to have strong feelings for more than one person at the same time. So lingering feelings for your ex shouldn't mean your feelings for the new guy aren't real or shouldn't be pursued. People almost never get over their first love, but most manage to move on in life quite well regardless.
2006-10-05 14:46:30 · answer #6 · answered by Grist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your normal you had relationship and memories come and go..
The new guy needs your attention now and I bet when you are with him you don't think much about the old guy
If you if you compare it is not fare to the new love
So give the old guy up and remember the good times for the good and make a whole new life with the choice you have now.
2006-10-05 14:46:04 · answer #7 · answered by aaricka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't get serious with anyone until you know for a fact that you are over your ex because you shouldn't lead someone on if you're feeling someone else. It's like playing with someone's heart, but on the other hand if you were really serious with your ex to the point that you loved him....you will never forget him because if you loved him you could never hate him or lose feelings for him..no matter what he has done to you.
2006-10-05 14:46:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
it sounds to me that you are in a rebound relationship but you know what..sometimes it works..i was in a rebound relationship right out of marriage and ended up with my love of my life and have been together for 9 years..you have to do what feels right to you and only you..but don't rush into marriage unless you know its real love and not just the fear of being alone
2006-10-05 14:46:06 · answer #9 · answered by Alli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 21:43:37 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is very common to still have feelings for an ex. Yes it is normal. They could very well disappear, but they might always be there. You have to follow your guy.
If you do not love this new guy. Please do not marry him. It just would not be right.
2006-10-05 14:44:57 · answer #11 · answered by Dwayne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋