Im really scared!(i know this is not about religon and spirituality but oh well)?

Question

this is beyond my control,
Im living with my dad and i used to live with my mom,and now all of the sudden my mom is calling,im afraid to talk to her!I do not know what will happen! She wrote me and my brother a letter saying "I hope to talk to you EVERYDAY" i can handle that I just want to ignore teh hole thing,if I talk to her it will just be to emotional for me ,I have night mares about her screaming at me!I dont know whether to talk to her or run away from the phone and deal with her when im 20 something!!!!!!!!!

sorry for the spelling my keybourd is screwwing up!

Answer 1

Talking to her on the phone is better than face to face. Every time your Mom screams unreasonably, just hang up.

Answer 2

Perhaps you could take some time before you talk to her and set some boundaries. For her and yourself. For yourself, ask yourself how you really feel, what you are afraid of, and what you can and cannot handle. Promise yourself that you won't let it get past that point, and know what you are going to do if it does.

For her, maybe tell her that you do want to hear from her, but you cannot allow her to yell at you. You will respect her if she respects you. You don't want to say 'goodbye' and hang up, but you will if she yells. What ever you decide, promise youself and prepare yourself that you will follow through.

Basically, you don't have to let your mother make all the rules. And if you just aren't ready to deal with her, just don't. You, your feelings, and your emotional well being are important. I hope you can find for yourself some peace in this situation.

Answer 3

Don't talk to her alone--even if you're on the phone have someone else there for emotional support--it also helps keep her more rational when she knows someone else is in the room while you're on the phone with her and the other person serves as a distraction too, and will keep you grounded in reality instead of flashing back and getting drawn into an emotional roller coaster

Answer 4

First of all, nothing is beyond your control - so banish that thought from your mind. I think that you should talk to your dad and let him know how you feel about takling to you mother. If speaking with her creates too much of an emotional stir for you then you need to get in touch with your emotions and truly understand how you feel. Once you do that you can better face your emotions and the fears that they can bring and more effectively deal with them. If you understand your emotions then you will have more confidence when you are in the situation of having to talk to your mother. The more confidence you have in yourself, the more control you will have of yourself and your emotions in any situation. Nothing is beyond your control, because control comes from within and is a state of mind.

Answer 5

I assume you live with your father because he has won the right in court. Which if this is true the court decided not to give custody to your mother for a very good reason. You probably have a good reason to fear her. Tell her you do not want to talk to her now or anytime in the future you are concentrating on living and having a life with your father. I also suspect you have not discussed this with your father. I think you should, and confide in him your fear. Fathers usually know best and this time he may. Good luck in the future. Dont be scared stand up and be counted say your piece and be firm.

Answer 6

You are a worthy person.

What your mother did to you was beyond your control and you simply can't control other people. However, how you handle yourself in the given situation is totally within your power.

"EVERYDAY" being capitalized here in your type seems to being you great stress.

You need to address the "fear of the unknown" with your mother. If you feel "EVERYDAY" is to emotional for you tell her once or twice a week and limit the time to what you are comfortable with.

Answer 7

Well I do not know how old you are,
But, I know my girl when I was raising her by myself, her dad would want to talk to her, she about felt the same way you do,
She would take the phone, and as her dad was talking she would say real sweet, Daddy, I love you, but now is not a good time for me. By...
He would get mad, but after a while he would ask me, will she talk to me.
Some times she would call him and just say, you know dad, I love you, but right now, you cant help me, you help me by staying back and letting me be me. I have things I am dealing with, but just wanted you to know I love you, and then she would hang up.
She never let him control the conversation, she pulled her weight, she was polite, yet she was to the point, I cant deal with this right now. But never stop telling your mom, You love her.
And just say, are you praying for me? I need your prayers, and if you know she is not, tell her to start.
Do not run from the phone, take it, confront it, and give it back to your dad. Let him deal with her, she is the adult.
But truth, is good. You know you just need time.
Let her know that.
Its not your fault your parents are not together, but you just be upfront. She will still love you, and she wont understand, but later she will respect you, for being truthful.

Answer 8

First of all, stop calling yourself a disciple of Satan.
Your mother obviously wants to get right with you, and evil
is giving you the false visions to cause trouble between you two, so you will not work with her.
If you didn't have much to do with her before. It shouldn't be
that hard if she falls out on you again.
But don't run her off with negativity. Like many do. Mistreating someone to chase them away, because they don't want to
get hurt, and then can justify it and say, see, I knew they
were no good.
Give her a chance.

Answer 9

Trust me. You want to face this down and deal with it as soon as possible. It sounds like you'll have the support of the rest of your family, so you know they got'yer back!! Doing it later in life will make it more difficult because you'll have time to let it stew inside (and so will your mom!). Tackle the problem now and you won't have to worry about it later!!! Been through it all before!!
Be good and good luck!

Answer 10

I don't know what she has done to you, but you must be protected if she is abusive. If that is what you are dealing with, talk to your Dad and let him know you don't wish to speak with her....
You have the absolute right to not talk with her. As a Christain, I have found 'Honor your mother and father' turned into you have to put up with the BS - and honey - you don't.